How to deal with nosey/invasive people.

It's been a while since I've been here but lately I've been dealing with people who are invasive and feel a need to be in everyone's business for the sake of attention. They always have to ask me what I'm doing? or where I'm going? as if I have to answer them when I don't. I've been a big target of this lately, I find it very offensive and It's been extremely irritating to deal with to the point that there's a huge weight on me that they come with the intent of deceiving me into feeling beneath them. What are some solutions or remedies of dealing with invasive people?

Are these people friends? If they are, maybe they just want to spend some times with you.

If their not friends, just tell them to back off.

also, some people actually have no idea of their being incencitives to others needs. What might look okay to them, might not be with someone else.

Just talk to them before you lose your cool and possibly loses those people.

Originally posted by SquallX
Are these people friends? If they are, maybe they just want to spend some times with you.

If their not friends, just tell them to back off.

also, some people actually have no idea of their being incencitives to others needs. What might look okay to them, might not be with someone else.

Just talk to them before you lose your cool and possibly loses those people.

No way! I would be at a shame to call them friends but they really got under my skin with their approaches. The solution sounds good. I know I'm used to being kind to the people around but it doesn't mean I don't get offended and it matters how I'm treated. A lot of times I struggle with compassion and confrontation.

Originally posted by atv2
No way! I would be at a shame to call them friends but they really got under my skin with their approaches. The solution sounds good. I know I'm used to being kind to the people around but it doesn't mean I don't get offended and it matters how I'm treated. A lot of times I struggle with compassion and confrontation.

Alright then! Since their not friends, you need to make it clear to them what you expect from them, and vice versa.

Nothing wrong being kind, you just need to find a balance between kind and letting others take advantage of you.

You may not like confrontations, but you need to stand up for yourself, especially if your around said group of people often.

Stand up for yourself before it’s too late.

kill them imo

Originally posted by JKBart
kill them imo

Originally posted by atv2
It's been a while since I've been here but lately I've been dealing with people who are invasive and feel a need to be in everyone's business for the sake of attention. They always have to ask me what I'm doing? or where I'm going? as if I have to answer them when I don't. I've been a big target of this lately, I find it very offensive and It's been extremely irritating to deal with to the point that there's a huge weight on me that they come with the intent of deceiving me into feeling beneath them. What are some solutions or remedies of dealing with invasive people?

You sound like an introvert and you sound like you do not like confrontation. Bad combination for someone who wants privacy and boundaries as people take advantage of people like you.

However, and this is going to be the hard part: you MUST set clear boundaries.

Solution 1: Directly Setting Boundaries

When asked by people you do not feel intimate or comfortable with sharing those details, clearly state, with a disarming chuckle, "Oh...I'm a private person I don't like to talk about my private life too much. But what you are doing this weekend?"

If you feel that is awkward (it is), say this, "You know, the standard chores and errands. Hey, what are you doing this weekend? Anything fun?"

In other words, you have to learn how to small talk while still maintaining your boundaries.

Solution 2: The Wingman Solution

Befriend a strong-willed, outgoing, charismatic friend who has your back to put a stop to these things or who can quickly alter the subject to spare you from the embarrassment.

This solution can be difficult because extroverted people of that type will often drag you into situations that are uncomfortable just due to their nature. So you will need to find a person to befriend like this who also has high emotional intelligence and social grace.

Originally posted by atv2
It's been a while since I've been here but lately I've been dealing with people who are invasive and feel a need to be in everyone's business for the sake of attention. They always have to ask me what I'm doing? or where I'm going? as if I have to answer them when I don't. I've been a big target of this lately, I find it very offensive and It's been extremely irritating to deal with to the point that there's a huge weight on me that they come with the intent of deceiving me into feeling beneath them. What are some solutions or remedies of dealing with invasive people?

Kanye, is that you?

Originally posted by dadudemon
You sound like an introvert and you sound like you do not like confrontation. Bad combination for someone who wants privacy and boundaries as people take advantage of people like you.

However, and this is going to be the hard part: you MUST set clear boundaries.

[b]Solution 1: Directly Setting Boundaries

When asked by people you do not feel intimate or comfortable with sharing those details, clearly state, with a disarming chuckle, "Oh...I'm a private person I don't like to talk about my private life too much. But what you are doing this weekend?"

If you feel that is awkward (it is), say this, "You know, the standard chores and errands. Hey, what are you doing this weekend? Anything fun?"

In other words, you have to learn how to small talk while still maintaining your boundaries.

Solution 2: The Wingman Solution

Befriend a strong-willed, outgoing, charismatic friend who has your back to put a stop to these things or who can quickly alter the subject to spare you from the embarrassment.

This solution can be difficult because extroverted people of that type will often drag you into situations that are uncomfortable just due to their nature. So you will need to find a person to befriend like this who also has high emotional intelligence and social grace. [/B]

^What he said and also:

Solution 3: Show Dominance via Sodomy

Wrestle him/her/them to the ground and then forcibly anally penetrate them thereby asserting your dominance and superiority of the situation.

Originally posted by Robtard
^What he said and also:

[b]Solution 3: Show Dominance via Sodomy

Wrestle him/her/them to the ground and then forcibly anally penetrate them thereby asserting your dominance and superiority of the situation. [/B]

Remember Force Rape? Where you use the force to telekinetically push and pull their butthole in and out, rapidly?

Maaaaaan, those were the days in the Movie Versus Forum.

Originally posted by dadudemon
Remember Force Rape? Where you use the force to telekinetically push and pull their butthole in and out, rapidly?

Maaaaaan, those were the days in the Movie Versus Forum.

How could I forget?

Originally posted by JKBart
kill them imo

jesus christ the best answer has only 3 words and you guys continue ranting lol

Originally posted by Robtard
^What he said and also:

[b]Solution 3: Show Dominance via Sodomy

Wrestle him/her/them to the ground and then forcibly anally penetrate them thereby asserting your dominance and superiority of the situation. [/B]

Nah. Just Kill em. That is what True Alpha's do. Cause Sex Don't Cure Stupid and Annoying. Death Does.

Chopping their nose off works, too.

Originally posted by Robtard
^What he said and also:

[b]Solution 3: Show Dominance via Sodomy

Wrestle him/her/them to the ground and then forcibly anally penetrate them thereby asserting your dominance and superiority of the situation. [/B]

Originally posted by Emperordmb
That's not funny, you should be banned for perpetuating rape culture.

But its OK when They rape.

Thanks abunch for the advice. It's been a struggle. Today I had to put into practice communicating boundaries and was respected for it.

Originally posted by atv2
Thanks abunch for the advice. It's been a struggle. Today I had to put into practice communicating boundaries and was respected for it.

You opted for Solution #1, not a bad choice, but not as bold as opting for Solution #3, imho.

Originally posted by Emperordmb
That's not funny, you should be banned for perpetuating rape culture.

Indeed. 1 in 5 wamen are sexually assaulted.

DO SOMETHING