Would you date a transgender person?

Originally posted by dadudemon
No, not my cup of tea.

I've been around the block: never had the urge or desire to hook up with a transexual or a transgender.

In person, it is much easier to tell. If you guys got out more, you'd understand that.

Not so easy, in my experience. At a party, a semi-famous woman from a local modeling agency was wowing the guys. Afterwards, I chime in with "Guys, pretty sure she wasn't born a she."

Cue the "You're nuts! That's all woman!"

A few days later the host brings up how she had both bits, and needed surgery done to go in one direction.

On the other hand, I could have been as easily wrong, because there are plenty of women with masculine features (What set me off was something about the bone structure and jawline. Seemed a bit off.. But again, I'd imagine there are women by birth who have such features.)

Originally posted by cdtm
Not so easy, in my experience. At a party, a semi-famous woman from a local modeling agency was wowing the guys. Afterwards, I chime in with "Guys, pretty sure she wasn't born a she."

Cue the "You're nuts! That's all woman!"

A few days later the host brings up how she had both bits, and needed surgery done to go in one direction.

On the other hand, I could have been as easily wrong, because there are plenty of women with masculine features (What set me off was something about the bone structure and jawline. Seemed a bit off.. But again, I'd imagine there are women by birth who have such features.)

This is why if you're trans you owe it to anyone you're dating to be immediately up front with them if you feel there is even a 1% chance they don't know. This needs to be done within the first 10 minutes of the first date. Hell if you chat briefly before the first date occurs it needs to be disclosed(why waste money on a date if it won't go anywhere?)

I am not attracted to women, regardless of their bodies; and while many trans men are attractive, there is currently no procedure that can reassign female genitals to male.

This is a more challenging question for men who are attracted to women, because trans women are more indistinguishable from cis women than their trans man counterparts from cis men.

Originally posted by Surtur
(why waste money on a date if it won't go anywhere?)

You date whores?

Originally posted by gauntlet o doom
Would you date a transgender person?

I had a discussion with friends the other night and opinions were divided and there were several considerations and issues raised.
- would it matter if they've had the operation?
- would it matter how early they transitioned?
- do they need to look convincingly like the gender they ascribe to?
- would you like to know immediately or be told later in a relationship?
- would you want your friends/family to know they were transgender? Is there more freedom in dating someone who's a proud transgender or is it better to date someone who doesn't tell anyone about it?

Let's say all the inner traits that you're looking for in a partner can be found in this one person but he/she/they then mention that they were originally of the opposite sex, would you then look at them differently? There's probably no right or wrong answer to the original question, it's just a matter of preferences, but opinions would be great.

Maybe but probably not.

I’m just a lover of phallic objects in general. Trans woman or plain d fashioned male, I’ll take it.

Originally posted by Bentley
You date whores?

I meant that the relationship won't go anywhere and this is guaranteed because one person is not into guys.

Originally posted by Bentley
You date whores?

Don't be silly. Whores cost money.

^SDS going strong 🙂

Hell. no.

Originally posted by dadudemon
I have Jesus in my Heart, not my butt.

I'm not a nun.

😂

Jesus is God tho and God is everywhere...

Imagine actually using the term cis in real life 😂

Originally posted by Bentley
You date whores?

Does being suckered Into giving one a free ride count as a "date"?

Because pretty sure this woman who was crying crocodile tears, with zero streaks down her face, as she put makeup on in the mirror, as she expressed hatred for the police when I asked her if she needed the police and asked me to drop.her off at a hotel on a night when police cars were everywhere, was a hooker.

That or a drug mule. Judging by the plastic looking outfit, my vote is hooker (She also asked for money, and I said no., and dropped her off at a stoplight. Probably wasn't a sting setup on an unsuspecting john, but this was too weird for me.)

Originally posted by carthage
Imagine actually using the term cis in real life 😂

Some sissies probably use the term cis.

Get it...cis...sissies...get it?!

Hmm, I would possibly date a post-op trans person, yes.

Originally posted by Surtur
One question is: does refusing to date a trans person make one transphobic? Some have tried to make that argument...which makes no sense to me. Are gay people heterophobic?

Originally posted by MythLord
You are not transphobic just because you don't have a preference for dating trans people. You're transpobic if you act like a d!ck to them just because they don't get your gears grinding.

Sounds like you're saying some folk don't like trans people because they don't get turned on by them. Yeah, that's a weird reason and transphobic. Though I personally have never encountered anyone who disliked them for that reason.

I mean if someone said to me "I hate gays because men don't turn me on" I'd think they were gay deep down.

Originally posted by Galan007
When they pull their cock out it's a dead giveaway. 👆

Heh

Originally posted by Surtur
Sounds like you're saying some folk don't like trans people because they don't get turned on by them. Yeah, that's a weird reason and transphobic. Though I personally have never encountered anyone who disliked them for that reason.

I mean if someone said to me "I hate gays because men don't turn me on" I'd think they were gay deep down.

You just described yourself, Surt.