Originally posted by Storm
I don' t think a marriage certificate would make any difference to Fire and I, nor would the dynamics of our relationship change. There is no need to commit to stay in a relationship if the relationship is one of love.
I agree, I don't need a certificate and an extravagant ceremony to prove to someone that I love them unconditionaly. Marriage, IMO, is an outdated "necessity".
Originally posted by Fëanor
yet look at Kurt Russell and Goldie Hawn. Neither one are married and yet are very happy and very much in love...with kids. Marriage has become an archaic institution brought upon by religious reasons and moral attitudes.
While not technically married, that could be considered a commonlaw marriage. There are nations where if a man and woman cohabitate for a certain amount of time they become de facto married.
My view... From a worldy perspective - completely unnecessary. From a religious perspective - Absolutely necessary.
It should be noted that marriages were originally more like commonlaw arrangements. The govt. had nothing to do with it, it was simply a commitment made between 2 families.
I Married for love, that and I was to lazy to play the dating game any longer. Marriage really isn't necessary but its nice to know that its there. Not all people should marry to start with, why get everything lined up only to split 2 months after getting married? Personally I say date a person for as long as you can and if you two have survived each other for so many untold years, you deserve one another.
Originally posted by WickedTexasMomA
I Married for love, that and I was to lazy to play the dating game any longer. Marriage really isn't necessary but its nice to know that its there. Not all people should marry to start with, why get everything lined up only to split 2 months after getting married? Personally I say date a person for as long as you can and if you two have survived each other for so many untold years, you deserve one another.
But even people who are compatible for years end up having failed marriages....
Marriage is an unrealistic dream in my opinion. It seems to come with more baggage than pleasure.
If there's baggage then any relationship is bound to fail sooner or later if common ground isn't reached and there difficulty's cleared up. Marriage isn't easy it takes work and most people don't want to work for anything these days. America has became far to lazy in the last 30+ years and the people, well I hold no hope for most.
Originally posted by WickedTexasMomA
If there's baggage then any relationship is bound to fail sooner or later if common ground isn't reached and there difficulty's cleared up. Marriage isn't easy it takes work and most people don't want to work for anything these days. America has became far to lazy in the last 30+ years and the people, well I hold no hope for most.
Personally I don't wish to get married.
I thnk the strain and stress that comes with marriage, would ruin ANY relationship I have, whether it be with a woman or another man.
Marriages have failed very frequently, and notice that most marriages in this country are heterosexual couple marriages.
Does that mean homosexuals can do it better? No...what it means is that the IDEA of Marriage is JUST AN IDEA..nothing more, nothing less.
People put so much value into something WE CREATED, and we place it in higher value than the value of human lives.
Ne ways,if someone else wants to get married, whether it be a man and woman, two men, two women, or some threesome, i say "whatever...do what makes you happy"
As for me...i DONT need marriage to solidify any relationship i have. If I am in love, I'm in love, and no peice of paper or no social bullshit will have influence on it.
Originally posted by Lord Urizen
Christ ? Don't enforce your God upon me ❌
...she's right though, you can't differentiate between political issues in general and political issues relating to homosexuality....there are people like that, for example one of with one of my friends it always comes down to the legalization of marijuana...it's just weird.
Originally posted by leonheartmm
we have been nrought up to BELIEVE in marriage, relegiously or otherwise. so much so that without it sumthin seems MISSING in a relationship. so its kinda necessary for this generation. however maybe well get rid of it in the coming generations.
No so much, there is a growing social trend of "singlites" or something like that - who exist in a casual environment. A large group of friends, casual relationships that change often - fun and fancy free as it were. Books being written on it. Likewise - higher divorce rates, money matters etc - more people living in defacto relationships for longer or just putting of marriage till they are more "settled" - marriage is a symbol, and in the modern age it is being regulated more and more due to the changing nature of society.
Nothing wrong with that, you want to get married - you should be allowed. You don't want to there should be legal avenues that still protect rights and all that, but people shouldn't feel like they are missing a vital cog and don't fit into the social machine just because they aren't engaged in that which is "wedded bliss" (even if there are more then plenty of cases of it being anything but.
Originally posted by Lord Urizen
Christ ? Don't enforce your God upon me
Bad news. All those rabid dogs the Chinese.... put to sleep got into heaven. There is a danger God could be infected and spread it back to earth if he gets set/enforced on anyone.
Re: Marriage. Is it [I]really[/I] necessary?
Originally posted by Sai1
Aside from the fact that the bride's name will become that of the groom's, does anything really change when people get married? Do two people really need to get married in order to live happily together? Or is this just another human conceived notion that people got used to?
I don't see marriage as being necessary, really.When a man and a woman get married, they are entitled to more benefits than single people/couples. Isn't this discriminating against single people, and those couples who chose not to marry? Only being entitled to certain legal rights when you marry sounds a little unfair to those who eithor chose not to be married, or who are unable to be married because their Government forbids them.
Just thought I'd raise the point-any thoughts?