I seriously can't explain it, but I will at least try...
I was always a chubby ((or if they were being nice, 'cuddly'😉) child, and I liked sweets too much! I was one of the first girls in my year group to enter puperty at about ten years old, so I had a proper curvy womans figure when other girls my age still had boyish skinny figures. I was told I was 'fat' from about the age 12, and I never really cared enough to do anything abt it. I just ate more when I was bullied, really. I sorta became the fat, funny one that everyone liked.
when i got to sixth form, I didnt want to be 'the fat one' anymore. all my friends were slim, and I found that they kept their figures by NOT EATING, so I started copying them. I was really happy when, after about four months of almost starvation, I got to a size 12, then I started eating normlly again, and balloned up to a size 16 again, and I sorta fluctuate between 12 and 16 all the time now.
It seems to be some sort of horribly endless vicious circle though. I mean, I don't even know that many guys that REALLY want the ultra-slim girls. How did being THAT slim manage to be so associtated with being the right thing to be? Everything seems so totally disproportionate. When I see one of the slim girls, I worry she will break if I hug her!
Originally posted by Ushgarak
It seems to be some sort of horribly endless vicious circle though. I mean, I don't even know that many guys that REALLY want the ultra-slim girls. How did being THAT slim manage to be so associtated with being the right thing to be? Everything seems so totally disproportionate. When I see one of the slim girls, I worry she will break if I hug her!
ever heard of 'models' ush?
super skinny women are always paraded in magazines as being what we should try and attain - they are the 'perfect' woman
Many of my friends have had eating disorders! Some that weren't even fat or chubby, suffer now from loss of appetite. In fact, one or too are even at hospital 😬 I had this friend who used to be thin, she just STOPPED eating for weeks, she only ate fruits or liquids! Now she looks like a skeleton.
I myself have never had any weight problems no matter how much I ate. However, I do support healthy eating and try to convince these weight-obsessed friends of mine that not eating at all is neither a diet, nor healthy.
When you have a diet without working out, all you lose is muscles and not fat. lookaround Duh, people can be so stubborn sometimes! 😛
Originally posted by Ushgarak
In your experiences, is there anything at all that helps you deal with these problems?
eating with other people cos they make me eat properly.
but theres very few people who I will actually eat in front of, which is probably why I used to binge eat. between teenage girls, eating is sorta shameful, even at sleepovers, when we have three tubs of ice-cream and a bag of popcorn between five girls, very little of it will actually be eaten
Wow, I mean, guys go through snacks like anything. And when I rpvided ice cream for a girl, it got eaten pretty darn quick! 'twas pricey too... but then again, whilst both gierls I have ever really entertained both thought themselves far fatter then they were, neither of them had disorders like you describe, not that I knew of anyway.
I relaly wish I knew how to help people with this kinda thing... other than invite everyone to dinner... actually...
(makes plans)
I don't evn know how to help myself! I KNOW what I should do, and I DO have periods of eating healthily and going to the gym, but then something stressful, like exams, or something stupid, like a person referred to me as 'the fat one' when they didn't think i was listening a few weeks ago, will throw me again and I'll starve myself