I think it can be fine, but it can also turn bitter. For example, when im 25 years old, i would want to travel, buy stuff for myself, just live my life to the full, rather than being married and having children...not at that age anyway...later on, sure, i wouldnt mind having an older guy.
I guess its ok, and it really depends on people as well. I think you need to have stuff in common. Big age gaps, people tend to have less stuff and interests in common, and tis very thing becomes a problem later on.
My mom was married to my step dad who was 22 years older than she was, and i have to say they got along really well...however, when they had fights or disagreements, my stepdad used to treat my mom like a child, which she was in a sense compared to him, even though my mom is 40.
For me personaly,age differance is not a problem...to a certain age differance that is...i wouldnt go over 15 years in differance...maybe not that much even, but thats just me! 😄
I think age difference is fine if it is reasonable. But I think if you are female and the man is old enough to be your father than I'm sort of against it.
I think the question is why are you looking or wanting such an older man, is there no one your age who you like?
Like is it his experience or what that is so attractive?
Originally posted by shaber
Irma Kurtz Cosmopolitan's Agony Aunt prescribed a limit of ten years to a couple's age difference. But I have disagreed with her advice before.
Irma Kurtz??? Who is Irma Kurtz??? Who cares what she says??? Kill her!!! 😛
There is no limit for couples age difference. And when people get older the age difference loses his handicaps. But there are a lot of psychological and maturity differences from each other that will have reflexes on their common life, especially when one of them is extremely young (Not younger than the other...For example the younger one is a teenager). But if the love is true there is no limit...but it will be necessary a lot of patience.
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Originally posted by silver_tears
I think age difference is fine if it is reasonable. But I think if you are female and the man is old enough to be your father than I'm sort of against it.
I think the question is why are you looking or wanting such an older man, is there no one your age who you like?
Like is it his experience or what that is so attractive?
well...experience can be attractive...sorta 😕
Well here is my point of view. I was 15 and had friends that were 22, 25, and 28 and inbetween. I would hang out with them some times and my parents hated it because they would say the age differnecs are just not close. Now a 20 year old hanging out with a 28 year old they said is a differnt sotry since they are on the same matturity level and what not. '
I found this stupid because i am very matture for my age and fit in with these guys they thought i shouldnt. But in dating there is deffitnly a bigger differnce. I mean a 15 year old going out with a 20 year old is just totally differnt. or a 15 year old going out with a 10 year old is also. but 18 and 38 now I mean you can still be in high school and he is thinking about retirment in the next 10 years or so.
I say try finding a younger guy I mean you want to spend a long happy life with someone. You dont want there kids father being 65 when they are like 15 do you. If you like him be friends but only that IMO. Im not telling you what you should do just trying to help you out. good luck 👆