My god.
I used to get picked on at school and the teachers always told me to get out of there way and there will be no trouble
The person who is ready to stop pestering the other is the better man and yes. RJ has done things and i bet he isnt proud of them.
You don't have to remind him about it no matter how long ago it was just to prove that you are the "better man"
I'm not saying either of you are better than the other.
It's just that you don't have to go cocking your tail in the air to prove it.