I was seeing someone from London, UK - and I am from Boston (USA) -- we met= then I went back to the states - and we kept things going (if that is possible???) but I went back to England 4 months later anyways.. I dont know if I would of kept the relationship going if I wasnt going back to the UK - that would be stupid... even though he is pretty cool!
us Yanky chics love those brits accents-- yummm
Oh I love this subject…
Long distance relationships can be great things. I dated a girl who was in a band and on the road half the time: It was like being single and being in a relationship all at once. Loved it. I was in a relationship with a girl that lived a few hours out of London by train. Saw her 2 or 3 times a month, worked a treat. She moved to london one summer & we broke up within a month.
Doesn't work for everyone - suits me fine.
However - if by long distance relationships you mean "Internet based relationships" then there are a few rules and tips that you might find come in handy if you are having a tough time coping, allow me to help you out.
If you haven't met the person IRL - you are not in a relationship.
If you share the deepest most private thoughts via email, but you haven't yet met the person face to face: You are not in a relationship.
If you talk for hours on the telephone: Sometimes not even talking - just listening to each other breathe, but have not yet met: you are not in a relationship.
If you have seen pictures of your intended and think they look hot, but have not yet met: You are not in a relationship.
If you can't stop thinking about them and your heart skips a beat every time you see they are online: You are not in a relationship.
If you feel more about them - someone you have never met - than you have ever felt about anyone you know IRL: you are NOT IN A RELATIONSHIP.
What you are in is a delusion. Love doesn't exist over the ether: Love is a complex organism and tho you can meet people of like mind and develop strange and beautiful new forms of relationship with them online - It's NOT LOVE. I repeat - because I know Geeks don't like to hear this.. ITS NOT LOVE.
You want to base long term plans around what you have, start to work towards being together and seeing if it works out IRL: Be my guest, more power to you - many relationships are based on far far less than the kind of understanding that you can find with someone online: It might work out, it could well work out, you have my best wishes for your future happiness. But.
If you have not let swapped spit, you are not in a ****ing relationship. If you haven't felt that chemical pull or drowned in another persons smell - you are not in love. And if you are deluded enough to think you are - and call yourself part of a couple, then your level of self delusion doesn't bode well for your chances once your pretty fable smashes headlong into the real world.
In closing I'd like to take this opportunity to tell backfire I love him and will wait for him forever.
Everyone who keeps saying Internet/Long-Distance Relationships suck and what not, are being close-minded scumbags and need to shut the f*ck up. Yes, I mean ALL of you who had something harsh to say about them. You people must be loved by millions of people in your surrounding areas, and have the f*ckin "perfect" lifestyle. Well newsflash a$$holes, not everybody is, and I myself know a few people who are in Long-Distance Relationships, AND some people in Internet Relationships, and basically if one of the two people gets a job, or something like that, I'd say e-mail them a hello that day, or if your on Yahoo messenger, message them while their offline. I myself use it when I have something to tell someone and they aren't online at the time, and I remind my friends to do the same if it's something that needs to be said, and they seem to handle the Distance/Internet fine, but just have questions sometimes.
So I suggest you stop acting like pricks, and let people do as they please, because it's all our own choice how we use the Internet.
Vent?
ok.
Long distance relationships are f.ucking hell. not being able to actually feel the comfort and embrace of your respective other is emotional torture. Waiting to see them is a nightmare that seems to never end, and hearing about them hanging out with people of the opposite sex "just as friends" is worst than eternity in purgatory.
I mean....yah...they work just fine.
I used to chat with this girl from Australia (I'm from Alabama in the states) and we traded pics and old stories and talked over the phone.
We constantly talked about how we were gonna meet each other and i was going to save money for a trip to Australia to see her. I was so stupid to think i could ever really be loved. She had this gy who lived a few hours away from her and, when we used to talk about us and family and friends, she started talking about him and how she 'loved' him. She often talked about how she was undecided about which one of us she loved the most. I told her to think about it and when she got the answer we would bring the topic up again. We used to talk alot befor that. She stopped having anything to say to me. She couldn't find anything at all to talk about anymore. It was like if she couldn't talk about him she wasn't going to talk at all. On top of that she would just post the crying smilies all the time and no matter what i did of said it just wouldn't stop. I didn't know what to do anymore. The one person i felt so close to was just not there anymore. I used to turn on my computer and have that person to talk to, then she went away. Its the worst tourture anyone could go through when they actually care. This is no mutual admiration club on the internet we're talking about. It's two people who find each other to be their equal without physical atraction to change their thoughts of the other. When we all grow up and see you can't find a perfect body with a mind that matches what you want, then we might end up happy. Until then J-lo and Ben Aflec will never marry and if they do they will just get a divorce like every other superficial marriages out there. Now.....I've vented.