My friend's problem

It's strange how many parents don't really know their kids to see a change in behavior alone. I got to believe it's self imposed ignorance.

It is strange, isn't it?

Not particularly, people can be very good at hiding things.

My family never notices that anything's wrong with me unless something's gotten me incredibly upset because I always hide how I'm feeling.

Hmmmmmmmm...good acting then. But still there must have been some clues...Maybe distance from your parents?

In some cases, maybe. With me, I've never really been close to my family, so yeah.

It's a defense mechanism.

Because you felt you weren't being listen too or heard?

Me? No, I just never got along with my family that much when I was younger, and largely still don't.

I've just always had a habit of keeping everything to myself. Not a good thing, I know, and I'm trying to get out of that habit.

I hear ya with the family thing for sure....Kids are very very smart in keeping things looking as usual playing that game. I think many of us did that kind of thing. I don't know why though. Was it to protect them? Or protect us from them.

Maybe this person does need some professional help; it could even be sexual abuse. If you're afraid that she'll be mad at you for telling someone, it's better if she's mad at you, than if she doesn't get any help at all. She may be mad for a while, even for a few years, but I think in the end she'll thank you. Try contacting a church or pastor. They're usually good about keeping things confidential unless it's a matter about going to the police, like physical abuse in the home. It may also be something about school. Maybe some people are daring her to hurt herself. Maybe she's wanting to kill herself, but just can't, and so she hurts herself instead. It could be any number of things. If you really love your friend, you HAVE to go to someone. You could even go to your parents or a really close family friend for help.

Well moments ago, i had my friend in college talk to her. My college friend has been through this and she has cut her arms before. So i trust her to know what she's doing with my friend. So my college friend is currently handling this business. She can hate me for the rest of my life but i just don't want her to be hurt.