Storm' s Mindbenders, Thoughts of a Scatterbrain...

I can’ t really say accepting compliments with grace was a second nature. I generally felt like a fool afterwards. One might think it is simple to thank a person for a compliment, yet it is not a talent with which many of us are blessed.
The first obstacle is distinguishing between a compliment and flattery. You’ re wondering if the person complimenting you has any ulterior motive. Are they sincere and honest or do they turn into flattery which is usually received with negativity. The easy way out is to take all compliments at face value ✅
The second obstacle. If you take it with enthusiasm, you could be labelled as boasting, denying is discounting shrug
The third obstacle. Are you supposed to return a compliment? Automatically returning a compliment can appear suspiciously polite and insincere, while others see it as basic courtesy hmm

To compliment or not to compliment...

PS: Right now I' m in deep deep thought. Oh wait a second... no I' m not. I' m in a deep deep sleep.

Ceterum censeo OTF esse delendam.

Give it a conclusion.

😐 Intriguing..

Hmm... Philosophy forum perhaps?

You're very good at making threads... or is it just flattery?

Originally posted by Storm
I can’ t really say accepting compliments with grace was a second nature. I generally felt like a fool afterwards. One might think it is simple to thank a person for a compliment, yet it is not a talent with which many of us are blessed.
The first obstacle is distinguishing between a compliment and flattery. You’ re wondering if the person complimenting you has any ulterior motive. Are they sincere and honest or do they turn into flattery which is usually received with negativity. The easy way out is to take all compliments at face value ✅
The second obstacle. If you take it with enthusiasm, you could be labelled as boasting, denying is discounting shrug
The third obstacle. Are you supposed to return a compliment? Automatically returning a compliment can appear suspiciously polite and insincere, while others see it as basic courtesy hmm

To compliment or not to compliment...

PS: Right now I' m in deep deep thought. Oh wait a second... no I' m not. I' m in a deep deep sleep.

Ceterum censeo OTF esse delendam.

The key is honesty. If it's done with honesty then there is genuinely nothing to worry about. That said, you can't really prove to someone that you're being genuine.

-AC

I respond with a thank you 😊

Originally posted by Lord Magnus
Hmm... Philosophy forum perhaps?

You're very good at making threads... or is it just flattery?

*Smiles.* Thank you 😛

Ceterum censeo OTF esse delendam.

Thats very modestly shy of you Storm! 😛

AHHHH!

Originally posted by Raz
Thats very modestly shy of you Storm! 😛

Ceterum censeo OTF esse delendam.

Handcuffs! 😱

naughty

Ceterum censeo OTF esse delendam.

😂

I find I tend to get flustered when people compliment me 😮

I find it funny when it happens to me. Purely because if it's anyone I know but am not necessarily friends with, it seems like they're swallowing a bitter pill.

Otherwise I also just say thanks.

-AC

Originally posted by Raz
Handcuffs! 😱

Originally posted by Storm
I can’ t really say accepting compliments with grace was a second nature. I generally felt like a fool afterwards. One might think it is simple to thank a person for a compliment, yet it is not a talent with which many of us are blessed.
The first obstacle is distinguishing between a compliment and flattery. You’ re wondering if the person complimenting you has any ulterior motive. Are they sincere and honest or do they turn into flattery which is usually received with negativity. The easy way out is to take all compliments at face value ✅
The second obstacle. If you take it with enthusiasm, you could be labelled as boasting, denying is discounting shrug
The third obstacle. Are you supposed to return a compliment? Automatically returning a compliment can appear suspiciously polite and insincere, while others see it as basic courtesy hmm

To compliment or not to compliment...

PS: Right now I' m in deep deep thought. Oh wait a second... no I' m not. I' m in a deep deep sleep.

Ceterum censeo OTF esse delendam.

2) Of course you should be allowed to take it as long as you still know that improvement is always possible. What people might conclude out of it isn't anything to worry about until confronted.

