Originally posted by ImpedimentThat's bullshit though. I understand that you don't want to be critiziced and I agree with you that disciplining a child is a viable way of parenting, but this elitism is just bullshit. If you can't explain something unless this and that happened, it's likely not true. If you have arguments applying to everything and everyone I am sure chill will listen.
And what the hell would I be teaching my child if I didn't discipline her? I do not, nor have I ever, used "violence" on my child. It really pisses me off when people, especially those who are not parents, criticize other parents on their tactics as if they, themselves, know how to raise a child.You can offer me advice when you are a parent. Until then, save your inane comments.
Originally posted by Impediment
And what the hell would I be teaching my child if I didn't discipline her? I do not, nor have I ever, used "violence" on my child. It really pisses me off when people, especially those who are not parents, criticize other parents on their tactics as if they, themselves, know how to raise a child.You can offer me advice when you are a parent. Until then, save your inane comments.
I was a child, and I was never once ''spanked''.
I'm not criticising you, you have every right to do it, I'm just voicing my opinion. I also know how I would raise a child and what I would and wouldn't do, I'm sure you'd have no problem with me taking your side of this rather tired debate, despite the fact I'm not a father.
Originally posted by Bardock42
That's bullshit though. I understand that you don't want to be critiziced and I agree with you that disciplining a child is a viable way of parenting, but this elitism is just bullshit. If you can't explain something unless this and that happened, it's likely not true. If you have arguments applying to everything and everyone I am sure chill will listen.
Fair enough. I just get really offended when people call it "violence". I disagree with that logic.
Originally posted by Impediment
Guaranteed 9 times out of 10, a good swat on the ass will work better than a "time out". It's also important, however, to explain to your child why they were punished and make sure that they understand.
What will happen when they get into some beef with another kid at school? Will the other kid tell them to go sit in a corner and think about what they did? No, the other kid's gonna try to beat his/her ass.
Originally posted by Phucked Up
What will happen when they get into some beef with another kid at school? Will the other kid tell them to go sit in a corner and think about what they did? No, the other kid's gonna try to beat his/her ass.
You want your kid to learn to respond violently to antagonism, through you beating them?
As a child in elementary school, my mom and dad gave all of my teachers full permission to swat me on the behind if I ever got out of line. If, in fact, my teacher did swat me, my parents would be informed of the incident and then I would be swatted at home again. My mom and dad always explained to me why I was swatted and how to avoid it happening again in the future. Not that I listened much. 😛
Originally posted by ImpedimentThat I kinda find wrong.
As a child in elementary school, my mom and dad gave all of my teachers full permission to swat me on the behind if I ever got out of line. If, in fact, my teacher did swat me, my parents would be informed of the incident and then I would be swatted at home again. My mom and dad always explained to me why I was swatted and how to avoid it happening again in the future. Not that I listened much. 😛
Originally posted by chillmeistergen
You want your kid to learn to respond violently to antagonism, through you beating them?
Once again, you're associating discipline with violence.
A swat on the behind and a discussion afterwards is discipline.
Beating your child with a leather belt and then keeping them out of school for 4 days until the bruises heal is child abuse.
If you merely explain to your child, "Don't jump on the bed or you'll fall off and hurt your head" 5 times or more, and do nothing else, what will happen? The child will fall off of the bed, hurt their head, or worse, and have to have medical attention.
If you tell your child more than twice to stop jumping on the bed, and then swat their behind, I guarantee you they wont do it again. You do it for their safety.
Originally posted by ImpedimentActually in this case it was Ken, I'd say. He implied that spanking your child will prepare them for being beaten up by school bullies. Maybe I misunderstood the implications though.
Once again, you're associating discipline with violence.A swat on the behind and a discussion afterwards is discipline.
Beating your child with a leather belt and then keeping them out of school for 4 days until the bruises heal is child abuse.
If you merely explain to your child, "Don't jump on the bed or you'll fall off and hurt your head" 5 times or more, and do nothing else, what will happen? The child will fall off of the bed, hurt their head, or worse, and have to have medical attention.
If you tell your child more than twice to stop jumping on the bed, and then swat their behind, I guarantee you they wont do it again. You do it for their safety.
Originally posted by Impediment
Once again, you're associating discipline with violence.A swat on the behind and a discussion afterwards is discipline.
Beating your child with a leather belt and then keeping them out of school for 4 days until the bruises heal is child abuse.
If you merely explain to your child, "Don't jump on the bed or you'll fall off and hurt your head" 5 times or more, and do nothing else, what will happen? The child will fall off of the bed, hurt their head, or worse, and have to have medical attention.
If you tell your child more than twice to stop jumping on the bed, and then swat their behind, I guarantee you they wont do it again. You do it for their safety.
Did you take into account the post I replied to, at all? Or, do you just think that every post I type is directed specifically at your personal parenting techniques?