First of all, growing old is a privilege denied to many. Anyone who thinks they are guaranteed to live a long life...think again.
Secondly, if you were older (not "old," per se, just considerably past 20), you'd realize that while you may not have the "youthful energy" you once had, knowledge of self and being comfortable with life gets better. Unfortunately, you can't see this at the moment cuz you're currently afflicted with youth. But don't worry: you will likely outgrow it. 😉
Thirdly, if you haven't already seen it, watch the movie Prelude to a Kiss. Both the old man AND the young woman make a good case for the advantages of being old. Or watch the end of Big, when Hank's gf is given the opportunity to "go back."
You seem like u will spen ur 20s worried, which ages a person.
If u marry b/c u are beautiful, as u age, u will worry he will want someone younger and prettier
If u focus on ur character, and not only beautiful things in life, but also, the character of things in life, u will find that the mind is the most important. Many people get cancer, do u think they worry, end up in car accidents, I knew one lady who was so pretty, she never had a care in her life, got into a car wreck, her face was never the same, she is a recluse, she would always talk of the past, her blue eyes and nice skin....and even though she doesn't look that bad, she sure doesn't look as good as she did as no one would from that car accident, and she has aged as time went on, she lives her life in the past. Mainly b/c she didn't have to want for nothing,and people treated her very very well, and she use to tell me that she never knew how entitled she was until after recovering from the accident. I felt so much for her, I understand her pain, as I was overweight and noticed how people change as I gained or lost weight, it's so dramatic, but her situation was a bit much, as it's not easy to replace what she lost and it's effected how she views men. Her personality is still the same, she's still the same wonderful person, but she enjoyed a life that isn't there and that hurts her,and I feel something toward her for this. And my only advice to u is do not focus on beauty too much, u will see that living is more important. Even though this person is a recluse, she still wants to live.
Don't allow a man to worship u for ur looks, b/c looks fad.
Don't allow yourself to worship urself for ur looks, b/c u will be a ***** to be around,and as u grow older, will be that bitter old person know one likes around them.
Know that the generation of today is in better health then ever.
I have a strange story to tell you. I was driving down the road and saw an Asian lady crying her heart out. I stopped the car and asked if she was ok, she didn't stop, I told her that I need to call 911 if someone raped or attacked u, so tell me if this is what u need me to do. She was still crying, and I held her and told her I can't leave unless she can calm down or use my cell to get family to help out. She calmed down a bit, and she told me her husband is with a 19 year old. She kept crying, and said he's spent all their money on her. She kept crying. Although I am not a teen or in my lower twenties, my ex and I broke up, and he married a woman 20 years older then him and I. LOL, that hurt so much. I told her what if she was 49? The lady stopped crying and almost laughed, I said really, what if she was older, does that change what he is doing? She did cry a bit more after that, but the pain in her tears wasn't as intense.
Do not marry a man b/c he thinks u are young and pretty, although this does sooth the ego, it will make u insecure as u age, and if he marries u for beauty, when that beauty falls, and usually it will, he will itch and be angry, wanting that thing that is missing in his life, and will fly away or at least cheat his heart out.
Find a man who loves YOU, so that YOU will be secure in his decision and u will feel normal about aging.
The real issue here is rejection.
ops, i can't edit, i told the lady, if the woman was 49 and not 19, would that be more painful or less painful, does it change the fact that he cheated? that's when she stopped crying as much and seemed to focus on the present.
i know it's cool to be worshipped and entitled and sought after, but if u keep things in perspective, u will enjoy life and have GOOD people around you, people in their 40s, u can tell the ones who use to be really hot, guess how they behave, they don't change, just the skin sags a bit, their character is still the same.
don't be bratty, and dont let a guy worship u for your looks, as looks do change, and when they do, u know the love is gone, b/c he only loved ur looks.
seek deeper meaning in life in urself and ur boyfriends...u'll see aging and life from a different perspective and may even look younger then the ones who seek entitlement and then fear aging so they age more b/c of worry...knowing one day, they won't be as celebrated.
