love

Originally posted by DrDoom101
Does love just occur randomly or does it depend on the people in it? For example, this girl i love. i love her but she doesnt love me back. Well she doesnt know yet. Ill tell her one day but not yet. Am i supposed to try to make her love me or will she do it automatically? Basically im just wondering if i can make her love me.

Is this someone you have personally known for a long time? I don't know, in my opinion, you can't love someone you don't really know. I mean you might know them but you don't know them, if you get my drift. You might like her a lot and think it is love but you wont know for sure unless you go out with her and spend lots of quality time with her. If you are still with her months from now then yeah, it's probably love, but if you go on like three dates and decide you don't feel the same anymore than it wasn't love in the first place. That's what I believe anyways. I guess I get that from personal experience.

Originally posted by DrDoom101
Does love just occur randomly or does it depend on the people in it? For example, this girl i love. i love her but she doesnt love me back. Well she doesnt know yet. Ill tell her one day but not yet. Am i supposed to try to make her love me or will she do it automatically? Basically im just wondering if i can make her love me.

hmm..it really depends on what a person finds attractive in another person...you can't really make someone love you...when you say that, it makes it seem like you would take on a whole different personality just so she can love you....you shouldn't do that🙁... If it's meant to be, then it will happen🙂 If she finds your personality attractive, then that could lead to a close relationship with her..perhaps even love🙂...it also depends on how much you know the person, and how much they know you. Cuz sometimes, you may think that you know a person, but then you can find out some things about them that you wouldn't have expected..heh.

I believe people can fall in and out of love...People change, they out grow each other, but still you can have affections for the other person, just not on the deeper level.

From what I have seen in DrDooms post and in the replies, it would appear that love is nothing lest we make something of it. Well if that be the case, then we can make love what we want it to be. Therefore there is no such thing as love...tis just a suggestion.

Love is cut and dry. You either Love someone or you don't. You can't just Love somebody a little bit.

That's like saying a woman can get a little bit pregnant, no. It's impossible.

And you can't be in Love with someone one day and then not the next day then again fall back in love with that same person the next week or the year after.

You either in Love or you're not.

Although a forum, by definition, invites discussion, sometimes too much intellectualizing about a topic (eg, love, death) becomes a distraction to real understanding. And often, real understanding only comes with experience, experience combined with honesty, insight and hope.

Nonetheless, in the spirit of "let's talk about it some more," maybe the following might be useful.

http://www.mamassecrets.com/5stages.htm

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Originally posted by FistOfThe North
Love is cut and dry. You either Love someone or you don't. You can't just Love somebody a little bit.

That's like saying a woman can get a little bit pregnant, no. It's impossible.

And you can't be in Love with someone one day and then not the next day then again fall back in love with that same person the next week or the year after.

You either in Love or you're not.

Think of it rather like a flint, it is quick to burn with a fiery intensity, but soon the flint will burn away and you'll be back to cold ashes....

I think love is more a like an organism so to say...It's intensity of feeling...Living and yet not set in stone...It moves ignites and diminishes but not even completely. It always swarms and surprises a person not even looking for it. It's like a living entity. It's also like a moth to the flame. It looks and feels good, and knowing that it could burn you, you still are attracted to it.

love is just a strong emotional attachment to anything. hence the idea that love and hate are the same thing, in some ways they are.