Sad and Lonely

Hi, I am feeling really sad and lonely right now. It's been another difficult day where I sometimes feel no one cares. My father and I fight so much, and I try and try to get out of his shadow. I am like him in different ways. He might be lonely too. I don't know because he doesn't talk openly about these things with me. I feel frustrated all the time and have no real outlet to release this inner aggression. Is there anyone around who can help me? Signed Sad and Lonely Master Skywalker All replies are accepted. Please respond soon.

Sorry I can't help you.I go through with my parents too.

gordon, is the problem because you do not want to follow in your fathes footsteps and be like him? does he dislike the friends you eep and wish to destroy what you have with them?

Do you have any other siblings involved in this?

I have a sister. I have always felt I wasn't anywhere as good as her. She got good grades at school, while I succumbed to a serious illness that has pursued me for a long time. As for my father, I don't want to become like him because he and my mother are divorced. They argue a lot and fight over finances. I am for the record, 26, as some of you know. I have never had a girlfriend and am tired of being alone as my friends have all ended up married and with children.Because of the nature of my illness, I have difficulties dealing with social situations.

I hear that,my parents are divorced and I'm getting systoms of acting and looking like my father(I'm 5'4 the same height as him and I'm 18)But to me I have a responsiblity to prove to everyone that it's going to stop me from living my life happly.Me iI don't see it as road block I see these things in my life as a detour,I'm the master of my Life,And only I can change my life for the better but I know all to well of how hard it is to talk and open to parents I have a lot of sories to tell of them but I keep them down below where not many have seen..

Thanks, it is really tough on guys like us, isn't it? I want a chance to prove myself as being different from him, but respectful of him.

Yeah I'm telling you my father comes here for a few months and back to Costa Rica and now I thinks he's there for good,the only sad thing I never open up to him,but me I sometimes consider myself a loser time and time again but if you really open your eyes and look at people you envy or you think has a better life than you you find a lot of fauls in them that what makes me hear and also I have a responsible mother that I try to make happy

I have never been able to really open up to my father. If I do, then the very next day we start fighting and throwing things up in each other's faces.Then I feel like I failed him.

I just think from time to time my father scared to open up to me it might look like an episode of 7th heaven to him.But hope I'll tell him before it's to late.

Yeah, I get depressed thinking about that.

This thread thus made me sad and lonely thanks GS(just kidding)

oh that's all right, I think sometimes I have to talk to somebody about all these pent-up emotions. It helps to talk with another person who understands.

True It's hard to talk to my friends all have both parents intact and I don't want them listening to my problems and burden them to listen..

Yeah, my friends' parents are mostly intact as well. So what would they know about it?

My friend last year wanted me to go to a barbeque last year they were having a family gathering,I went but it was weird at first but it was diffarant that both sides of he's family was their,the only family gathering I go to is my mother sides I have not yet met anybody from my father side expect for one aunt and my grandmother(who I only saw 4 times)in my life.

I am more familiar with my mother's side of the family, because most of my father's side don't live around here. I sometimes go to family/holiday gatherings like Thanksgiving or Christmas, but it always feels weird being there. Plus some of the relatives are a bit odd....

Yeah all but one of my aunts in my father side lives in another country,my mother side lives a 20miles ratios.Sorry bro I got to get off the computer now, hope to talk to you again ,thanks for listening PM anytime dude.Peace..(Walk into the sunset)

Well, you guys posted to each other for two whole hours. You guys feeling better?

I don't know what it is like, because 1) I'm younger than you guys at 15 and 2) my parents aren't divorced. Sounds like it sucks though. Depends on the parents though. Just don't let it ruin your life, even if that is their evil intent (though it is probably not).

What kind of ailment is that disease, Gordon?

eveyone has there faults and problems, most of which are experienced in the teen years of their lives.
I myself have had many drawback and I too have my faults and pitfalls.
If you carry on thinking the way you are then the way you feel with persever.
think of it like this:

every experience you have had and are yet to experience, whether it be good or bad has an influence on you, these experiences make you who you are. dont fear them becuase you will withdraw into yourself. prepare yourself for the best and worst senario and at the same time dont expect anything, this way you wont be disapointed or over whelmed.
make the most of what you have, and take advantage of the things offered to you. dont take anything for granted.
treat others how you would like to be treated in return. dont take ppl on face value, if it appears fair, be careful underneath it can be quite foul and visa versa.
heed good advice and rest well.