Originally posted by spidergrl
He's not in contact with anyone, he told me he was leaving ... not my fault that you didn't have someone like that in your life.
I didn't say I didn't, so don't go assuming super baylin was a one of a kind. I have people that are there for me when I need them. They're called friends and I met them outside cyber space.
Yeah he's got a good point spidergirl.People like Baylin who are nice to you like he was when he was here and then just leave without telling you and never bother to answer your pm's.Those kind of people are inconsiderate and if Baylin is indeed gone for good and never comes back then its best to forget him.I know its hard.Remember Advent Child? I know you remember her.she was special to me and I thought very highly of her.We used to constantly talk in pm's everyday for months when she was here.
But she did the same thing.She just left and never answered my pm's I sent her or stayed in touch with me or anything.Those kind of people you got to realise if they really did care about us like they claimed,they would have been considerate enough to stay in touch with us and let us know they were leaving.I know it 's hard.I went through that with Advent Child,but since he wasnt considerate enough to let you know he was leaving or stay in touch with you,you got to let him go and forget him.Thats all you can really do honey. 🙁
Originally posted by Mr Parker
Yeah he's got a good point spidergirl.People like Baylin who are nice to you like he was when he was here and then just leave without telling you and never bother to answer your pm's.Those kind of people are inconsiderate and if Baylin is indeed gone for good and never comes back then its best to forget him.I know its hard.Remember Advent Child? I know you remember her.she was special to me and I thought very highly of her.We used to constantly talk in pm's everyday for months when she was here.But she did the same thing.She just left and never answered my pm's I sent her or stayed in touch with me or anything.Those kind of people you got to realise if they really did care about us like they claimed,they would have been considerate enough to stay in touch with us and let us know they were leaving.I know it 's hard.I went through that with Advent Child,but since he wasnt considerate enough to let you know he was leaving or stay in touch with you,you got to let him go and forget him.
Well said 👆
Yea, I understand what you mean ... but on the other hand, sometimes you have to put 'number one' first. I mean, I left for 6 months and didn't stay in contact with anyone, and thats because I needed to get better emotionally, and I couldn't do that with my friends around worrying about me. I thought it was better to go away, and come back when I was well.
Originally posted by spidergrlI know what you mean there, I left twice, for about 5 or 6 months each time
Yea, I understand what you mean ... but on the other hand, sometimes you have to put 'number one' first. I mean, I left for 6 months and didn't stay in contact with anyone, and thats because I needed to get better emotionally, and I couldn't do that with my friends around worrying about me. I thought it was better to go away, and come back when I was well.
Exactly ... So you can't always judge someone for something they do, because the truth is you might not understand why exactly they're doing it ... you might think you know, but you might now totally know. And its not because they're a bad friend in not telling you whats going on, its normally because they want to protect you from that pain that will come from whatever reason. I mean, if I told most people I was going into hospital, for that 6 months, they would have been worried all along, and I wouldn't have been able to come on everyday and tell them how I was, and how everything was going, so I knew that I just had to go ... without a word, and hope that they would understand when I came back ...
yeah but what if the time span goes from months to years that they dont come back? can you still like the person when its evident after YEARS that their not coming back? Months I can understand but when it starts turning into years well then that person obviously isnt coming back and they really werent much of a friend to you.Its been about a year now since Advent Child left and since she still hasnt come back its looking like she didnt REALLY care about me or you spidergirl like she always claimed she did.She always told me she would like to meet me in real life and things like that and yet she wasnt considerate enough to stay in touch with me so like i did with advent,there comes a time when you just got to move on and forget that person.It took me a while to acknowledge thats what I was going to have to do with her but I finally did.