to spank or not to spank....that is the question
i hear much on this topic from alot of people....young and old . it varies from person to person . id like to know your opnion....
does spankings cause little montsers to behave and to respect their parents or do spankings cause little children to grow up to be monsters ?
for those who are comfortable with this question...
were you spanked as a child or not ? how did it effect your relationship with your parents ?
Re: to spank or not to spank....that is the question
Originally posted by shellie
i hear much on this topic from alot of people....young and old . it varies from person to person . id like to know your opnion....does spankings cause little montsers to behave and to respect their parents or do spankings cause little children to grow up to be monsters ?
for those who are comfortable with this question...
were you spanked as a child or not ? how did it effect your relationship with your parents ?
Teaching children that we deal with issues with physical violence is not something that I agree with. Let's see...a grown, much larger, adult, hitting a child to discipline them.
It doesn't mean that they grow up to be monsters, but it instills in them at a very early age that you solve things by hitting. What kind of message is that??
Spanking had an opposite effect on me, I just got more angry.
Here in Norway you aint!!!! allowed!!!! to spank your kid any longer. Kindergarten and neighbours can "turn" you in if they found out you did and in the worst scenario one could loose custody of your own child.
I wouldnt have the heart to spank my kid and I aint sure it have the wanted effect either. It sure as hell didnt on me so, my parents gave up on that after me being their 3 rebelious child.
yep, i was spanked, and i will spank my children. i have seen kids who havent been spanked and they have no fear of their parents at all. when your kids dont fear you (to a certain extent) whats to stop them from doing anything they want and know they arent going to be spanked? they have no boundaries. they never know when they've officially "crossed the line". if you just discipline them they say "oh well they will get over it" and they go right back to where they were because your punishment had no long term effects on their attitude.
Originally posted by Mane
yep, i was spanked, and i will spank my children. i have seen kids who havent been spanked and they have no fear of their parents at all. when your kids dont fear you (to a certain extent) whats to stop them from doing anything they want and know they arent going to be spanked?
Fear? Did you say FEAR? That is the most pathetic piece of garbage I have ever heard in my life. Children should not FEAR their parents. They are not our 'possesions', they are our children. Just because they are small does not give you the right to hit them. SO tell me, when you get old, and senile and don't do what your kids want, should they beat your stupid ass so that you fear them?
ok. what keeps people from doing things? love? maybe. joy? no. fear? yes. when youre a kid you dont do something because youre "scared" of what your parents will think. if the child has had no real discipline, they have no fear of crossing the line.
and no i stopped getting spanked years ago. youre twisting what im saying. i never said "spank your children until you die".
Re: to spank or not to spank....that is the question
Originally posted by shellie
i hear much on this topic from alot of people....young and old . it varies from person to person . id like to know your opnion....does spankings cause little montsers to behave and to respect their parents or do spankings cause little children to grow up to be monsters ?
for those who are comfortable with this question...
were you spanked as a child or not ? how did it effect your relationship with your parents ?
The problem herein lies buried underneath a more pressing issue:
Do our youth have TOO much freedom?
If a child is acting up, disobediant, or a downright hellspawn, they need to be punished. A "Time-Out" will not do it. Not every household can solve disputes like the Tanners of Full House. If your child is acting up, boot the little punk in the ass! Punish him! Do not let the child blackmail you with threats of notifying child services.
There is a fine line between discipline and abuse.
Originally posted by Mane
ok. what keeps people from doing things? love? maybe. joy? no. fear? yes. when youre a kid you dont do something because youre "scared" of what your parents will think. if they have no real discipline, they have no fear of crossing the line.
If you do a good job of PARENTING there is no need for your kids to have to fear you! Children respond to the pain being inflicted on them. So, in other words, you're a piece of shit as a parent, so, in order to gain CONTROL, you resort to hitting. That is very VERY mature.
Originally posted by Mane
dont begin to tell me about maturity. you claim your a ****ing moose!i will raise my kid the way i want. and dont try to push your dumbass views on me.
You're right, I truly believe I'm a moose.
You can raise them whatever way you want ****nuts, go for broke, but when your kids hate you 20 years from now, or whenever you get out of puberty, you'll understand. You're a ****ing kid. And obviously harbour many issues from the beatings your own ****ed up parents put on you.
Has anyone seen the show Desperate Housewives?
In the 1st or 2nd episode. This single mother has triplets, and they go to a Wake for this lady who commited suicide. Do you know what these kids did at the wake? They jumpe in the swimming pool. And when their mother told them to get out of the pool, they said no to her. Her children said no to her and told her they weren't going to get out of the pool.
Beating your children would have prevented such a scene.
Instead. the woman had to go into the pool, while wearing her black dress, just to physically drag them out. Those children have no fear of discipline nor do they respect their mother.
Originally posted by Canadian Moose
You're right, I truly believe I'm a moose.You can raise them whatever way you want ****nuts, go for broke, but when your kids hate you 20 years from now, or whenever you get out of puberty, you'll understand. You're a ****ing kid. And obviously harbour many issues from the beatings your own ****ed up parents put on you.
and i never said beat them to bruises! i meant just one spank. not abuse.
Originally posted by Canadian Moose
If you do a good job of PARENTING there is no need for your kids to have to fear you! Children respond to the pain being inflicted on them. So, in other words, you're a piece of shit as a parent, so, in order to gain CONTROL, you resort to hitting. That is very VERY mature.
I am by not means going to venture on a bloodlust tangent when it comes to raising children. You warn the child, you warn them again, and then you act as is needed.
If the child will not respond to your dictation of proper behaviour, then they need to face the consequences. There are many factors to take into consideration when determining a proper set of disciplinary guidelines.
Age, childs tendencies to misbehave, defining a mischievous act are three of the many examples.
Originally posted by Canadian Moose
You're right, I truly believe I'm a moose.You can raise them whatever way you want ****nuts, go for broke, but when your kids hate you 20 years from now, or whenever you get out of puberty, you'll understand. You're a ****ing kid. And obviously harbour many issues from the beatings your own ****ed up parents put on you.
my dad beat the living shit out of my ass with a belt when I did things that I knew I wasn't supposed to do. Mostly when I did hyperactive stuff that 6-10 year olds do.
I have a better relationship with my father than anyone on KMC...bar none.
Beating your children does not directly relate to the relationship you will grow up to have with them.
Originally posted by Linkalicious
Has anyone seen the show Desperate Housewives?In the 1st or 2nd episode. This single mother has triplets, and they go to a Wake for this lady who commited suicide. Do you know what these kids did at the wake? They jumpe in the swimming pool. And when their mother told them to get out of the pool, they said no to her. Her children said no to her and told her they weren't going to get out of the pool.
Beating your children would have prevented such a scene.
Instead. the woman had to go into the pool, while wearing her black dress, just to physically drag them out. Those children have no fear of discipline nor do they respect their mother.
Oh Puhlease! Now we're quoting abusrd TV shows.
If you DO your JOB as a parent, beating a child is not neccesary. They are ****ing CHILDREN! If you do something wrong and the cops or your neighbours beat on you for it, you would raise holy hell, claiming how wrong it was, but you'll do it to a defenceless child.
What a bunch of trash in here.