6 Tips For Dating While You're Unemployed[...]
2. Avoid Conversation Killers
There are three common questions that come up when you’re getting to know someone new. They are:
What do you do for a living?
How old are you?
Where are you from?
These questions are major conversation killers, according to LoDolce. “It’s boring conversation,” he said. “If you’re unemployed, work on deflecting these questions and making fun conversation. Have fun.” So, what do you ask instead? Here are a few conversation starters to try:
What’s your dream job?
What are your hobbies?
What are some places you’d like to visit?
Hey Steven,I've been unemployed for over a month now and it's taken a toll on my self-confidence, especially when it comes to talking to women. The "what do you do?" question always comes up and I hate telling women I'm out of work. I feel like it's a big turnoff. How do you think I should handle dating while I'm unemployed?
Thanks,
BrianHi Brian,
Without a doubt, this is the No.1 thing that women expect when meeting someone: gainful employment. If you find yourself in a position where a woman wants to get to know you better, own up to your current situation and let her in on your plans. Don’t focus on how you lost your job. You must make the best of a bad situation. With that said, don’t embellish or make excuses. That will only make matters worse. The most important thing to do is to put a positive spin on things. Tell her that you are currently exploring your options and want to be sure that the next position you take is one that challenges you, motivates you and satisfies you. Having a plan is always attractive so be sure to let her know what you are doing to secure your next opportunity. Whether it’s going back to school, tapping into your network, working with a recruiter or going into another line of work altogether, just remember, above all else, to be honest and to be confident. Good luck!
https://www.businessnewsdaily.com/2753-dating-unemployed-men-women.html
75 Percent of Women Say They Won't Date Unemployed MenWhile losing your job may be a devastating blow to your career aspirations, it may be an even bigger blow to your personal life, according to new research conducted by a dating service. A significant majority of women said they would not date a man who was unemployed. Just one-third of men said they would date an unemployed woman.
Overall, 75 percent of women said they would be unlikely to date an unemployed man, with 33 percent saying no outright. Another 42 percent of women answered maybe when asked about the possibility of dating an unemployed man. That answer, however, came with the stipulation that those women would not want to spend a lot of time in the relationship if the man did not have a plan in place. Just 21 percent of women said they would date an unemployed man.
Women, however, insist their feelings are not solely based on money. Rather, respondents said they were interested in dating someone who is engaged in an activity. Respondents felt that work was a beneficial activity for men to participate in.
Tell them you’re a consultant…then quickly change the subject before they can ask questions.
It sounds exciting and cutting-edge enough that they won’t ask you to explain it right away for fear of looking uncool.Say you have a trust fund
But follow up by saying that your money hasn’t spoiled you, in fact, it’s given you more time for volunteer and charity work.Or just tell them you’re doing volunteer and charity work
– while you’re between jobs. Better yet, actually do that.Pretend to be royalty in another country
Tell them you’re investing in ‘new technologies’
Say a figure came to you in a lucid dream and told you not to participate in the capitalist system for a while
Say you’re writing the next Great American Novel
Tell them you’re ‘off the grid’
Or, you could just be honest
Tell them the truth! That you’re sending out resumes and looking for the next role that’ll fulfill and pay the bills**. We’ve all been there. Honesty is the basis of any good relationship anyway, right?
**but in this case that wouldn't be the truth 🙁
You know that asking someone what he or she does for a living is a surefire conversation starter. Unlike commiserating over the weather or complimenting someone on her necklace, “So, what do you do?” lends itself to follow-up questions that can keep a conversation going.
That is, of course, when both people are gainfully employed.
Responding to this common question can feel uncomfortable if you’ve recently quit or lost your job, and your response begins, “Well I used to…” or, “Well I’m looking…” But there’s no reason you should have to feel bad or give an awkward answer. Come prepared with a stellar response, and you’ll impress new professional and social contacts with your poise in light of an (unintentionally) tough question.