Physical attraction

My physical attractions have changed as I got older. I identify as Bisexual, so here are my "types":

Women

-feminine or tomboyish, either 1 is ok
-voluptous, not skinny, not fat either
-big eyes, any color will do
-long eyelashes
-big breasts preferred
-big ass
-any skin color, doesn't matter as long as complexion is smooth
-any race, as long as she's hott
-straight or wavy hair preferred

Men

-muscular !!!!!
-Masculine...not macho, but manly...i dont like feminine guys
-taller than me
-developed chest
-any eye color will do
-longer penis preferred
-bigger nipples preferred
-big ass
-smooth hair, don't like nappy or bald

Sidenote- I have always liked both men and women for as long as I can remember. I used to, however, be more attracted to women. But ever since age 15, i Started liking Men a LOT MORE. As of today, i would much rather date a guy than girl, but there are some girls who turn me on just as easily...so i duno.

Why my physical type attractions developed? Don't know....mediadefinately has a part in this ! Not in terms of my sexual orientation, but in terms of which men or women i prefer. I am not racist by any means, but I find that when it comes to men I prefer european, mediterranean, or hispanic. When it comes to women, i am more racially open...i duno y.

Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. Personally speaking, I prefer curvy, athletic women types. Yum. 🙂

What determines over preferences when it comes to a partner?
I once saw a show on BBC or Discovery where scientists showed, that when it comes to faces humans in general (all over the world) go for SYMMETRY… (Somehow our minds are able to determine this).
Males should generally go for wide hips, females for broad shoulders…
But we neither live on the plains anymore, nor are we incapable of going further than what we term instincts.

It’s my experience that men prefer a little over the average weight to a little under so to speak. The same can be said for most women. The slim/skinny fashion image is not what we truly look for.

Is it due to our parent’s appearance? I guess only so far that if you’re beautiful you’ll have a better chance at getting a beautiful partner.
I doubt media really has more to say than “crushes” on movie- and music-stars. Yes, the fashion media affects teen-agers to a degree that anorexia has become a problem not only among teen-age boys but also girls down to the age of eight! (Scary btw). But that is not so much an issue of what we want IN a partner, more what we might think OTHERs look for in us, I’d say.

Personally I’d been from thin to chubby, tall to small, red hair, brown hair, black hair, blond, long, short… ehh… today I LIKE the slightly muscular look (not too much though), tall, big teeth (yeah, I know, but I do), very short hair (or shaved), but the guy must also have humour, intelligence, wits, an ironic distance to his own excellence. A sense of occasion and empathy are highly valued… A good imagination, a warrior-soul, an alpha-male when it comes to self-confidence… So, yeah, it’s the looks at catches my attention, but the personality that catches my mind/heart so to speak…

I think people seem to go for people who's face is more Asymmetric...well balanced. Of course there is that pheromone thingie, but for me, they have to be bigger than me.......I mean my god, I'm only 5 foot tall.....lol. I like a guy to look like a guy and act like one...It does not really matter what color hair or even if they are in the greatest shape...It comes down to personality in the end. A sense of humour, wit and intelligence, and also like Omega said self confidence.........Chests are nice though.... ✅

I like a take charge kind of woman. I don't want a dominatrix, but she needs to know what she thinks and why she thinks it. She needs to know what she wants and be willing to take it. She also needs to be rational, a relationship is give and take, moderate compromise on both ends is the key.

That being said, other than my wife, my family does not have a woman as strong as I like in it. Given this, I have to assume that this attraction must come from one of two areas. Either I took this from the male side of my family or I gained it from exposure to feminism in the media. None of my brothers show signs of similar attraction, and I do not see it in the family farther back, so this I assume is not the impetus for the attraction. I have to assume that media has shaped this view.

I think that the media is a huge contributor to society's definition of beauty. We're constantly being told what is beautiful & what isn't...how can we not be affected by it?

As for what I think's attractive...well...I don't like overly muscular guys...I prefer lean muscle. I tend to like paler skin, but a slight tan is good also. I love broad shoulders & full lips. I like taller men...I've always had a boyfriend who was as tall, or taller than me. (I'm about 5'6, 5'7)

If I found a guy who matched my above description, but had an awful personality, then I would have no interest in him. I think personality is what can either break an attraction, or make it complete.

To me, physical appearance is subordinate to personality.

Originally posted by Storm
To me, physical appearance is subordinate to personality.

Not necessarily. Should be true in the "big picture". But, it is no less than third on everyone superficial "laundry list". Income is the other factor, in addition to physical attractiveness.

Not in my case. Fire and I met on line, and only met in real life afterwards. It' s no secret that I didn' t find him attractive, but I was already won over by his personality. The both of us are without an income, as we' re still studying at university.

Originally posted by Storm
Not in my case. Fire and I met on line, and only met in real life afterwards.

Ditto, as have my fiance and I.....but not first w/o seeing pics of her.

Originally posted by Storm
To me, physical appearance is subordinate to personality.

Yes, it often is. I am speaking about physical attraction. People have an easier time describing the reasons for finding a personality attractive than they do explaining why the consider the appearance attractive. What is it that causes the attraction, what learning influenced it, and are there universal norms in what increases attraction?