Originally posted by Kaibs
Unfortunately now the saying " same shit different day " actually means something to me. Just women troubles ya know? But it sucks way worse than that because losing a girlfriend I can deal with, but at the same time I'm also losing one of my best friends, and that's what pisses me off most.
Cryptic....elaborate!
Originally posted by Bardock42
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Haha man. I don't wanna go into crazy detail, but I've talked about it with abormalbutsane a little bit, but anyways I just been having a lot of arguments, and trouble with my girlfriend. We're at the point where we just don't talk anymore, and when we do we just argue all the fcking time. She hasn't been feeling well, which I can relate to, but she treats me like shit when I try to be there for her. I want to kind of just go off on her, but at the same time I don't because I actually love her for some reason. SHe was there with me in the hospital, and after I got out making sure I was okay. So I know she cares about me, but right now she's showing a ****ed up way of showing that. I don't know I'm just not going to talk to her for a week or two I think. But at the same time while doing this I know I'm going to be going insane. So I'll probably be on here a lot to pass time hopefully haha. But in all seriousness it's stressful as ****.
Well we've been together like a year I guess, but we've been best friends practically for years now. Plus she's like the female version of me which I find great. We love the same things like sports, and music. Music being the most important thing. IDK it's just really ****ed up and complicated right now. And as of tonight she's treating me like absolute shit. I've snapped on her in the past sometimes but i've always apologized or had a good reason to.
I usually don't do so good with that. After a relationship ends with a girl I usually erase her from my life completely. My ex fiancee I have no idea where she is, what she's doing and I have absolutely no desire to know. And I was with her for 8 and half years. With the one I'm with now though it's at that point where we can't go back to just being friends. It's one of those all or nothing type deals. Know what I mean?
Originally posted by Kaibs
I usually don't do so good with that. After a relationship ends with a girl I usually erase her from my life completely. My ex fiancee I have no idea where she is, what she's doing and I have absolutely no desire to know. And I was with her for 8 and half years. With the one I'm with now though it's at that point where we can't go back to just being friends. It's one of those all or nothing type deals. Know what I mean?
In theory, yeah.
But that it seems to be just down to whether you want to continue a relationship with her or not.
Yeah pretty much in a nut shell, but obviously things are a bit more complicated. But the defining answer is yes. Of course I do. But I'm at the point where I want to just get it out of her whether she wants to or not. When I get pissed off about what's going on then she talks and we talk shit out, but it shouldn't take me to have to get to that point to have to do that kind of shit. IDK I just don't like losing people I care about, and I don't really truly care for many people.
Originally posted by Kaibs
Yeah pretty much in a nut shell, but obviously things are a bit more complicated. But the defining answer is yes. Of course I do. But I'm at the point where I want to just get it out of her whether she wants to or not. When I get pissed off about what's going on then she talks and we talk shit out, but it shouldn't take me to have to get to that point to have to do that kind of shit. IDK I just don't like losing people I care about, and I don't really truly care for many people.
Did you try to bring up your feelings in a conversation without being enraged?
Originally posted by Kaibs
Yeah man. All the time, but recently it generally just doesn't go anywhere. She tells me I have nothing to worry about and kind of drops it.
But it seems that you obviously have to worry about something, maybe not her falling out of love with you, but there's other worries. I guess it's hard sometimes to discuss feeling with people, especially people you know for a long time and have much history with.
Originally posted by Bardock42
But it seems that you obviously have to worry about something, maybe not her falling out of love with you, but there's other worries. I guess it's hard sometimes to discuss feeling with people, especially people you know for a long time and have much history with.
Yeah man... I just have no idea anymore. Sometimes I feel like she is just all together. It is hard to discuss shit with people you have a long history with so I agree with you there, she is younger than me, but that shouldn't really matter. I don't know. Just sucks cause if everything turns to shit, then it's going to suck trying to get all the good memories out of my mind and shit. You know like all the corny shit that makes you happy and glad that you're there.
Originally posted by Kaibs
Yeah man... I just have no idea anymore. Sometimes I feel like she is just all together. It is hard to discuss shit with people you have a long history with so I agree with you there, she is younger than me, but that shouldn't really matter. I don't know. Just sucks cause if everything turns to shit, then it's going to suck trying to get all the good memories out of my mind and shit. You know like all the corny shit that makes you happy and glad that you're there.
I think there should be some middle ground really. Not all perfect or all shit.
I hope so man. I know no relationship is perfect. I just want things to be alright with both sides, and just move the **** on. If that requires me just staying away for a while I'll do it. I asked her what it is she wants me to do, so we'll see. It's really lame having no power or say in the matter.