sithsaber408
Intelligently Designed
Originally posted by BigRed
That's a very good question.I'd assume it's the same age when for instance, the child can say what parent they want to be with in the case of a divorce in court. I'm not sure what that age is, but whatever age it is when you as a child, can make a clear decision based on what you want.
It varies from state to state, but the most common answer I found was 12.
Aye, but kids often don't know what they really want. The 12 year old could choose one parent (in the divorce court example) and then feel differently a few months down the road when daddy's house isn't any better than mommy's. Sure he gets to watch more TV than she'd let him, but then he has to do more chores. Or whatever. Then he decides to switch back, it's painful for everybody, and the fact is that he was given a choice that he wasn't mature enough to make anyway.
Originally posted by Devil King
I'm not talking about the age where they become responsible for their own actions, I'm talking about the irrelevant-to-age concept that children don't have to be what their parents want them to be. Which, typically, means little mental clones of the parents who think and act exactly the way the parent does.So, at what point does the interest of a well-rounded and open minded person outweigh parental ownership and indoctrination?
It's still 18.
I'm gonna put something out here, and it won't go over well, but it's the truth: Kids aren't equal.
They are people sure, with thoughts and hopes and dreams, and should be allowed to express themselves, but once they've been heard and if the parents want different..... that's it. They obey.
(I'm of course Not talking about illegal, harmful, or dangerous activities or habits, so don't go there with that strawman.)
I tell the youth group I lead that all the time: I love you guys but you're not equal.
You're still learning. You're still in development, forming mindsets and attitudes, along with your personal standards and ideals which are still being forged, and coupled with raging hormones and changing physicality, sexuality, and identity, your not in any place to say what's best for you.
Those that are older, wiser, and have lived life are.
You may be smart, may have tons of knowledge, but there is a difference between knowledge and wisdom. (knowing how to apply said knowledge in real life situations, due to experience)
And religion doesn't count either. It's like anything else: advice not to use credit cards or drink and drive. The kid can hear it, know it's what the parents think, and after turning 18 then chooses whether or not they will go along with that line of thinking. But the parents still have every right to teach those ideas to the kids, as long as they are not illegal and harmful. (and I mean things that are legally defined as such, not your "opinion" that religion can be harmful.)
*braces for flaming*