3) A compliment because someone else gave you one? That's not the right thing to do.. even if you fear that they expect one in return.
Hence why it is probably better to not respond actually. 🏴‍☠️

But I generally think that you shouldn't compliment people too much as it can eventually lead to delusions of grandeur wich can lead to the kind of pride that allows people to take too big of risks or let's them trust too much in their opinion.
And this all can only lead to decrease the ability to learn and grow as a person.

Pretty negative conclusion, isn't it? 😄

Originally posted by Alpha Centauri
I find it funny when it happens to me. Purely because if it's anyone I know but am not necessarily friends with, it seems like they're swallowing a bitter pill.

Otherwise I also just say thanks.

-AC

I really shouldn't have quoted this post, because you're guaranteed to say something negative in response, but I have to defend those of us who are capable of complimenting objectively. If you deserve the compliment, personal preference doesn't come into it. A person may not like you, but they can appreciate your qualities.

Originally posted by Syren
I really shouldn't have quoted this post, because you're guaranteed to say something negative in response, but I have to defend those of us who are capable of complimenting objectively. If you deserve the compliment, personal preference doesn't come into it. A person may not like you, but they can appreciate your qualities.

Which was my point wasn't it? Yes. See this is exactly what I mean.

A) I was referring solely to me and my experiences with receiving compliments from those who dislike me. EG: Your vote for me followed by a remark about my "ego". Not people complimenting people in general.

B) I never said it's always impossible to compliment objectively.

How you seemingly missed the fact that I spoke purely from personal experience there, I'll never know. However, if you'd kindly read my posts, possibly a few times, before commenting...I'd be grateful.

-AC

I didn't miss the fact that you were commenting on personal experience. How do you fathom that? I also commented from experience, I have complimented you when I felt you credited it and I don't recall having to swallow a bitter pill in the process. I just wondered why you find it amusing when someone you don't get along with compliments you. If, as you said, you see it as them humbling themselves to you, then I think you're wrong. Objectively, of course. You are so predictable.

Originally posted by Syren
I didn't miss the fact that you were commenting on personal experience. How do you fathom that?

Here's how:

Originally posted by Syren
I really shouldn't have quoted this post, because you're guaranteed to say something negative in response, but I have to defend those of us who are capable of complimenting objectively. If you deserve the compliment, personal preference doesn't come into it. A person may not like you, but they can appreciate your qualities.

Your post is how. Defend those of US? Who? I'm speaking from personal experience. Who exactly did you have in mind? If you thought I included you, then yes it certainly SEEMS as though complimenting me is a bitter pill for you. I take this opinion (not stating it as fact) from how you tag something semi-negative about me on the end, everytime you compliment me. As if clarifying "But I don't like him...". Much like you did in the other thread earlier. As if appearing to have any remotely positive ideas of me is a sin.

You needn't reply in defense of anyone. You missed that I was speaking from personal experience because you tried to defend people I wasn't speaking about. If you knew I was speaking from experience, you'd not have replied as you did, logically. Makes no sense.

Originally posted by Syren
I also commented from experience, I have complimented you when I felt you credited it and I don't recall having to swallow a bitter pill in the process.

See this: "...then yes it certainly SEEMS as though complimenting me is a bitter pill for you. I take this opinion from how you tag on something semi-negative about me everytime you compliment me. As if clarifying "But I don't like him...". Much like you did in the other thread earlier."

Whether this is intended or not, you are giving off that impression. Be it consciously and denying it, or subconsciously and not realising.

Originally posted by Syren
I just wondered why you find it amusing when someone you don't get along with compliments you. If, as you said, you see it as them humbling themselves to you, then I think you're wrong. Objectively, of course. You are so predictable.

Predictable? Haha, I could probably script your KMC attitude. Moreover, I'm so predictable yet you ALWAYS either misunderstand or just straight up DON'T understand my posts. If you knew what was coming I'm sure you'd not have so much difficulty grasping my points. It's not rocket science. Anyway, the reason I find it funny is because I find it interesting how people's own egos work.

-AC