Real talk.

Originally posted by mikeydude
Well, I wasn't expecting her friend to be there with us the entire time. And I couldnt get her alone. But Idunno. Spending all that time today, made me almost not feel the same way.

And now I feel Leik a retard.

So you don't like her as much as you used to after spending a whole day with her?

Maybe your like of her seems to have waned because her friend was there?

Call her up and say, "yo, babe, honey, darling...let's do lunch."

Of course, use your own flavor of words. Just call her up and ask her if she wants to go eat lunch so you can talk to her. Then do one of the following:

1. When you tell her that you like her a bunch, don't ask to be her boyfriend. Ask if it would be okay to start dating more to see how things work out.

2. Just have fun. Talk, do stuff, laugh, have fun. At the end of the date, ask her if she'd like to "do this again". If yes, then go.

3. Do #2, but at the end, tell her that you like her a bunch and explain why. Don't say, "I like you 'cause bewbz" or something like that. Mention something specific and be thoughtful about it. I don't know how you talk to her but you could say something like this, "Well, I've enjoyed our time together. It should be obvious that I like you a bunch. *smile sincerely* *wait for a response and make sure it's positive or neutral (this step just takes practice* I started to like you that one time we talked about x and you said y. You just made me feel comfortable and it felt like I had known you for a very long time."

Originally posted by mikeydude
Well, I wasn't expecting her friend to be there with us the entire time. And I couldnt get her alone. But Idunno. Spending all that time today, made me almost not feel the same way.

And now I feel Leik a retard.

In those situations, you just make due. You didn't need to tell her your feelings, just keep showing that you're a good guy, and like Dadudemon said, just have fun.
I hope you didn't become awkward in that situation, did you?

Originally posted by dadudemon
So you don't like her as much as you used to after spending a whole day with her?

Maybe your like of her seems to have waned because her friend was there?

Call her up and say, "yo, babe, honey, darling...let's do lunch."

Of course, use your own flavor of words. Just call her up and ask her if she wants to go eat lunch so you can talk to her. Then do one of the following:

1. When you tell her that you like her a bunch, don't ask to be her boyfriend. Ask if it would be okay to start dating more to see how things work out.

2. Just have fun. Talk, do stuff, laugh, have fun. At the end of the date, ask her if she'd like to "do this again". If yes, then go.

3. Do #2, but at the end, tell her that you like her a bunch and explain why. Don't say, "I like you 'cause bewbz" or something like that. Mention something specific and be thoughtful about it. I don't know how you talk to her but you could say something like this, "Well, I've enjoyed our time together. It should be obvious that I like you a bunch. *smile sincerely* *wait for a response and make sure it's positive or neutral (this step just takes practice* I started to like you that one time we talked about x and you said y. You just made me feel comfortable and it felt like I had known you for a very long time."

Originally posted by Mr. Rhythmic
In those situations, you just make due. You didn't need to tell her your feelings, just keep showing that you're a good guy, and like Dadudemon said, just have fun.
I hope you didn't become awkward in that situation, did you?

Just say to her You are good woman...I am good man...

😮‍💨 Got that advice from spiderman 3

I'm in the same boat as you, brah. Attracted to a girl nearly six years older than I(19:25).

Hope everything works out alright for you.

Originally posted by RE: Blaxican
I'm in the same boat as you, brah. Attracted to a girl nearly six years older than I(19:25).

Hope everything works out alright for you.

Well...see...

this is what you do.

Ask her on a date..

Wait a minute...

Naaaaaah. My situation's a bit different.

Originally posted by RE: Blaxican
Naaaaaah. My situation's a bit different.

She's married, isn't she? 😐

Nope. 😛

I'll tell you another time. Too tired to derail Mikey's thread.

Originally posted by RE: Blaxican
Nope. 😛

I'll tell you another time. Too tired to derail Mikey's thread.

Mikey's a great guy: I don't think he'd consider it derailing. But, yeah, tell me/us about it another time. Sounds like an awesome story.

Mikey, I am going to give you enough details so you get the picture.

I didn't act on my feelings years ago. It is my single biggest regret from my youth. Years later when I was enrolling my kids in vacation bible school I ran into her. She was doing the registrations. She had her kids there. We got together and talked a few times because we were old friends. There was a point where I realized this was also her biggest regret. 2 kids too scared to act on something they both wanted. You'll never regret being told no. You may not like the answer but you won't regret hearing it. You will regret never knowing or finding out way too late.

Her birthday is today.
And I missed it because Im at my friends house and his mom won't let me leave after dark. My mom will let me stay out till 2. But not her.
****k.

Originally posted by Scythe
Right? Shit's changed!

Where has all the immaturity gone?!

Originally posted by mikeydude
And If anything Is good Is going to come out of this thread hopefully I can make it where people can talk about real things. Like this situation.

Originally posted by
RE: Blaxican
Nope. 😛

I'll tell you another time. Too tired to derail Mikey's thread.

I demand this train be derailed momentarily. But it's okay, the train will be alright

Originally posted by King of Blades
Where has all the immaturity gone?!

I demand this train be derailed momentarily. But it's okay, the train will be alright

Originally posted by mikeydude
Haa, Dom, I know how to ask a girl on a date. XD
Thank you though.

