Just friends

Started by smoker42 pages
Originally posted by peterKSL
To abondon someone you greatly love is like abondoning your family members...

I disagree you are talking about different types of love, when it comes to family thats uncondictional love its a two way street most of the time. Its not the same as romantic love 😮‍💨

That's not true. I think if you care about the person deep down still. Then you really don't want to lose them as friend, as well as bf/or gf.

It means they want you still a part of your life, but not sure how to make it possible.

Originally posted by Linkalicious
I think the whole "lets still be friends" line is used when a relationship just doesn't "work out."

Neither person did something heinous to get dumped by the other...but the feelings that were once there are now gone.

Personally, I think the whole "lets be friends" line is used by people who don't want the animosity that some break ups carry around aftwards. Most times they don't want to be close friends...they just don't want to be enemies.

But still, a feeling that was once there, will be there again, somehow.
I strongly object the "lets still be friends" thing...
I don't believe it, and I won't...

Originally posted by vaya_the_elf
That's not true. I think if you care about the person deep down still. Then you really don't want to lose them as friend, as well as bf/or gf.

It means they want you still a part of your life, but not sure how to make it possible.

Yes but what i meant is that if you have a mother you will always love your mom and she will always love you but with a partner there is no guarantee

They may still want to be in your life as a friend but all im saying is its a hard thing to change the dynamics of a relationship unfortunatly 🙁

Originally posted by smoker4
I disagree you are talking about different types of love, when it comes to family thats uncondictional love its a two way street most of the time. Its not the same as romantic love 😮‍💨

Bonds that are broken can be mend again. By choosing not to mend, is like abondoning that bond... That bond can only be found in friends, compatitors, your own personal idols, family members, and your love ones. That bond, can be defined by love/respect.

In a kind of way, I say that abondoning your love ones is like abondoning your family members, because family members are first-third most important thing in most everyday people's life..

I don't even know if this whole thing makes sense... 😂

If I were to ever choose, I won't abondon my partner anyhow.. that is for certain...

Man, some good points here. I dont know if i did the right thing, by asking her to still be friends. O well, i'll find out sooner or later, what comes of this.

Yeah, keep us posted. If getting back with her doesn't work out, go for her sister.

Been there lol

lol, nah she has no sister. Plus i cant think of any other girl right now, only her. But if we can still just hang out n shit, i wont make any moves on her. I know it;s over. But i cant stop thinking about her. So i gotts to be friends with her.

That's sad.

You can't stop thinking about her, so instead of going out to find someone to make you stop thinking about her....you're going to hang onto friendship that will almost certainly be a mediocre friendship at best.

And what happens when you two are buddies and she decides its time for another boyfriend? Do you think you are really going to be that everyday buddy when she has a new boyfriend? Do you think it will be any easier forgetting about her after hanging onto her for so long?

Seriously, if the relationship isn't multi-year long, and neither of you have moved in together.....then just move on. It hurts now, but you're saving yourself A LOT of trouble in the long run.

Originally posted by Linkalicious
That's sad.

You can't stop thinking about her, so instead of going out to find someone to make you stop thinking about her....you're going to hang onto friendship that will almost certainly be a mediocre friendship at best.

And what happens when you two are buddies and she decides its time for another boyfriend? Do you think you are really going to be that everyday buddy when she has a new boyfriend? Do you think it will be any easier forgetting about her after hanging onto her for so long?

Seriously, if the relationship isn't multi-year long, and neither of you have moved in together.....then just move on. It hurts now, but you're saving yourself A LOT of trouble in the long run.

trust link to look on the bright side 😛

but he's right...

unless you've been together at least a year or so then there's really no point...

just tell her you want her back or else give it up...

No.

no what?

No to the original question. Don't be friends with your ex girlfriends.

oh... 😮

and yes, i agree...

I believe in staying friends if it doesn't work out.

Do good times outweigh the bad?

This one chick I knew broke my heart after a week. She still wanted to be friends but she never established a credibility with me. All she did was f*** me over. So in that case, I wouldn't stay friends.

ya, well i'm not going to be hanging around with her everyday. Prolly only talk with her, once or twice every couple of weeks. And when we do go out, it wud be with otha friends. I still like her... yes. But i know it's over, but i still want to be in contact with her.