Would you date...

Started by Rogue Jedi3 pages

haermm OH man...........crylaugh

What?

I don't see what's so funny...

It's true. If I fathered a kid, I would stick by no matter what.

Now, should the female want to leave her boyfriend after she found out she was pregnant, then that's up to her and a completely different story.

I feel the exact same way you do. I wouldn't feel right at all knowing that someone is doing everything for my child that I should be doing.

To be fair, plenty of mothers are at fault for never even informing the father of the pregnancy.

Originally posted by Scythe
I don't see what's so funny...

It's true. If I fathered a kid, I would stick by no matter what.

Now, should the female want to leave her boyfriend after she found out she was pregnant, then that's up to her and a completely different story.

So if she was a total b*tch you'd stay with her no matter what? Or are you saying stick by as in if you two did break up you'd still look after the kid?

I'm quite sure he means the latter as no one wants to be in a relationship that's going nowhere, but some still will do the best for the child.

Thats actually the worst thing you can do if the relationship is dead, child or no child. If the guy/girl decides to stay together despite the relationship being shitty for the child's sake, imagine the dysfunction.

Originally posted by Rogue Jedi
Thats actually the worst thing you can do if the relationship is dead, child or no child. If the guy/girl decides to stay together despite the relationship being shitty for the child's sake, imagine the dysfunction.

You are correct, sir. Many people don't realize that the child/ren could be caused more emotional trauma through their parents frictional marriage. It is true that children who are raised with a father and a mother are much more successful in pretty much all facets of measured success (less trouble, better grades, make more money, more likely to graduate highschool, etc.) But I'd like to see data on those children who grew up in a home where their parents were constantly at each other's throats. I'm quite sure the children would end up with more severe emotional problems or the children would have lower measures of success relative to being raised in a single parent home.

As for the thread topic:

It takes a charitable and kind man to marry a woman with children and love those children as if they were his own without even a shadow of doubt.

My father did that. 😐 My mother had three children when he married her. I can say with surety that he loves all his children equally.

My wife had a son when I met her. I must say that I love my boy more than my own daughter. (Yes, I play favorites, bitches. So what.)

And my brother is quite serious with a lady who has two children. Based on our conversations, I can tell that those two boys have grown on him. He cares about them very much.

Getting into a relationship when the other has children can be very messy. My brother has a VERY big uphill battle with his girlfriend's ex and the custody of the children. It is going to be a horrendous ordeal. All I can say on entering relationships with preexisting children is: caveat emptor.

No and no.

Re: Would you date...

Originally posted by steverules_2
Someone who was pregnant or had kids?

It is not something that I have ever given a lot of thought to, but I do not see any reason why I wouldn’t.

Originally posted by dadudemon
You are correct, sir. Many people don't realize that the child/ren could be caused more emotional trauma through their parents frictional marriage. It is true that children who are raised with a father and a mother are much more successful in pretty much all facets of measured success (less trouble, better grades, make more money, more likely to graduate highschool, etc.) But I'd like to see data on those children who grew up in a home where their parents were constantly at each other's throats. I'm quite sure the children would end up with more severe emotional problems or the children would have lower measures of success relative to being raised in a single parent home.

As for the thread topic:

It takes a charitable and kind man to marry a woman with children and love those children as if they were his own without even a shadow of doubt.

My father did that. 😐 My mother had three children when he married her. I can say with surety that he loves all his children equally.

My wife had a son when I met her. I must say that I love my boy more than my own daughter. (Yes, I play favorites, bitches. So what.)

And my brother is quite serious with a lady who has two children. Based on our conversations, I can tell that those two boys have grown on him. He cares about them very much.

Getting into a relationship when the other has children can be very messy. My brother has a VERY big uphill battle with his girlfriend's ex and the custody of the children. It is going to be a horrendous ordeal. All I can say on entering relationships with preexisting children is: caveat emptor.

I was half awake when I read this, I was like wtf is a child/ren, wuuuuuuuuuuut? 😆