Originally posted by drewbiefan
Oh i appear older a lot when i am actually in person (real life) but when it comes to being over here, i may be completely different😂
Many people that meet me tell me i am definitely older at heart, which i love😄
Maybe it was my error, but I thought you were 16 a few weeks ago (attending university)? Now you're 19? 😱
Originally posted by Oncewhite
You seem like u will spen ur 20s worried, which ages a person.If u marry b/c u are beautiful, as u age, u will worry he will want someone younger and prettier
If u focus on ur character, and not only beautiful things in life, but also, the character of things in life, u will find that the mind is the most important. Many people get cancer, do u think they worry, end up in car accidents, I knew one lady who was so pretty, she never had a care in her life, got into a car wreck, her face was never the same, she is a recluse, she would always talk of the past, her blue eyes and nice skin....and even though she doesn't look that bad, she sure doesn't look as good as she did as no one would from that car accident, and she has aged as time went on, she lives her life in the past. Mainly b/c she didn't have to want for nothing,and people treated her very very well, and she use to tell me that she never knew how entitled she was until after recovering from the accident. I felt so much for her, I understand her pain, as I was overweight and noticed how people change as I gained or lost weight, it's so dramatic, but her situation was a bit much, as it's not easy to replace what she lost and it's effected how she views men. Her personality is still the same, she's still the same wonderful person, but she enjoyed a life that isn't there and that hurts her,and I feel something toward her for this. And my only advice to u is do not focus on beauty too much, u will see that living is more important. Even though this person is a recluse, she still wants to live.
Don't allow a man to worship u for ur looks, b/c looks fad.
Don't allow yourself to worship urself for ur looks, b/c u will be a ***** to be around,and as u grow older, will be that bitter old person know one likes around them.Know that the generation of today is in better health then ever.
I have a strange story to tell you. I was driving down the road and saw an Asian lady crying her heart out. I stopped the car and asked if she was ok, she didn't stop, I told her that I need to call 911 if someone raped or attacked u, so tell me if this is what u need me to do. She was still crying, and I held her and told her I can't leave unless she can calm down or use my cell to get family to help out. She calmed down a bit, and she told me her husband is with a 19 year old. She kept crying, and said he's spent all their money on her. She kept crying. Although I am not a teen or in my lower twenties, my ex and I broke up, and he married a woman 20 years older then him and I. LOL, that hurt so much. I told her what if she was 49? The lady stopped crying and almost laughed, I said really, what if she was older, does that change what he is doing? She did cry a bit more after that, but the pain in her tears wasn't as intense.
Do not marry a man b/c he thinks u are young and pretty, although this does sooth the ego, it will make u insecure as u age, and if he marries u for beauty, when that beauty falls, and usually it will, he will itch and be angry, wanting that thing that is missing in his life, and will fly away or at least cheat his heart out.
Find a man who loves YOU, so that YOU will be secure in his decision and u will feel normal about aging.
The real issue here is rejection.
I'm a male.
And people, it has nothing to do rejection or finding someone to be with.
It's completely about aging and just that. Nothing else.
Originally posted by Rogue JediI can't have babies personally. I'm a male.
not all people end up in homes. some are better off there, especially when they need 24/7 care.
as far as getting old and being afraid of it, come on. you are only 20, too young to worry about that. although i used to feel the same way.
as i watched my grandpa get on in years, he never became "the angry bitter old man." instead, he lived every day to the fullest, savoring every moment. he was just a big kid til the day he died at 90 years old. he knew it was inevitable, so he made the most of his time here. he got cancer twice, and he kicked its arse both times. to this day he is my hero and i miss him alot.
the key is to acept it. dont worry too much about it. have fun while you are here, marry the right guy, have beautiful babies and live each day as if it were your last.
But I'll keep what you submitted in mind.
Anata wa wakarimasu ka.....
Originally posted by InnerRise
I'm a male.And people, it has nothing to do rejection or finding someone to be with.
It's completely about aging and just that. Nothing else.
I can't have babies personally. I'm a male.
But I'll keep what you submitted in mind.
Anata wa wakarimasu ka.....
I disagree. Beauty is associated with youth, and the fear of not looking good is felt in the fear of rejection.
And women, don't date or marry a man b/c he likes only your look or body...as when u age, he will replace u, as that Asian lady felt when she was crying her heart out, I thought she was going to die in her tears, she was at least in her late 40s. Again, if her husband married her just for her youth and beauty, she's over with, and she knew it. That's why he replaced her with a 19 year old.
I think most women know the deal.
