Can You Answer This Question? What makes a person cheat on their partner?

Started by stinkfist4624 pages

im a guy....... and the only reason why i would cheat on a woman that i loved is to prolly get back at her.........otherwise
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the only reason for me... no I wouldnt do that to a person I knew that loved me... otherwise, its all good

If I didn't care for the relationship I would cheat but I rarely get that many offers at one time.

I honestly feel monogamy is not in human nature no matter how much we would like it to be.we are animals and our minds tell us its wrong,what we are taught tells us its wrong...then why do we yearn to do these things even if you love your mate?

Yeah..totally agree Kitty...👆

ok, the whole ''getting hurt'' thing, i asked this question in GDF a wile back, what would you rather hear from your partner after of lifetime together:

I've never cheated on you, but ive never loved you

or

I cheated on you but i always loved you?!

WE are animals, like Chrissy said, and its lust, change, boredon...we are always tempted no matter how much we choose to deny that...

There is no excuse for cheating on your partner, I know humans aren't meant to be with one person, blah blah blah. But that is irrelevent, if you can't control your urges then you should not start a relationship.

I just watched Eyes Wide Shut which was one of the few movies that deals with cheating as it's main theme. Not the greatest movie, but I liked the tension bewteen Tom and Nicole. Nicole goes on and on about how she fantisizes about other men and Tom trys so many times to cheat on her but ends up drowning in a pool of his own guilt until he snaps and finally they have a long talk and they work it out instead of ending the relationship. The last line of the movie is Nicole telling Tom, "there is one thing that we do have to do . . . . . .f*ck." It was like they forgot about eachother and they just needed to go have some really hard knucklebiting sex.

to be honest i dont tink i could ever cheat on sumone, especially if dey really did love me, n even if i lusted after sumone else, i stil wouldnt do it.......no way no how.....

I think its lust...and the excitment of doing something you shouldnt...with smoeone you shouldnt..

My last gf became unattractive to me. Isn't that a horrible thing to say? I'm so glad it's over between us.

u mean she wasnt physically attractive?

Originally posted by Tired Hiker
My last gf became unattractive to me. Isn't that a horrible thing to say? I'm so glad it's over between us.

She BECAME unattractive...how? 😕
That then means that she wasnt all that attractive to you in the first place....

My ex is very unattractive to me now...ugh! loser! but he wasnt at the time we broke up...😕

She gained weight. It turned me off. I'm so shallow. But there were other issues. It just wasn't meant to be.

Originally posted by Tired Hiker
She gained weight. It turned me off. I'm so shallow. But there were other issues. It just wasn't meant to be.

Yeah...you sound shallow now.

How much weithg did she gain?! 😕

Originally posted by Tired Hiker
She gained weight. It turned me off. I'm so shallow. But there were other issues. It just wasn't meant to be.

well, i guess wit most ppl sum tings lyk dat can turn u off.......specially ppl my age ( not sayin i'm lyk dat...coz i aint shallow) but its lyk a guy in yr. 8 will ask you out coz ur hot, n datz it, no, 'i tink u got a nice personality' or, 'ur such a nice person' but its does sh*t me how dese days ppl only concentrtae on image, but , TH, if dat wasnt de only reason , den u broke up for a different reason , so dat says dat u aint shallow........(shit i go on too much)

Thats true....but i hate guys who come up to me thinking that im good only for sex! That pisses me off! I hate that, its just shit! i get so angry with guys who are not interested in what i have to say, but only want to go with you....and there were few...
I hate shallow guys, especially with their standards too high, because in 40 years time the beauty will fade, and if you are stuck with a person that has no personality...is just crap!
I mean looks are important, you arent gonna come up to some with a bag over their head, but looks shouldnt be the dominating factor...

Originally posted by lil bitchiness
Thats true....but i hate guys who come up to me thinking that im good only for sex! That pisses me off! I hate that, its just shit! i get so angry with guys who are not interested in what i have to say, but only want to go with you....and there were few...
I hate shallow guys, especially with their standards too high, because in 40 years time the beauty will fade, and if you are stuck with a person that has no personality...is just crap!
I mean looks are important, you arent gonna come up to some with a bag over their head, but looks shouldnt be the dominating factor...

I said there were other issues as well, and the weight thing added to it, it wasn't the determining factor in our break up. Sorry if I'm shallow. I can't help it. 🙁

There is no need to apologize, i didnt say i hated you, i was just generalising....the guys that are shallow in general...

Thats just you, if for you looks are what counts, than thats ok...🙂
We are all different...
Im the worse when it comes to the way guy looks, i tend to be shallow too...but i am not generaly so, when it comes to relationships and stuff im not....if that makes sense..
I make a very clear differance between the guy i wanna do once or twice and say goodbye, you are hot, sex was good see ya arround, and the guy i wanna have relationship with, and i wanna make work out...

😄 I love you all..you are all great!

Don't get me wrong, I wouldn't settle for just any skinny chick. She has to be smart and sort of wierd too. If she's a bit thick and I'm crazy for her, then I guess it's okay, as long as I'm crazy for her.