We always and everywhere try to be beautiful, and in the process a mirror becomes more personal to us than we are to ourselves. The process of becoming beautiful and looking good is so rapid that what we become is just an outward us.
An expression on our face is actually the reflection of what we are from within. We can camouflage the exterior, but what can we do to the interior. Our goodness or badness, generosity or animosity or love or hatred, all show somewhere here or somewhere there on our bodies. If we are good from within, our face reflects a mesmerizing state of goodness; if we are not, we clearly show it through our expressions.
There are the ones who carry an inner, positive influence as a beautiful mark on their faces.
If someone has beauty in his/her soul, he/she looks like a really beautiful person to me. The surface beauty looked at with our eyes doesn't last forever.
To be honest, when I first met Fire, I didn' t find him attractive at all 😮
But each day, I got to know him more and more... until that one day when he walked through my door again and all of a sudden, it struck me how attractive he had become to me. Today, he' s one of the most beautiful persons I' ve ever met.
The mirror reflects our lives back to us,
and shows us what we look like to others,
but it doesn' t show what we look like to ourselves,
and it doesn' t show what' s inside.
It only shows things that shouldn't matter to anyone...
Yeah Yerssot...but we must accept that if you make the quote you agree with it eh ?
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I asked the original question as I know for a fact that a few people...MEN..in particular, that I have known in the past have been deadly with the ladies simply because they had a good line of chat and not necessarily a lot of good looks.
SO... with THAT in mind do we think that the ladies are attracted to the personality even before they see the handsome face and the six-pack and after they have had the first sexual encounter the patter AND the sexual prowess overrides the looks of the guy ?
I think that this set of rules, ( if we can agree on them ), do not work the other way round as when the guys are on the make and they see a "fit" young female it is certainly the looks that matter first and foremost. ( Intellectuality comes way down on the list of requirements ).
In fact, even with a few drinks under the belt it is the illusion of the good looks of the female that decides if they want to take them home for tiffin !
C'mon girls...blow me out of the water if you want to as I have been known to be wrong before ! 😉
Honestly I think I'm a little shallow 😮
I mean I don't turn up my nose at anything, but I find myself being pulled toward the attractive guys more than the not so attractive ones. Of course I wouldn't be rude and ignore someone based on appearance ❌
Initially I think surface beauty is important nowadays more so than ever. Everyone is consious of their appearance, whether it be perfect skin, the right weight, shiny hair whatever 😂 I mean I saw a little 8 year old girl turning down an ice cream from her mother because she was worried about her weight 😐
I find sometimes though that the not so attractive guys are the best ones for me 😂 Some people have brilliant personalities, that not everyone gets to know because they judge a book by it's cover.
Originally posted by Papaumau
SO... with THAT in mind do we think that the ladies are attracted to the personality even before they see the handsome face and the six-pack
as a certain member would say (not telling who, but it's not me):
you are always attracted to the physical appearance... let it be a lot or a little, cause you will never start a convo (or continue one) if you think the other ones is butt-ugly
(and I'm stressing it's not me, cause of what pap said about my first post)
Yeah...and damned good English it is too !
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To try to widen this "attraction" thing a bit more:
Would the people here consider that the attraction might be all about something called Charisma...( or the lack of it when there is no attraction ), as, a person with charisma can light up a room with this quality and can have people, ( men AND women ), attracted to them like moths to a flame.
When a person has charisma he or she does not need to be physically attractive to get the girl, ( guy ).
This kind of attraction is often hard to quantify or measure but there is no doubt that it works, and can work right across a room over a noisy crowd.
Anybody else witnessed this phenomenon ?
Charisma is something that people believe in but is difficult to define. Charismatic people might be referred to as charming, alluring, appealing fascinating, glamorous and magnetic, exuding a certain joie de vivre. When we're talking about charisma, we're talking about a trait rather than a quality imo. It can be developed and nurtured.