Ugh I'll just post it here...
Ex : Lee
Boyfriend : David
Ok.. so for the past few days, David & I have been talking rather heatedly. We talked about our future, studies, etc.
So one day, it turns out that he had to go to court as a witness to a crime a guy he knew committed. He admitted, he was pissed at that guy. And I wasn't really sure of what had happened, so when I asked him, he snapped at me.
I might be too sensitive, but yeah, it hurt.
Ever since then (three days ago), we've been having on & off chats. We don't even have stable conversations anymore. It's always a "Hey, how are you?" "Hello," etc.
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Lee, was my first boyfriend. I dumped after a 6 months relationship, because we lost communication for 3 of those months. But now, he's back. And he wants to try again. After 1 YEAR and a half. He's been around for a month now.
[David & I will have been together for 8 months this February 1st]
This is how our very 1st convo went:
Lee: So how's life?
Me: not so bad. you?
Lee: It's pretty quiet without you around.
Me: Oh.
[Awkward silence]
Lee: I missed you. I really did miss you.
Me: I missed you too bud.
Lee: You got a guy?
Me: Yeah.
[Another awkward silence]
Lee: Lily.. I really do miss you, and I want you back. I'm back now.
Me: Sorry Lee.. but no.
Lee: Ok.. well, I hope we can get back together someday.
I don't want to give up David.
But you know, for the past three days, I've been seeking comfort from Lee. I feel so wrong, and I know it's wrong. But then again, what if Lee doesn't have feelings for me? What if he just wants to have a girlfriend - bragging rights?
The times I had with David.. out of 100%, I had 92% great moments with him. With Lee, I had like 10% out of a 100% lol
But what I'm asking advice for, is about David. How can I tell him I feel like.. we're growing apart? I've talked to him quite a number of times, and he just.. gives a long explanation (or excuse) as to why.
And for Lee.. how can I tell him, I don't want to be in a relationship with him? I don't want to lead the guy on (if he hasn't had feelings for me already) and I definitely want to stop seeking comfort from Lee.
I feel like I'm cheating on David, but I don't mean to. I just have no one else to talk to.. paranoid
I really do hate myself sometimes.