What is the Point of Love if it is going to Hurt you?

Originally posted by Captain King
As someone who has very little compassion and "love", I believe I should be one of the people who's opinion is most considerd.

The point of the excersize isn't nesscarly to feel good, but to feel. Feeling is nature's way of keeping us in reality. Without feeling, we wouldn't know if we were being burned alive.

Well, just as we have physiqual feeling to warn us of eminent danger, so to do we have emotional feelings. When we feel hurt emotionaly, that's our natural insticts to avoid it again. Not to say we need to avoid love, as then we wouldn't feel anything. And that's not bennefical to you either.

The point is to minimize the threat and maxmimize the goods.

Now how to go about doing that is increddibly difficult, but it is acheivable. Notice some people are happy as clams. Not to say they never feel hurt, but they're generaly happier then you. Thus that makes them more succesful then you.

Unless you dope yourself out you're going to feel emotions anyway. Maybe not broken heart syndrome, but you're still going to feel jealousy, anger, fear, depression, desire, and a slew of other shit.

So, you may as well go looking for someone to knock boots with. And this is from someone who just brokeup with his girlfriend. I try to avoid feeling sorry for myself, i'm not the only person in the God-damn world who's had a skank for a girlfriend, and I ceartainly won't be the last.

It's my duty to minimize my pain and maximize my happyness.

Which conviently comes in the form of making my ex a miserable, hallow, shell of a person.

If we can feel horrible from a breakup, that just proves how good we can feel in a relationship. I can assume that as upset as I fealt at the peak of breakup is comparible to the volume of euphoria I will feel when I meet the right person. And I don't believe in all that soul-mate shit. But I do believe there's someone out there who isn't a total ***** and will marry and stay with me.

but what if you were in a relationship with sum1 who you loved? and the love was reciprocated? and yet for various reasons, you two were extremely miserabl because of it? would you leave???

i think there is no point to being happy or not "suffering" if your not alive to begin with. without love, the very THING that you are trying to make happy/save from suffering in yourself, dies.

Oh and let me add, to thyn own self be true. 😄

but, the problem is. when you love sumeone, you want to live, and hence be true for/to THEM.

is it predetermined that love will hurt? i have never experienced this emotion, and if i have its been so long ago, for such a short time in my life....

it is not human nature though...? human nature is to pass on ones genetics, which really has nothing to do with love, simply security in the fact that your mate is able to reproduce....

humans being's biological nature at its basic might be perpetuating genes. but it doesnt hold true for intellectual/emotional/spiritual nature. i think its also in our nature to DO sumthing with the life that we are trying to hard to perpetuate.

Love......

I'm still going to try for Brendan. I basically gave up on the idea, until someone encouraged me.

I'll probably just end up hurting even more, but that's a chance you have to take, to make someone else happy..... and even yourself.

I guess the hope of being loved is greater than the fear of getting hurt. I believe it's better to have love and lost, than never have loved at all. And yes, I'm a romantic person. 😉

Regards, Yvonne

I've never experienced love or romance, and it's killing me. Probably conformitism or the affects of society, but I so want a meaningful relationship.

Originally posted by lord xyz
I've never experienced love or romance, and it's killing me. Probably conformitism or the affects of society, but I so want a meaningful relationship.

I haven't experienced it either, and I don't really want to. I guess I'm just scared of falling in infatuation. Like doing something with a certain someone, and then realizing I didn't love them, or they didn't love me, and totally regretting whatever was done.

But it does get lonely, and it hurts a lot sometimes. Having no one to hold while everyone around you does....... I hate that feeling.

So that's why I'm going to try with Brendan again. Even if it breaks my heart trying, I'm going to put effort in it at least, and hopefully I'll be able to look back at the moment with pride, or some kind of happiness.

Originally posted by SelphieT
I haven't experienced it either, and I don't really want to. I guess I'm just scared of falling in infatuation. Like doing something with a certain someone, and then realizing I didn't love them, or they didn't love me, and totally regretting whatever was done.

But it does get lonely, and it hurts a lot sometimes. Having no one to hold while everyone around you does....... I hate that feeling.

So that's why I'm going to try with Brendan again. Even if it breaks my heart trying, I'm going to put effort in it at least, and hopefully I'll be able to look back at the moment with pride, or some kind of happiness.

Originally posted by lord xyz
Yeah, I need to try aswell, I'm doing really bad, but and time's running out, but I'm sure it'll happen.

im not looking for 'that certain one' but do you htink that society pushes these things onto us?like having to fall in love than get married than having kids etc

Originally posted by the welsh one
im not looking for 'that certain one' but do you htink that society pushes these things onto us?like having to fall in love than get married than having kids etc

but why,just because you feel you need someone?