Originally posted by SelphieT
I'm just kind of scared that I'll lose it to a guy who I'll love, and I'll think he loves me, but after we do it, he'll be like that typical, "pff, I don't love you" kind of person, and just leave me, and I'll be some depressed wreck cause I lost my viriginity to a jerk..........ya know? mmm
Originally posted by Kelly_Bean
There are so many people who have had those exact thoughts or are having those exact thoughts but in all actuality you can't do anything about it honestly. If the guy's going to leave you, the guy's going to leave you. He's not a real man if he does though. You just need to, when you get in a relationship, get to know him, wait months and months into the relationship and see if he truly is sincere, and that's when you two can start to do things more seriously. Your chances of getting hurt are slimmer that way. And hey, even if you two break up later on, you may not even regret losing it to this guy in the first place! I don't regret losing mine to my ex when I was 16, and he and I ended on bad terms until we started coming around again down the road.
Everything will be fine. 🙂
Nice way of putting it! I'll have to whip my man into shape. I just don't want him to leave me just cause I won't sex him right away though. mmm
He'll just have to deal with it.
Originally posted by SelphieT
Nice way of putting it! I'll have to whip my man into shape. I just don't want him to leave me just cause I won't sex him right away though. mmmHe'll just have to deal with it.
My boyfriend actually gave me permission to cut off his balls if he ever hurt me, literally. NO EXAGGERATION. We talked about this quite a bit and he and I are completely serious about this, lol. He said I'll never have to cut his balls off anyway because he is never going to hurt me and if he does..*snip snip*. Make that pact with your next boyfriend, Ms. Selphie chickadee.
Originally posted by SelphieT
I'm just kind of scared that I'll lose it to a guy who I'll love, and I'll think he loves me, but after we do it, he'll be like that typical, "pff, I don't love you" kind of person, and just leave me, and I'll be some depressed wreck cause I lost my viriginity to a jerk..........ya know? mmm
yesss. i know.😛
to some people sex is meaningless and the loss of it they give far from a thought to. with me its quite the opposite which is why i've abstained and will do until i meet the man i love enough to want to spend the rest of my life with.😊
Originally posted by Kelly_Beanall men should be obligated to this type of pact.
My boyfriend actually gave me permission to cut off his balls if he ever hurt me, literally. NO EXAGGERATION. We talked about this quite a bit and he and I are completely serious about this, lol. He said I'll never have to cut his balls off anyway because he is never going to hurt me and if he does..*snip snip*. Make that pact with your next boyfriend, Ms. Selphie chickadee.
Originally posted by Rogue Jedi
all men should be obligated to this type of pact.
very true, RJ. it would cut down on the number of idiots hat thought they could do what they want whenever and never suffer any consequences.
anyway, to answer Selph's question, it doesn't necesarily have to change you. my first time, hell, i was the same after it happened. immature. but that's because i did so out of spite. (my parents REALLY hated her a lot...) follow your conscience, and make sure it's the right person. because, as someone has already stated (forgot who, but credit goes to them for this. i'm too lazy to back through 8 pages to find it...) it's something you can never take back once you've done it. and you don't want to look back on your first time and think: "Damn... I wish I'd waited for the right one to come along..."
'Nuff said.