Originally posted by Astner
No offense, but you're not the kind of woman a sober stranger would walk up to and ask out in broad daylight.Either way, VG Addict, the only thing people around you will think if you walk up and talk to a girl is "damn, guy's got balls" or "I wish guys hit on me too". Being social is by no means a psychosis.
Nahh, people might be creeped out by sad pickup lines from strangers.. also some people have places to be
on that note maybe you should try this VG
YouTube video
Originally posted by Sancty
I'm not sure if you're trying to say I'm ugly or scary & unapproachable,
Originally posted by Sancty
in any case it still happens to me unfortunately. x:
Originally posted by Sancty
Nahh, people might be creeped out by sad pickup lines from strangers.. also some people have places to be
Originally posted by Astner
No. It's just that people that do that go for straight tens. Me, and my friend whom I did this with, were overly selective which ones we'd walk up to. You do it to step out of your comfort zone and develop confidence, not to get laid.Right, and I'm sure Marius scares them away by flexing and grunting.
You couldn't make it more obvious that you've never been asked out in this fashion.
Of course it doesn't happen when Marius is with me. awebrow
It's sad that you think someone mentioning they've been approached is bragging. This happens to a **** ton of people, it doesn't mean you're extremely beautiful
though some people do take it that way & this is what happens:
http://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-2124246/Samantha-Brick-downsides-looking-pretty-Why-women-hate-beautiful.html
Originally posted by Sancty
That may be true for you, but it happens to a lot of people, "ugly" girls included
Originally posted by Sancty
how did it go?
Originally posted by Sancty
Of course it doesn't happen when Marius is with me.
Originally posted by Sancty
It's sad that you think someone mentioning they've been approached is bragging. This happens to a **** ton of people, it doesn't mean you're extremely beautiful
Originally posted by Sancty
though some people do take it that way & this is what happens:
http://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-2124246/Samantha-Brick-downsides-looking-pretty-Why-women-hate-beautiful.html
Originally posted by Astner
No it doesn't. I've talked to the girls I've chat up. I know how it is.I deleted most of the numbers I got, mainly because I didn't have the balls to make something out of it. But if it wasn't for that practice I would probably have been single now.
Of course not.
I never expected you to admit that I was right, I made that clear from the beginning. I know that you know that I'm right, and that's good enough for me.
You went from "you're pretty and I'd regret if I decided not ask you out for a cup of coffee" to "this bottle of champagne is from the captain who wishes you a nice flight"?
You're not right though, this happens to a lot of women (and young girls).. there are creeps everywhere.
Also people find different people beautiful so.. your "10" is not someone else's
There's literally too many ways you are wrong so I think we should just get you in a wig & dress, put some mascara on you, and see if anyone approaches (they will in time, believe me) flirt
She uses people approaching her to call her beautiful as proof that she's perfect. most people don't take a strangers compliments that seriously, because they are meaningless
Originally posted by Sancty
such great evidence.
Originally posted by Sancty
You're not right though, this happens to a lot of women (and young girls).. there are creeps everywhere.
Look, Sancty, this thread isn't about your ego. It's about helping VG Addict out on the dating market. And your nonsensical "he's talking to me, he must be a creep"-mindset isn't helping, especially since you've never really talked to strangers that weren't behind a fast food counter.
I have nothing against you. I don't even know how you look. However, from what I've read it's apparent that your experience on the topic is very limited, and I don't care to extend this thread to the point were you'd give up. I'm sure you feel the same.
Just to make sure we all know Astner is wrong...
Originally posted by Astner
Didn't your parents let you sleep over at Marius' (who was in his 20's at the time) when you were only 15? And you think it's creepy when a man asks a woman out?
She obviously didn't say that, what she said is that some women might find certain cheesy pick up lines creepy in certain circumstances. As well as some women preferring not to be bothered (which is a good enough reason for a decent person not to bother them).
Originally posted by Sancty
Nahh, people might be creeped out by sad pickup lines from strangers.. also some people have places to be
Obviously a more nuanced, intelligent and true point of view than your "everybody will think you are so ballsy". Now perhaps you want to help VG out, but lying to him doesn't seem like a good way to do that.
Originally posted by Astner
Look, Sancty, this thread isn't about your ego. It's about helping VG Addict out on the dating market. And your nonsensical "he's talking to me, he must be a creep"-mindset isn't helping, especially since you've never really talked to strangers that weren't behind a fast food counter.
Again not at all what's been said, you should perhaps read more closely, and realize that you are the only one making absolute claims.
Originally posted by Astner
I have nothing against you. I don't even know how you look. However, from what I've read it's apparent that your experience on the topic is very limited, and I don't care to extend this thread to the point were you'd give up. I'm sure you feel the same.
She told you that she has had these experience, that she'd been asked out multiple times, has been approached more often than that, and has also been harassed on the street beyond those two things. If this happens to someone who, as you gathered, is not particularly often in social places, you can imagine how often it would happen to women who are.
You have a very myopic point of view on this issue, and had you really talked to women you'd know about their experience, I can not imagine you wouldn't know that woman are often harassed on the street, or approached in inappropriate places that make them uncomfortable.
Of course there are places where it is more appropriate to approach women. Where chances would be slimmer to creep them out.
However, if a person, any person, wears headphones, perhaps just leave them alone altogether, there's a good chance they do not want to be bothered.
Originally posted by Astner
I'm sharing my experiences, and while I know that you're wrong, that's not what I'm trying to prove.Didn't your parents let you sleep over at Marius' (who was in his 20's at the time) when you were only 15? And you think it's creepy when a man asks a woman out?
Look, Sancty, this thread isn't about your ego. It's about helping VG Addict out on the dating market. And your nonsensical "he's talking to me, he must be a creep"-mindset isn't helping, especially since you've never really talked to strangers that weren't behind a fast food counter.
I have nothing against you. I don't even know how you look. However, from what I've read it's apparent that your experience on the topic is very limited, and I don't care to extend this thread to the point were you'd give up. I'm sure you feel the same.
imo it's fine in the right certain circumstances, but you definitely shouldn't tell people all women will love it.. because it's just not true.
Internationally, studies show that between 80-99% of women experience street harassment at some point during their lives. Comments from “You’d look good on me” to groping, flashing and assault are a daily, global reality for women and LGBTQ individuals, but street harassment is rarely reported, and culturally accepted as ‘the price you pay’ for being a woman or for being gay.
http://sanfrancisco.ihollaback.org/resources/research/
also what the hell does this mean "you've never really talked to strangers that weren't behind a fast food counter." ? lol
Originally posted by Astner
You're comparing asking a woman out for a cup of coffee in public to sexual harassment? You need help.
Obviously it ranges from those things to more extreme encounters
like in the video I posted, a man is "complimenting" women, but it's clearly inappropriate, uncomfortable for the woman, and harassment.
It's about realizing when it's appropriate. if a woman is wearing headphones or busy with something it's probably not a good idea.
Asking a woman out for a cup of coffee can be fine, but it depends on the circumstances.
the only thing people around you will think if you walk up and talk to a girl is "damn, guy's got balls" or "I wish guys hit on me too"
To be fair, if the woman being approached on the steet finds the guy attractive, there's less chance of her feeling creeped out. You can take two men using the same approach and that same woman could have a polar opposite reaction depending.
Also, creeps often don't realize they're creeping out women. It's like they're oblivious the women aren't interested.