This is not about perfection. This is about strength....I cannot help another person with thier insecurities or whatnot, until I deal with my own...I cannot help another person rid of thier anger/pain until I release my own.
I can feed people, because I am fed. I can give money, because I have money.
How can you help someone on drugs when you know nothing of drugs ?
I did not say I am refusing people help. What I meant was that I can no longer fight other people's battles for them.
I cannot argue on behalf of every single Gay person against every single Homophobe. Gay people can defend themselves.
I cannot argue on behalf of every Hispanic against Racism. Hispanics will have to speak up for themselves as well.
And so on, and so on. What annoys me the most is how the people I aim to defend still can't let go of thier own biases. A lot of Hispanics I know of think they are somehow better than Black people, and a lot of Hispanics I know are Heterosexist and see themselves as morally superior to Homosexual and Bisexual people. Likewise, a lot of Gay people I know are superficial beyond reason, and even hold racist views. My ex boyfreind for example would tell freinds that I was Italian, and not mention that I was also Hispanic....
I can only help people who want to be helped. I can say this or that, I can share my experience and give advice, but I am not a doctor or sociologist. I still have my own problems (most of which are in my head) to deal with.
My drug analogy you took wrong. You do not have to be addicted to drugs to help another addict, but if you are ignorant of drugs and addiction, how can you possibly help a drug addict ?
I have to learn HOW to help.....and right now, if i have some self exploration to due. I cannot invite myself to another's negativity right now, because it makes me negative. I have TOO MUCH Empathy...which easily influences my mood and emotions.
Until I learn to control my empathy, I have to resist exposure to another's dilemma...at least to an extant.
Originally posted by Goddess KaliThere are simple ways to help any person in distress. Support, love, accountability, etc.
My drug analogy you took wrong. You do not have to be addicted to drugs to help another addict, but if you are ignorant of drugs and addiction, how can you possibly help a drug addict ?