Debbiejo, try making sense. Hot tip of the day.
The only way the girl will be vastly traumatised is if, as VVD said, the adults surrounding her continually emphasis and exaggerate it's effect.
I nearly died as a child, it doesn't bother me now because my parents chose not to continually remind me of it.
-AC
Considering I'm not talking about the impact of tragedy but the impact of over-exaggerating parents, maybe you'd like to answer that.
As said previously, 3 years old is far too young to be having adult emotions (the fact that they aren't adults, but infants might have something to do with this). Your logic, or lack thereof, makes no sense.
-AC
How people around the person who was a victim of a tragedy acts impacts them as well, and at that age the girl is not going to fully understand what happened, nor will she really remember it as she gets older. If the people around her harp on it then it will cause more mental harm to her when she grows up.
Originally posted by Alpha Centauri
Debbiejo, try making sense. Hot tip of the day.The only way the girl will be vastly traumatised is if, as VVD said, the adults surrounding her continually emphasis and exaggerate it's effect.
I nearly died as a child, it doesn't bother me now because my parents chose not to continually remind me of it.
-AC
many cases of sexual assault are quite different AC.
Originally posted by PVS
many cases of sexual assault are quite different AC.
How likely is it that a 3 year old is going to grow up and have a traumatic life as a result of something she/he isn't even old enough to remember or connect feelings to?
How likely is it that, in the event of it having a traumatic life, the parents are responsible?
Answer to the first: Not likely.
Answer to second: Much more likely than the latter.
-AC
Originally posted by LanaWell lets hope. Though I have read that later issues come up from such tragedies. Fears, phobias.
How people around the person who was a victim of a tragedy acts impacts them as well, and at that age the girl is not going to fully understand what happened, nor will she really remember it as she gets older. If the people around her harp on it then it will cause more mental harm to her when she grows up.
Yes, and while it's disgusting that it happened, chances are that she doesn't understand exactly what happened, and between that and the fact that she will likely forget as she grows up, it's not going to have as much of a mental impact on her as it would if it happened to someone older.
One of my cousins, who is now 8, was molested when she was four years old, she barely remembers what happened, definitely didn't understand what was happening, and since her family didn't always remind her of it, she's growing up to be fine.
i think the parents will have to be incredibly strong, they have to try and get on with life as normal, and try to act like it never happened. hopefully, the little girl will be able to enjoy the fruits of grwonging up, and never be reminded or told of of this terrible act of perversion.
also pvs, even though sexual assault can be in many different ways, its still a dreadful thing to have gone through, and, if old enough to comphrehend, is a traumatic affair.
Originally posted by Alpha Centauri
How likely is it that a 3 year old is going to grow up and have a traumatic life as a result of something she/he isn't even old enough to remember or connect feelings to?
when i was 3 years old i spent many months bedridden after two weeks in the hospital. whether or not my life was in danger was of no concern to me, since i really had no concept of death. however, i remember a good deal of it. some memories quite vivid, however very fleeting. these are memories i retained on my own, with no suggestion. in my case, it was never traumatic in the least, since at the time i had no concept of life/death and not only that, but my operations were successful. so where's the trauma in a happy ending with no psychological torment. good deal
however, if he is cursed with the memory of what happened, sooner or later he will be able to comprehend what happened to him. you cant tell me that in this scenario he would be like "oh well, whats done is done...laadeedaa"
Originally posted by Syren
I can't understand how you're avoiding the fact she was sexually abused. No matter how old she is, and even if her parents don't decorate it as she gets older, it still remains that she was violated 😬
Yeah, nice deduction.
If she doesn't remember, how is it gonna ruin his life? People are missing that point. I can't understand THAT.
Everyone please note that point before being blinded and biased by the words "sexually" and "abused", also "child". Thanks.
Originally posted by debbiejo
It's my view. It could be tainted..Though at first I read to quickly and thought she died.....OK?
So are you going to bless us with your theory on how an infant will retain the experience in memory?
-AC
Originally posted by PVS
when i was 3 years old i spent many months bedridden after two weeks in the hospital. whether or not my life was in danger was of no concern to me, since i really had no concept of death. however, i remember a good deal of it. some memories quite vivid, however very fleeting. these are memories i retained on my own, with no suggestion. in my case, it was never traumatic in the least, since at the time i had no concept of life/death and not only that, but my operations were successful. so where's the trauma in a happy ending with no psychological torment. good deal
Well in your case it wasn't traumatic. So with the above case, all's for nought isn't it? With relevance to this thread.
Infact you proved my point. If your parents continued to stress it to you, things likely would have been different.
Originally posted by PVS
however, if she is cursed with the memory of what happened, sooner or later she will be able to comprehend what happened to her. you cant tell me that in this scenario she would be like "oh well, whats done is done...laadeedaa"
Yeah, but he's 3. You started with "If". Let's go back to my previous questions:
How likely is it that a 3 year old is going to grow up and have a traumatic life as a result of something she/he isn't even old enough to remember or connect feelings to?
How likely is it that, in the event of it having a traumatic life, the parents are responsible? Especially considering that there are no feelings connected with memory enough for the baby, now adult, to make connections.
(It's pretty obvious).
-AC