Your abusers just want your respect?

Have you ever been in any kind of relationship in which the same person who is abusive is the same one desiring your respect or affirmation?

Is this like asking if little boys are mean to little girls on the playground, because they secretly like them?

Originally posted by Devil King
Is this like asking if little boys are mean to little girls on the playground, because they secretly like them?

Exactly like that.

Originally posted by Devil King
Is this like asking if little boys are mean to little girls on the playground, because they secretly like them?

It doesn't have to be a socially awkward crush in which a person is ashamed that they like/infatuated with a social no-no.

It could be in any situation, parental, teacher, coworker, classmate, friend, spouse, boy or girl friend, etc.

Originally posted by Czarina_Czarina
Have you ever been in any kind of relationship in which the same person who is abusive is the same one desiring your respect or affirmation?

I never get into relationships that are abusive.

Originally posted by Shakyamunison
I never get into relationships that are abusive.

If it's parental, how is that the child's fault. If it's a boss, how is that the coworker's fault.

Originally posted by Czarina_Czarina
If it's parental, how is that the child's fault. If it's a boss, how is that the coworker's fault.

If it's a parent? That parent does not deserve respect.

If my boss was being abusive, I would talk to his/her boss and if that didn't work, I would find a new job.

Originally posted by Czarina_Czarina
If it's parental, how is that the child's fault? If it's a boss, how is that the coworker's fault?

Fault is irrelevent. The more interesting subject is how the person being abused (or liked so much, they're hated) can use this to their own advantage.

Originally posted by Czarina_Czarina
Have you ever been in any kind of relationship in which the same person who is abusive is the same one desiring your respect or affirmation?

The lady doth protest too much.

Originally posted by Devil King
Fault is irrelevent. The more interesting subject is how the person being abused (or liked so much, they're hated) can use this to their own advantage.

if a person is liked so much that they are hated, what is that called, jealousy or envy? i don't think our entertainers overcome that issue.

What's the difference between jealousy and envy?

what issue?

There is no difference, jealousy and envy are one and the same.

Originally posted by Czarina_Czarina
if a person is liked so much that they are hated, ...

What? 😕 Can you give me an example?

Originally posted by Shakyamunison
What? 😕 Can you give me an example?

Well, I was expounding on D.K's comment....I've heard people say this before, loving to the point of hate, and I tried to think of how that could happen, and the only two emotions that motivate it is jealousy or envy, but you probably do you have a better way of describing it.

Originally posted by Devil King
Fault is irrelevent. The more interesting subject is how the person being abused (or liked so much, they're hated) can use this to their own advantage.

Originally posted by Czarina_Czarina
Well, I was expounding on D.K's comment....I've heard people say this before, loving to the point of hate, and I tried to think of how that could happen, and the only two emotions that motivate it is jealousy or envy, but you probably do you have a better way of describing it.

Then, in that case, I don't think they know what love or hate is.

Originally posted by Czarina_Czarina
Well, I was expounding on D.K's comment

It wasn't my comment. It was the basic point of your thread.

Maybe they love her, and they suffer because of it, so they in turn also hate the person?

Originally posted by Devil King
What's the difference between jealousy and envy?

what issue?

i think envy is an emotion that is motivated when someone doesn't want you to have or IMAGINE more, meaning they will get upset or envious about what you own or think.

i think jealousy is an emotion that is motivated when someone doesn't want you to have whatever it is you own, could be the image/mind or things, they will get jealous over your own THOUGHTS or deeds or possessions.

envy = someone upset that you have or APPEAR to have MORE then them = weight

jealousy = someone not wanting you to have what you own at all = try to create "without"/desolation/destitute

sorry this is so old, here's the old paradox:
remember the Greek paradox about envy and jealousy. both were able to bless each other. they are both people, but one is jealousy and the other is envy. and a genie walks across their path and tells them they can have a wish after crossing into a new world, but the first one in will end up blessing the one behind with double portions. so, they both argue but decide that envy goes in first. envy realizes that jealousy will own twice the amount and decides to pull out one eye. jealousy thinks he's getting double portions, but ends up blind, b/c jealousy was left with double of envy. jealousy blinded by envy.

I have never been in an abusive relationship. People that do that should be taken out and dealt with.