Above the age of consent of course.....

Just to get this straight:

pedophilia.

Main Entry: pe·do·phil·ia
Pronunciation: "pE-d&-'fi-lE-&
Function: noun
Etymology: New Latin
: sexual perversion in which children are the preferred sexual object
- pe·do·phil·i·ac /-'fi-lE-"ak/ or pe·do·phil·ic /-'fi-lik/ adjective

I think the key word here is PREFERRED not a casual thing

Originally posted by Jedi Priestess
so your wife is what 19?? 😱 j/k finally someone on these boards thats older than me! 😆

I should be so lucky Jedi Priestess...! 🙄

No, I was not talking about me; I was talking generally. ( Mind you, don't tell the mistress that the girlfriend is younger than her ). 🙂

Yeah...It looks as if I am the "elder" member now. So what; they say that you are only as old as the person you can get hold of ! angel_not

Originally posted by Jedi Priestess
Just to get this straight:

pedophilia.

Main Entry: pe·do·phil·ia
Pronunciation: "pE-d&-'fi-lE-&
Function: noun
Etymology: New Latin
: sexual perversion in which children are the preferred sexual object
- pe·do·phil·i·ac /-'fi-lE-"ak/ or pe·do·phil·ic /-'fi-lik/ adjective

I think the key word here is PREFERRED not a casual thing

etymology, new latin? I'd swear pedo is from greek paidi = child and philia from greek word for friendship 😖 (I guess that greek has roots somewhere there)

anyhoo... yeah, I spelled it wrong 🥷

You didn't spell it wrong, Evy; only the Americans spell it without the a.

Checking out the Oxford Dictionary, you are right about the etymology as well, Evy- it's Greek (pais/paidoe)

I didn't? that's good 😊
thankies!

USH! I didnt mean to spark a debate about the word origin or spelling for goodness sakes.....I got that from Webster's Dictionary online. The only reason I posted it is because there are some peeps who confuse a casual thing with an under age peep as being a ped when it's not that way. A Ped has those inclinations as their primary sexual attraction.

side note: why do non-american peeps always feel the need to point out that we are ass-backwards? I mean really........I see this all over KMC. I personally dont give a rats ass where someone comes from as long as they dont critisize me for where I was born. Not like I had much choice in the matter now is it? If I had had a choice I'd have been born in France anyway. 😉

Originally posted by Jedi Priestess
side note: why do non-american peeps always feel the need to point out that we are ass-backwards? I mean really........I see this all over KMC. I personally dont give a rats ass where someone comes from as long as they dont critisize me for where I was born. Not like I had much choice in the matter now is it? If I had had a choice I'd have been born in France anyway. 😉

Sounds like a Bill Hicks quote Jedi.

Originally posted by Jedi Priestess
I think it depends on the ages myself. For instance, Lady Grim stated i know a 17yr ld girl going out wit a 28/9 yr old , me personally I think thats just nuts.....I mean really what does an almost 30 year old man see in a high school girl (beyond the physical aspects) that he can possibly relate to? And why does society look down on women who date much younger men when its ok for a man to date a much younger woman? There are alot of older celebrity men in their 50's 60's running around with 24-27 year old babes.......that has GOT to be money cause its rarely a case of a hot body! But the tongues started wagging when Demi Moore started dating Ashton Kutcher, go figure.

11 years is nothing. I know a 40 year old woman who is married to a 75+ year old man. Bizarre.

an age gap seriously diminishes after a few years
the difference between a 20 year old wiv a 10 year old and a 40 year old wiv a 30 year old is that in the second relationship they are both adults, which changes a lot.

yup

As long as its not pedophilea age dosent matter.

Iam basically echoeing the same sentiments of everybody else. As long as both parties are consenting adults there is absolutley nothing wrong with it. However, we must realize that the wider the age gap the less plausible it seems that there is any true love there or anything that they have in common other than physical attraction. In this day's way of thinking, when we see young woman on the arms of a ridiculously older man, we cant help but to assume that there is some financial gian to be made. cuz to me, there is no way a young woman would get with a regular, run o the mill, avergae joe, just like that for no damn reason. And when we see a younger man with an older woman its basically for the same reason, money. or to make HIS mother upset.

back on topic. Recently, middle aged actor Nick Cage married a 19yr old waitress in Calif. now, there is no way anybody can make me belive that she would have given herself to him, were he "Nick Cage, janitor extraordinaire", and Billy Bob Thorton, who is in his early 50's(i think) is engaged to a woman of the same age. and this guy's looks and personality are nothing to be desired, so tell me that it's not becuase these guys got money.

and lets not forget the always scandalous, Anna Nicole Smith

Manjaro who are we to speculate or question ppls motives regarding marriage, when none of us here even have the same definition about love.

I wasnt specifically speaking in terms of marriage, sorry if you got that impression. I agree that we shoudnt speculate, but i was just trying to make a point that you cant help but to think that way. anyway, the main point is regardless of motives, there's nothing wrong with it

I know you weren't specifically talking about marriage but the cage example was about marriage so...