LOTR Heartbreak
hey got a prob......my girlfriend hates lotr and she makes fun of me because of it......calls me freak and loser and stuff....she dosn't like lotr at all.......and as you know i LOVE lotr.
is this a reason to break up?.....i'm very close to doing so but i want to do it for the right reasons.......what do you think....?? 😮
Uh, you and your girlfriend having different tastes and interest is ALREADY a problem to some extent. You may love each other on some part of your relationship but it is inevitable that you will have some arguments and misunderstanding over each other's interests. But I suppose it could be solved (or at least prevented from getting worse) to some extent; don't talk about it, don't insult each others tastes and favorites, etc. HOWEVER, your girlfriend calling you a freak and a loser because of your love for LOTR even though she knows that it is one of the greatest things in your life is wwwaaaaayyy out of line. Even if it's a joke...well, it's not funny. Having a relationship with somebody should be a very special moment in your life. You have a companion, a best friend, a listener, a supporter. A girlfriend or a boyfriend should be there next to you to give you moral support and other things, but I'm afraid your girlfriend does the opposite thing. If I have a boyfriend, I'll expect that he will be the LAST person to insult me and make fun of what I consider is my inspiration and one of the best things that came to my life. I'll prefer being mocked by hundreds of strangers than to be insulted by one of the most important persons in my life.
You still have the last decision though. I can't tell you to dump her right away. I am not certain how much you love her and what's more important to you, your girlfriend, or Middle-earth.
i would do whatever you think best, but you deserve better SMod, you really do 🙂
why dont you talk to her. tell her that she can have her own opinion of LOTR, but not to cut you down because of something that is an important part of your life. tell her you can disagree, but to worry about other things when your together and focus on things you both like.
but, if you have other problems too, or hte talking doesnt help tell her that you dont think it's going to work out 🙂
I agree with pip-foot and shadowy. I don't see why you went out with her in the first place if she doesn't like LOTR, but that's just me. If I had a boyfriend who didn't like LOTR, well, actually, he wouldn't be my boyfriend haha. I'd NEVER go out with anyone who insults LOTR, like all the guys at my school do. I have only two friends who are LOTR fans (guy friends, that is. I have about two other friends who like LOTR who are girls), but I couldn't imagine going out with them. We're just friends. But if your girlfriend calls you a freak and a loser just for being passionate for something other than her, I'd dump her. This is just my opinion, though. I'd go with what you think you should do. If you really love her and care about her more than LOTR (I'm not sure that's even possible...which is why I don't have a boyfriend at the moment haha), then stay with her. But calling you a freak and a loser is just wrong. Even if she doesn't like LOTR, it doesn't mean that she should insult you like that. What you like is what you like and you can't help it. She should just accept it and get over it. End of story.
And I get teased and insulted and called a freak and crap all the time by tons of people at my school. They do it because I like LOTR 😕 Good thing I'm not one of those preppy popular people who care about what everyone thinks...If I did, I wouldn't like LOTR, which is why I'm not one of them haha. If someone calls you names and insults you and stuff just for liking LOTR, forget them. I do. Just ignore them. They don't know what they're missing. They are the real losers and freaks. Just do what you think you should do, Smodden. Like shadowy said, go with your heart. You'll do the right thing, I know you will. 😉 Tell us what you did when you do it, alright?
Yeah, if she's joking, just ask her to stop, you know. But if she's not, I'd dump her....But it's all up to you, Smod. We can't control your decisions, but if she's insulting you for liking LOTR, 😕 eh, she's not worth it. It would be ok (not for me, but for you, sure, if you don't mind it) if she doesn't like LOTR and DOESN'T insult you or anything about it. But she shouldn't be making such a big deal about it. Your girlfriend's supposed to accept what you like and not call you a loser or freak for liking it. It's just not right.
Just to clarify, (coz I read my post again and it sounded somewhat a little condemnatory). I'm not saying that to have an ideal relationship, both parties should have the same tastes and interests and all. What I'm just saying is that even though you have different ideas of what makes you happy and content, both of you should still accept and respect the other's personal preference. Both of you have to adjust, not just the other one. Relationships don't go like that.