depends.... in time and place and why...
in my family the person cries at the knowledge at 1st being aware with family or alone. we dont cry at funerals or the after party. seeing as we celebrate his or her life/death.
party last a couple of days.
you can be depressed but you hide it, if you lose a girlfriend. crying over a relationship is retarded... you can be sad but crying is stupid.
seems our family response is deep seeded anger and plotting. 😐
normally i have done a great job at knowing when and where to allow my emotions take place, my home with the appropriate surrounding. never at work or in public.