Originally posted by Zeal Ex Nihilo
The true signs of homosexuality--not having sex with men, but out-womyning the womyns.
Nope.
Beyond assuming you don't really know very many homosexuals, the point is clearly that men are better ai it because they're men.
(dimiss the fact that the article implies that two women were the happiest)
This past weekend while driving to my lady friends home, she was taken aback when I said (in accordance with our discussion we were having on gayness, that she brought up) that gay men act like women and she said that, that is completely untrue. (also I'm not anti-gay, I believe they should have rights. I don't agree with their lifestyle but I'm also not on a mission to end it either. A man's gayness is his business, and not mine.)
And she asked me if i thought she acted like a gay man. I said no. My thought changed after that. So what do gays act like? Just .."gay"?
I know gay men are fond of men like woman are and some act effeminat, as women do, so that's what made me think they act like women. But my lady friend disagrees. I'm confused by the whole thing actually.
So someone tell me. What can a straight guy like me learn from gay (behavior/attitude?) with regards to acting womanly or just acting gay?
Originally posted by bob4444
Oh, so that makes me a homosexual..
Right, that make sense, just because my favorite characters are male, that automatically makes me gay.
i dont know...i just find it funny that you're never inspired to draw women. i mean, ive known gay artists who love to draw women, yet you seem to just want to draw muscle men...big buff muscle men...mmmmmmmmmm yummy, huh?
Originally posted by FistOfThe North
This past weekend while driving to my lady friends home, she was taken aback when I said (in accordance with our discussion we were having on gayness, that she brought up) that gay men act like women and she said that, that is completely untrue. (also I'm not anti-gay, I believe they should have rights. I don't agree with their lifestyle but I'm also not on a mission to end it either. A man's gayness is his business, and not mine.)And she asked me if i thought she acted like a gay man. I said no. My thought changed after that. So what do gays act like? Just .."gay"?
I know gay men are fond of men like woman are and some act effeminat, as women do, so that's what made me think they act like women. But my lady friend disagrees. I'm confused by the whole thing actually.
So someone tell me. What can a straight guy like me learn from gay (behavior/attitude?) with regards to acting womanly or just acting gay?
So, what, you're assuming gay men sit down to pee? What does a woman act like? Emotional? I think that's human. What you're really addressing is the fact that those people you've encountered in your life that act "gay" are effeminate men, who bounce around singing Madonna songs out loud to themselves and drooling over tight tee shirts and large bicepts. And one can't really blame you, since the media portrays all homosexuals like they're Carson Cressley. Well, this simply isn't the case. The media portrays the majority of their black characters as ghetto gangsta, gun toting, waiting to be tackled by the cops, looking for a fix, mocking the white man, toilet bugs, and this seems to bother you. Well, I have never subscribed to either. But asking ''what can I learn from a gay guy about being gay?", as though there are immutable truths to being gay, is in itself a clear demonstration that you don't want to know anything about or from a gay man.
There are more gay people in your life than you realize, they just don't fullfill this pissing out their ass stereotype you have in your mind, so they go unnoticed. The truly frustrating part is that you hold on to this stereotype, while resenting others in teh world for having a stereotype about black people. (regardless of the fact that you seem to want them to have one so you have something to ***** about)
As for what you'll learn from gay people, I have a hard time believing you want to learn anything from a gay guy. But what you can learn from this one, if you're really interested, is that you likely don't really know very much about them. You need to toss out your old concepts and stereotypes about gay men, which is really all you are talking about when you say "gay". You don't count gay women in this assumption. Go out and really get to know a gay guy. Listen when he speaks, but don't listen with the bias you've had your whole life. Listen to him like you would a friend that isn't gay.
But one stereotype I have found that holds true, is that black guys, as a whole, seem to be so insecure in their masculinity that they've decided to condemn gay men across the board. Rappers, thugs, teenagers, old black guys, the homeless, all of them, as a segment of society, can agree they don't like or respect homosexuals...and your girlfriend seems to be smart enough to realize this about you.