i don't see hypocrisy or one-sidedness. instead, i see reality versus fantasy, even in a fantastic setting. nobody ever said "spider-man's powers work by reproducing spider-like abilities within a human form, as is what happens in the real world." wolverine's power has ALWAYS been bounded to a simple advancement of a human's own healing capabilities. there's a difference between how the powers are meant to operate, and judging something meant to be advanced realism versus something meant to be purely fantastic requires different sets of rules.
anyway, cyclops' eyes are interdimensional portals, the energy streams through them as if they weren't there. no need for a recoil. sue storm changes how light reflects off of her, causing a distortion affect to make her appear invisible. she's not changing how light impacts on her, so there's no reason she shouldn't be able to see. not only that, but it's pure fantasy. same goes for spider-man's tricks, often stuck into his self-created SvFL category. they may make faux-science in the comics, but it's not real, and can't be compared to a real-world scenario. warren's wings have always had enhanced strength enough to lift and carry him through the skies. they're not limp chickadee wings. various energy producers simply aren't given explanation as they're minor characters. chock that up to "pure fantasy" or lack of explanation, but most "main" energy-producers get explanations that are equally fantastic. iceman's genetic destiny defies human boundaries anyway, and colossus' "energy wave" that converts him to steel is a faux-alchemic property. typical superhumans have an "x-factor" that is NOT genetic, that grants them certain powers once catalyzed. if radiation or gamma rays or cosmic rays act as the catalyst, does that not just move them further into "fantasy"? or what about the supernatural aspect to spidey's powers, as explained by ezekiel?
NONE of the above-mentioned crap is either meant to reflect reality. people don't have wings, people don't have energy beams, and people aren't made of exotic carbon chains. people ARE capable of healing themselves with some degree of speed, which has been the basis of wolverine's powers from the get-go.
enough rambling... the bottom line is wolverine's healing factor is meant to reflect an advanced human ability, whereas your other examples aren't. they can't be held to the same standards, just as varied crimes are held to different folkways and legal restrictions.
