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Originally posted by The Omega
BackFire> But the point is that ****, whore, etc. etc are derogatory words coined on WOMEN. They were not made to be used against men.
The words in question do NOT bring a picture of a sexually active MAN to mind, do they?
So once again: Can you name a derogatory word used for a man who is very sexually active?
I couldn't tell you one just because of the reasons below, except for man whore.lol
The reason is that old beliefs simple DO hang with us today, once you think of it long enough, many laws are from old beliefs, in America, religion is more of an influence on the law than anyone would like to admit.
Society has been told that it is acceptable and rewarding to have many partners as a male, and not true for the opposite sex, why, I will try to explain the best I can below on your other points.
Originally posted by The Omega
Society tells women, that if they are very sexually active, it’s something negative! This is just a fact.
Men – on average – are more easily turned on by physical things than women. Hey, good hips nice breasts – a good child-bearer. Women – on average – need to know if he’s the alpha-male, so we like to at least exchange words with a would-be sexual partner first. Hey, good idea, he needs to bring the beef home.
Hence the reason why men go nuts over striptease, sit in XXX-booths and read magazines. They are aroused by mere looks, more so then women – on average (Show me Keanu in next to nothing, and I’ll need a cold shower!)
I'm not so sure that deep down all men naturally like these things, because there are many who find it wrong, be it now or later. Particularly when its a protective male looking after a daughter or sister do they take these influences into consideration.
It is true however that women are simply the chilbearers, and this point alone plays a crucial role in realizing the rest of your own points, and coming to an understanding of todays world.
Originally posted by The Omega
Ush> Hey, times change. Once we thought the Sun circled the Earth and that space was filled with Ether. But guess what? Times change, we learn new stuff about the world and ourselves. Once the idea that women should vote was considered absolutely out of this world. WOMEN? These emotional, irrational, frail beings??
Anyone who discards new knowledge in favour of what they WANT to believe is disturbing. What you consider as something which reflects badly on me I couldn’t care less about.
I’m merely curious as to why it is so extremely important to you to cling to an old way of thinking.
Merely since it is practice and custom, and is in fact PARTIALLY true.
Think for a second, when it was considered fine and no taboo for a man to have many wives, why?
Procreation!!!!! Thats the key word here, to have 50 men on an island with one woman would be a failed mission, because a woman is built to come pregnant once at a time, despite the sperm deposited.
50 women on an island with one man, and there is a chance for survival, because we are the fertilizers, no amount of education, religion, or ethics can change that simple fact. We are built to fertillize, and to top it off, its much easier to imagine doing so if the subject is visually stimulating, as it is EASIER for men to remove emotion for sex as is vice versa, its less sacred. AC covered that well.
Originally posted by The Omega
”Do people seriously believe that as many relationships become troubled because women want sex and the man doesn't, rather than the other way around?”
This is actually a fact. After five years the number of men who loose interest is ”alarmingly” higher than we were brought up to believe. I know it happens. It was one of the reasons I got a divorce.
Also think of the thought of transaction here, people who look at others as a mean to reach their own goals, leave people feeling shortchanged.
Why do you think so many people feel worn down working in stores or fastfood? They are a transaction to the others persons needs, no emotion is invested.
Also why pornography is so popular, and places like these. Pornography needs no emotional investment, its a quick transaction, no talking, no arguing, nothing is needed.
While it is a quick fix, it definitley causes people to miss the feel of a good hard worked on relationship.
Originally posted by The Omega
” But this is simply the acknowledgement that Men are more constantly driven by the desire for it than Women are.”
Nature really roally screwed up there, huh? It’s like the old problem, that if SO many men committed adultery, then where were all the women they committed adultery with?
Silly nature, to give one gender a greater sexual drive than the other, isn’t it?
Many of the problems here is its actually the womans fault too. They crave attention. Since many households lack a fatherfigure, a girl can constantly grow up without a male figure to understand and talk to.
So once they get older and want a guy to talk to, they go for the cheap solution, which gets a cheap solution in return.
To say you want a relationship with strong communication, and then rely on aesthetic features to start one, makes the whole interaction awry.
Lets face it, people don't "look good" to not be looked at, though we have evolved, beauty is power, and women know it. On the same token aswell, women often get " benifits" for looking better than a man would never have or get from other people.
Originally posted by The Omega
Finally: What do we consider as sexual options? What do we know, or what have we learned that we can derive some kind of benefit or pleasure from? The male ice-menu (let’s call it that) is infinitely larger than the female one. Girls and women are only recently begun exploring gay-porn (oh, yes, they have), porn in general and a variety of other stimulants. But we were not originally brought up to it BEING options for us.
Transaction is the key here, with little emotional investment...
Originally posted by The Omega
If you’ve always only had the chance of choosing either chocolate- or strawberry icecream, that is what you eat. You don’t even consider all the other flavours, and may not even want to try them out. You have to realise that they are there, and sample them, to see if it’s something for you…
Agreed.