Marriage. Is it [I]really[/I] necessary?

Marriage institutionalises separation. He’s mine, she’s mine. I marry you, therefore I own you. This is the spoken or unspoken reality of marriage and relationships in general. It is the means through which people buy into a manufactured sense of security and a desperately limited version of “love”. They buy the fairy stories about wedding days and happy every afters. Most marriage is not about love, but possession and control. Only a tiny few marriages are fulfilling the partners. They may not realise why they feel empty and unfulfilled, but it’s because their real potential to expand and create is being suppressed by this institutionalised prison. The consequences of walking away are too much for most people to contemplate and that is the only reason why the divorce rate, already rising rapidly, is not a tidal wave. Soon it will be''

Divorce rate has gone up to pass 50%..............why is that?

Originally posted by debbiejo
Divorce rate has gone up to pass 50%..............why is that?

Originally posted by Sai1
Aside from the fact that the bride's name will become that of the groom's, does anything really change when people get married? Do two people really need to get married in order to live happily together? Or is this just another human conceived notion that people got used to?

I'm sorry to say that the man is the victim when it comes to belongings in a divorce. he is usually left with the 15 inch TV and two cans of Hormel chili.

hey think about this if u believe in it
jesus never married marry magdalene
what do u think did they cared about getting married ?noooooo
they believe in love not in marriage

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Originally posted by Sai1
Aside from the fact that the bride's name will become that of the groom's, does anything really change when people get married? Do two people really need to get married in order to live happily together? Or is this just another human conceived notion that people got used to?

Is marriage neccessary? to some people, yes it is...

To me, its making it official, so the whole world can see that two people love each other that much that they want to stay together... couple's can break up, but marriage... it implies certain commitments... commitments that reassure and comfort each partner...

Just my two cents...

Originally posted by Storm
Making any relationship work requires a dedication of time and effort, and there are never any guarantees.

Marriage is only a piece of paper.....and honestly, you still never really can know what goes on in the others mind........There should be an "Out clause"..............Oh, yeah, it's called divorce.......lol

People grow and change all the time....Living with someone you no longer love for the rest of your days is just not enjoying life...

Originally posted by Sai1
Aside from the fact that the bride's name will become that of the groom's, does anything really change when people get married? Do two people really need to get married in order to live happily together? Or is this just another human conceived notion that people got used to?

I don't think marriage is necessairy, unless the two want to have kids (for the child's sake).
Other than that, I suppose it's the desire for security and commitment.
Marriage, the "official" form of love, doesn't provide the "freedom" of doing everything you want. This can both good and bad for a couple.
Some have a strong sence of security, knowing that their wife/husband is not "supposed", or not "allowed" to leave, as they are officially "stuck" with each other.
On the other hand, some don't realise this aspect until after 5-10 years of marriage. People want their freedom, and that's what usually causes divorce.

i like the idea of marrage being with one person physically spiritually and emotionally.but i dont think marrage is for me i like my inderpendance and the feeling of not being tyed down by any one. so many of my friend are getting maried early on into there twenties and im thinking hold on why dont u try having a life first

It's not necessary, especially not nowadays.

It is not necessary. I think that when someone gets married they enter a mindset of commitment. I think that divorce rates are up because many people no longer see marriage as a commitment.

Originally posted by draku
I don't think marriage is necessairy, unless the two want to have kids (for the child's sake).
Other than that, I suppose it's the desire for security and commitment.
Marriage, the "official" form of love, doesn't provide the "freedom" of doing everything you want. This can both good and bad for a couple.
Some have a strong sence of security, knowing that their wife/husband is not "supposed", or not "allowed" to leave, as they are officially "stuck" with each other.
On the other hand, some don't realise this aspect until after 5-10 years of marriage. People want their freedom, and that's what usually causes divorce.

Originally posted by Storm
Marry to make your relationship secure is one of the bad reasons to get married. If your relationship isn' t secure before you marry, there' s no reason to think it will be afterwards.

Originally posted by debbiejo
Divorce rate has gone up to pass 50%..............why is that?

I think because people marrying becaues they feel like it is time to and do not think about everything that marriage entails -- it is ashame. People should marry because they are in love and know that they can make a family wiht that other person...

Originally posted by crickey77
I think because people marrying becaues they feel like it is time to and do not think about everything that marriage entails -- it is ashame. People should marry because they are in love and know that they can make a family wiht that other person...

Originally posted by WrathfulDwarf
Marriage is for people who dream about a happy life and drown in wishful thinking hoping for better things.

Wow. That's a little jaded, don't you think, Wrathful Dwarf? But, then again, maybe that's why they call you wrathful...

Originally posted by Fëanor
yet look at Kurt Russell and Goldie Hawn. Neither one are married and yet are very happy and very much in love...with kids. Marriage has become an archaic institution brought upon by religious reasons and moral attitudes.

Just because it works for them doesn't mean it will work for everyone... some people just don't feel like it's... i dunno... for real? until they get married...

Marriage is nessary for the right people. These days people rush into marriage to fast, and divorce is the easy way out. But for others its a life long, joyful experience!