No, I didn't make things awkward, because I am good friends with her anyway.
Just seeing how things are going and what its like right now. Plus, spending more time with her seemed different. Like she wasn't the same girl she was that night.
I kinda feel different because I am a lot different than her.
But that night we felt much closer...
Now its friends zone again. Plus she acted completely different. Everything about her was much more, meaningful.
Not to mention she's not over her exes. So Im thinking remaining friends is probably my best bet.
Because everything just seems different.

Does she see you as a platonic friend? That might change circumstances...

Honestly, the advice everyone has been giving is valid and so true.

If you think too much about what will happen, you'll convince yourself it's not worth it. That's what happened to me last year. I met this wonderful girl in one my classes; at first, we were just study buddies, but then we actually became good friends. I definitely had feelings for her, but I refused to act upon them because I kept thinking that it would be impossible for me to maintain a successful relationship in college and that she would reject me and it would become awkward and ruin whatever friendship we had.

We haven't talked or seen each other for the last several months (it's summer), and though I'll fortunately see her again come fall, I felt I made a major mistake in not at least trying to see where it went. Some days we'd hang and talk and I felt I was really close to her. And then the other days it seemed we were more distant and "everything seemed different." I've realized now that's just clear overthinking about the situation.

If you really like this girl and want to be in a relationship with her, don't second guess your worth and your connection with this woman. If she's 19, she should also be mature enough to act appropriately regardless of whether she says "yes" or "no."

Originally posted by mikeydude

No, I didn't make things awkward, because I am good friends with her anyway.
Just seeing how things are going and what its like right now. Plus, spending more time with her seemed different. Like she wasn't the same girl she was that night.
I kinda feel different because I am a lot different than her.
But that night we felt much closer...
Now its friends zone again. Plus she acted completely different. Everything about her was much more, meaningful.
Not to mention she's not over her exes. So Im thinking remaining friends is probably my best bet.
Because everything just seems different.

Shouldn't let that hold you back though man. You can't expect people to always be deep, and bear their soul to you. Maybe she acted that way because her friend was there, meaning that she can't be that open with her, but that she can be with you.

On the other hand it could be that you just ''fell in love for a night''. I know that's happened to me before as well. You shouldn't just give up on it because it didn't go the way you expected it would one time. You should probably do something with her, or have a talk whatever at least one more time before you give up on it or else you might come to regret it.

So I just posted this immediately after reading this post, so I might be incredibly late. Also I'm posting this at 7:18 in the morning after just coming home from work so I apologise for any incoherences, grammatical incorrectness and whatever in this post.

Originally posted by Korto Vos
Does she see you as a platonic friend? That might change circumstances...

Honestly, the advice everyone has been giving is valid and so true.

If you think too much about what will happen, you'll convince yourself it's not worth it. That's what happened to me last year. I met this wonderful girl in one my classes; at first, we were just study buddies, but then we actually became good friends. I definitely had feelings for her, but I refused to act upon them because I kept thinking that it would be impossible for me to maintain a successful relationship in college and that she would reject me and it would become awkward and ruin whatever friendship we had.

We haven't talked or seen each other for the last several months (it's summer), and though I'll fortunately see her again come fall, I felt I made a major mistake in not at least trying to see where it went. Some days we'd hang and talk and I felt I was really close to her. And then the other days it seemed we were more distant and "everything seemed different." I've realized now that's just clear overthinking about the situation.

If you really like this girl and want to be in a relationship with her, don't second guess your worth and your connection with this woman. If she's 19, she should also be mature enough to act appropriately regardless of whether she says "yes" or "no."

Originally posted by Slay
Shouldn't let that hold you back though man. You can't expect people to always be deep, and bear their soul to you. Maybe she acted that way because her friend was there, meaning that she can't be that open with her, but that she can be with you.

On the other hand it could be that you just ''fell in love for a night''. I know that's happened to me before as well. You shouldn't just give up on it because it didn't go the way you expected it would one time. You should probably do something with her, or have a talk whatever at least one more time before you give up on it or else you might come to regret it.

So I just posted this immediately after reading this post, so I might be incredibly late. Also I'm posting this at 7:18 in the morning after just coming home from work so I apologise for any incoherences, grammatical incorrectness and whatever in this post.

I'm not going to say if you're going to do something got all or nothing, but bear in mind all your consequences have an outcome. And if you're both showing signs of still hooking back up with your ex's, you may not feel the inclination to get with each other.

Granted, I could be giving this situation more credit than it deserves; you'll both spend a moment flirting with the past and then get over it and get with each other. Not at all an unrealistic probable outcome.

With that being said though, you shouldn't expect the worst not to occur.

My words of wisdom: if something bad happens let it be the product of circumstance than, in any way, influenced by a past action of yours.

Failure to do this, children, is how we form regrets. stoned

It went ok. I told her what it is, by telling her I want a relationship. and I told her she needs to stop ****ing everybody. and she wants to be with me. So, I'm putting her on a month of probation to see if she is willing to stop having sex with my friends long enough to respect herself and gain morals.
Because I broke up with her because I wanted a relationship and not a **** buddy. I have high morals to begin with but they have their limits.

I remember reading in my Ethics class an article about the new found identity between couples (not me or you, rather conjunctive pronouns like us and we).

Your requests aren't all that unreasonable, but bear in mind certain (and I use the term lightly) "life-styles" are hard to override (let alone be broken in a month). But don't lose hope, as nothing is impossible to the dedicated mind.