Dominant women only attract submissive men?!

Hey guys,

My friends and I are all assertive women. We all have solid careers and are independant and love having a great time. And all of us are also single. We can never seem to find guys who are strong enough to handle us.

At first I thought this was the whole 'metrosexual' revolution and all guys had become pussys, but perhaps the strong men just don't want to date strong women?? This sucks!

I can't tell you how many times I've met a cool guy then dumped him 2 months down the track because he failed to turn things around and take control. I guess I am hoping that when we first meet he is entertained by my straightforwardness but is secretly holding the reigns. I am constantly surprised when I turn out to be the major decision maker. It's such a turn off!

I come across as strong but like most women I want to feel secure and protected and sometimes that means taking a back seat. Is there any way to find a guy willing to fill that strong role without having to put on the dumb act??

Any insights?

men have become pussies.

i should know, im a man.
a real he-man, who does laundry for a living and cant grow a beard.

Hey there 131

I'm perfectly accepting of a woman who wants to run day-to-day operations. I do not have the patience nor the time to care about how vacations or date-nights are planned out.

However, I like to take care of the bills, our long term plans (such as housing and pirmary income source), retirement, and education.

In order for most relationships to work, both parties have to actively work at the relationship and cooperate with each other.

You will find that a bull-headed man may treat other men, agressively, but really does not care if a woman gets the better of him...like me. In fact, I think it's cute when a woman gets jealous and tries to control her man. At least she cares/loves about him enough to think someone will steal him away. 🙂 Most guys hate that, but it doesn't bother me even a little.

Also, if what I take from your post is correct, you are not dating motivated men: you are dating bums that look like they are going to remain as waiters or bar-tenders the rest of their lives. Maybe the problem isn't the men but the person selecting them? 🙂 If you want a motivated man, you need to look for one currently attending university or already working at their life's chosen vocation.

Originally posted by dadudemon

Also, if what I take from your post is correct, you are not dating motivated men: you are dating bums that look like they are going to remain as waiters or bar-tenders the rest of their lives.

hey man, tending bar aint easy man, you've gotta get drinks... take tips...

...

its hard stuff man.

Sure, sailor. All guys all at once became pussies. What was your excuse before the metrosexual thing?

Speaking for myself, I'm not interested in dating an alpha-woman.

I don't know about men in general. Speaking for myself, I don't mind a woman who is emotionally strong and sure of herself. And I appreciate some independence. I expect a woman to be strong like women are supposed to be strong classically, which is always attractive and is in many ways stronger than most men ever hope to be.

There's another type of "strong" woman who seems proud to be equal in every way to men, likes to challenge them, and kind of makes a big deal out of it. The kind who says "they all must be pussies because I can't find any who will stick around".

I don't find that strength intimidating, and it doesn't scare me off. I find it irritating, and it turns me off.

Here's an analogy: when you run across a mountain lion in the woods, one of the best ways to get him to leave you alone is to act agressive. If you do that, he's a lot less likely to bother with you. Not that he has any doubt he could pick you apart like a grasshopper, he just doesn't need the hassle when there are deer and elk around who are more compliant and predictable.

If the lion was desperate or maybe not sure he could take down the graceful deer, he might have a try at you.

Your proud proclamation of how strong you are is the same thing. You're turning off the healthy lions and attracting the desperate ones. Maybe you wear your strength on your sleeve.

Or, maybe he was just obviously being facetious, and you now look silly.

You know whats a big turn off to me? People who can't detect sarcasm.

Originally posted by muabesos
sailor.

Plunder the booty.

Originally posted by catwingsmuther
but perhaps the strong men just don't want to date strong women??

Any insights?

Why do all strong women who complain about men have to be black or lesbian? not everyone is like Blaxican!

Yarr!!!

yee be seeking a trip to the boo box.

Pirates have beards! Look at Jack Sparrow!

Originally posted by muabesos
Well Blaxican I'm glad that I turn you off! I wouldn't want you sucking me off in a bathroom somewhere, with your two cent answers! Who cares what you think anyway! Obviously God was screwing around when he made you! You're a lazy wetback, so shut-up!

Originally posted by muabesos
Why do all strong women who complain about men have to be black or lesbian? not everyone is like Blaxican!

Originally posted by Rogue Jedi
AHAHAHAHAH the whore gave you Phat_Crabs.

Originally posted by muabesos
Why do all strong women who complain about men have to be black or lesbian? not everyone is like Blaxican!

Why do all women complain period?

Yes, we are. All hail blaxican.

Originally posted by RE: Blaxican
You totally want me to suck you off in a bathroom somewhere.

Yea I want you to suck me off bloody! You down?

I'm not down with socks, sorry. I was just leading you on. I'm such a tease.

Ahahahaha Blax likes the cock.

Originally posted by Rogue Jedi
Why do all women complain period?

Yes, we are. All hail blaxican.

So all of you still live with your parents? Just lame nerds who get it up to soft core porn in their parents basement?