Lets talk about relationships...

Why do I get screwed over everytime I'm in one?

My two closest friends are in the most sh*ttiest of relationships. They both constantly fight with their girlfriends, their girlfriends lie to them and they lie to their girlfriends, yet they stay together and are happy like nothing is wrong.

I consider myself one of the nicest guys in the world. Each girlfriend I've had, I've shown them that I really like them and want to be with them, but in the end they always lie to me and end up dumping me. (I've never dumped any girlfriend I've had, that might be bad but I don't like to hurt people.)

I don't mean to b*tch and moan but recently some people that I've never been mean to or hurt the whole time that I've known them have treated me like sh*t and I just think it might be something I do.

It seems like I'm TOO NICE.

Is it bad to be too nice to people you consider important in your life? 😕

Sometimes friends will do that, it's hard but it depends on how bad they are being. They could just be having a bad day or maybe they are kidding around and don't realize you don't get the joke.

I know how you feel, I do lots of nice things for people in my life and they come to expect it and then take it for granted.

Ah, to be happily single 🙂

Seriously though, your problem is that girls lie ('girls' here meaning high school and college-age women). They 'say' they want nice guys, but they always go for the booze-riddled 'bad boys' who always walk the fence of legality. They only come to us, the nice guys, after they realize that 'bad boys' aren't nice! and they figure out how hypocritical they are.

So the problem isn't that you're too nice, it's that your past girlfriends are too big of morons to realize what a catch they have/had with you.

Originally posted by Strangelove
Ah, to be happily single 🙂

Seriously though, your problem is that girls lie ('girls' here meaning high school and college-age women). They 'say' they want nice guys, but they always go for the booze-riddled 'bad boys' who always walk the fence of legality. They only come to us, the nice guys, after they realize that 'bad boys' [b]aren't nice! and they figure out how hypocritical they are.

So the problem isn't that you're too nice, it's that your past girlfriends are too big of morons to realize what a catch they have/had with you. [/B]

I'm single right now, but I've recently been thinking about my past relationships and I just can't come to the answers as to why I get f*cked over when I do everything I can to make sure we stay together.

Originally posted by Röland
I just can't come to the answers as to why I get f*cked over when I do everything I can to make sure we stay together.

Originally posted by Röland
I'm single right now, but I've recently been thinking about my past relationships and I just can't come to the answers as to why I get f*cked over when I do everything I can to make sure we stay together.

I just want to say a few things about relationships.

If a relationship doesn't look like it's going to work, it's not going to. If you have to work exceedingly hard, and if the relationship frustrates you, then you're in it for the wrong reasons.

A good relationship should make you happy, not overwhelmed.

If a girl dumps you, you shouldn't fret. You should be enlightened. Because only then do you know for sure that your life with that girl wouldn't have been a happy one.

Originally posted by Dusty
I just want to say a few things about relationships.

If a relationship doesn't look like it's going to work, it's not going to. If you have to work hard, and if the relationship frustrates you, then you're in it for the wrong reasons.

A good relationship should make you happy, not overwhelmed.

If a girl dumps you, you shouldn't fret. You should be enlightened. Because only then do you know for sure that your life with that girl wouldn't have been a happy one.

I see what you're saying Dusty but shouldn't relationships require work?

I never felt overwhelmed in any of my relationships. I just like to make the people around me feel like I want them in my life so I do things like buy little gifts or some flowers once a week, once I get to really know them.

I am glad that I am not in a relationship with any of my past girlfriends, I mean for f*cks sake the one used her mom's cancer as an excuse to tell me she wanted to be alone, then the next day I walked in on her with another guy.

I guess I can say that I am a little worried that if I find another girlfriend anytime soon (which may happen, not too sure what's going to happen) that it will be the same sh*t all over again.

Originally posted by Röland
I see what you're saying Dusty but shouldn't relationships require work?

You're right. I edited my post there. "Exceedingly". Meaning, if you're just working and trying to impress, give up. Be yourself, if you impress her that way, you've found a jewel.

Originally posted by Röland
I guess I can say that I am a little worried that if I find another girlfriend anytime soon (which may happen, not too sure what's going to happen) that it will be the same sh*t all over again.

she'll come around

Originally posted by Strangelove
There's a girl at college that I think she and I would be perfect together, we have personalities that really bounce off each other's well, but like I said, she want for the 'bad boy' 🙁

she'll come around

Oh yes she will. If not, she'll regret it in the future.

Originally posted by Dusty
Oh yes she will. If not, she'll regret it in the future.

I mean, we're great friends, and we already kind of act like a couple, even. Gah!

Originally posted by Strangelove
There's a girl at college that I think she and I would be perfect together, we have personalities that really bounce off each other's well, but like I said, she want for the 'bad boy' 🙁

she'll come around

Reminds me of my last girlfriend, I was with her for a year, gave her everything I could, loved her with all my heart, she told me she loved me everyday.

Ended up dumping me for some guy that treated her like shit and cheated on her all the time.

Originally posted by Röland
Reminds me of my last girlfriend, I was with her for a year, gave her everything I could, loved her with all my heart, she told me she loved me everyday.

Ended up dumping me for some guy that treated her like shit and cheated on her all the time.

why are girls so stupid?!?!!

Women are a labyrinth, my friend.

Originally posted by Strangelove
🙄 see, that doesn't even make any sense!!!

why are girls so stupid?!?!!

Yes I was so f*cking confused I was at a loss of words when she dumped me.

I can't answer that question.

Originally posted by Röland
Yes I was so f*cking confused I was at a loss of words when she dumped me.

I can't answer that question.

Originally posted by Strangelove
and women call guys stupid 🙄

That's another point Brendan it seems that it's always the guy who cheats and or f*ck's over the girl.

But in my experience it's the other way around.

Originally posted by Dusty
Women are a labyrinth, my friend.

Originally posted by Röland
That's another point Brendan it seems that it's always the guy who cheats and or f*ck's over the girl.

But in my experience it's the other way around.