Originally posted by Alpha Centauri
Well considering we're discussing infidelity and you've never even experienced it's effects (which are a major relevant factor) nor the effects of fidelity, you've not got much at all to do with this discussion have you?-AC
Well the discussion is aboot our thoughts on Cards on Adultery and to that discussion my views are just as valueable as those of the people that have or got cheated on.
Originally posted by Storm
It is painful, beyond any doubt. However, I believe a relationship can survive infidelity and be stronger than before. It will take time for the wounds of betrayal to heal and both parties must be willing to work together to move the relationship forward.
screw that. if i get cheated on, thats instant grounds for a break up.
wounds of betrayal never heal, until you kick their sorry ass to the curb.
then they heal nicely.
Originally posted by finti
talk out of experience or...................
experience both ways.
when i was young and stupid, i thought we could "work it out".
thats just a fools hope for people afraid of change and having to stand on their own again. it sucks, but sometimes you have to.
after, i fell victim to the same bullshit, but from someone else. i was devistated to hear the news, dumped her ass on the spot...and felt like a million bucks. the scars of infidelity exist because people tend to blame themselves for what happened and feel that had they done things different...blah blah.
but the fact is, if you can rise above that mentallity, and realise that you dont deserve that, you can get over shit really quick and move on, stronger and wiser.
but the fact is, if you can rise above that mentallity, and realise that you dont deserve that, you can get over shit really quick and move on, stronger and wiseryeah but that is the big question at hand though. Not everybody is as mentally strong and some may be so head over heels in love and so bloody infatuated with the person that cheated that the betrayal really has a devastating affect that heals sooooooooo slowly and sometimes it doesnt heal
Originally posted by finti
yeah but that is the big question at hand though. Not everybody is as mentally strong and some may be so head over heels in love and so bloody infatuated with the person that cheated that the betrayal really has a devastating affect that heals sooooooooo slowly and sometimes it doesnt heal
imho, it doesnt heal for people who cant understand that its not their fault, they never deserved it, and they are better off without them. a product of low self esteem. a forever lingering haunting thought of what could have been. "what did i do wrong" "how could i have done it different" bottom line: regret and total lack of closure.
the grief one feels should simply be the void left behind, and feeling of loneliness, personal loss. that heals over time. but if you find yourself missing someone who either doesnt miss you or would simply treat you like shit, then thats not healthy at all, and thats the type of wound that wont heal until you wake up and realise your worth.