And Innerrise, sorry to speak for you, but I doubt you have a pic of a young Asian girl b/c of her personality. It's her youth and what *you* associate with as beauty, it's just that simple, once those two are gone, the fear is in rejection. I doubt you would have a pic of a 40-50 year old woman of any race as an ideal to look at, so, looks is what allows someone to be accepted or rejected. It's about looks and the fear of being rejected as the beauty fades. Period.
Again, don't date or marry a man b/c he rewards you for your looks.
Once again I'm a M-A-L-E.
And yes your'e right...........YOU SHOULDN'T SPEAK FOR ME.
I happen to follow the career of the person in my Avatar and Signature and I'm very fond her whole being, her personality, her little quirks and all of that.
It's not all about the looks as you'd lead people to believe.
I'd appreciate it if you'd just stop attempting to speak for me.
I know where I stand.
anata wa wakarimasu ka.....
Originally posted by InnerRise
Once again I'm a M-A-L-E.And yes your'e right...........YOU SHOULDN'T SPEAK FOR ME.
I happen to follow the career of the person in my Avatar and Signature and I'm very fond her whole being, her personality, her little quirks and all of that.
It's not all about the looks as you'd lead people to believe.
I'd appreciate it if you'd just stop attempting to speak for me.
I know where I stand.
anata wa wakarimasu ka.....
I know you are male, my warning is to females. Again, I have NEVER seen a male honor a woman who is in her 40s-50s AND that wasn't considered "pretty" by current society standards, which means, looks rule, and so does youth...and as the youth fades, so does the appeal, as this is why very few men look "up" to older women as their muse. I don't doubt she is your muse, but if she were older and ugly or just older, I wonder if you would be able to apperciate all those wonderful "qualities" in her personality.
Oh my god.
Well I practically Worship Halle Berry and she'll be 40 this year.
And yes I have had her in my Avatar and Sig.
You need upgrade yourself.
There are plenty of beautiful woman 40 and above.
Once again you speak when you shouldn't.
I have the feeling that the only person you should be speaking for is yourself.
And you seem to have issues against men in general.
Maybe this will bring to light your problems and you can work on those b/c you seem to be venting off a lot in here on things when it isn't necessary with all these warnings to Women about Men and the such.
anata wa wakarimasu ka.....
Originally posted by botankus
Maybe it was my error, but I thought you were 16 a few weeks ago (attending university)? Now you're 19? 😱
sorry you have gotten me wrong. No matter how old you are, you can always appear older. I may only be 14 but i can appear as an 17 year old. Not on paper i know, but people can treat you as thatage and see you as that. My mom and dad treat me like an adult because i act like one the majority of the time.😛
I am not 18/19, though no different to one at all. Surely you must get that? I did not say tht i am 18, i said very alike to one in appearance. Which should be a good thing saying as most younger ones do not seem to grown up ever 😕
Originally posted by soin2calSo you look much older than you really are?
sorry you have gotten me wrong. No matter how old you are, you can always appear older. I may only be 14 but i can appear as an 17 year old. Not on paper i know, but people can treat you as thatage and see you as that. My mom and dad treat me like an adult because i act like one the majority of the time.😛
I am not 18/19, though no different to one at all. Surely you must get that? I did not say tht i am 18, i said very alike to one in appearance. Which should be a good thing saying as most younger ones do not seem to grown up ever 😕
I don't know if you'll like it as much when you start getting much older and you look 30 something when you're really in your early to mid 20s.
Luckily I look much younger than I really am.
Just the other day, I was ID'ed to make sure I was 17 and old enough to make my purchase.
anata wa wakarimasu ka.....
I do not look A LOT older than what i am no😛 but maybe a couple of years older. I know one year can make a lot of difference in a persons maturity, but if you act olderly anyway, you can pass with being just like an older person.
Though i do see what you are saying, i may enjoy being 30, but will soon want to stay younger, like 20s. Being 22 is still young, i can do the same things as a person that age, i probably do not need to waste me life away🙂 I am basically saying that, appearing older is good for me because i am above that level now, of being so immature like most 16-17 yr olds are. For example, swearing in front of little kids, when you are out, or acting so childish. I only act childish in arguments sometimes, which really isnt being very immature😂
Yes i would love to be 20, but i do not realise, i will not stay 20, so i probably show realise that young is better than old😂
Well i would see it as being good if you appear older because you act older. I am not meaning anyone above 18 here. I mean those that are younger than 18, but are seen as no different to an 18 year old😛 There is simply no differences at all between me and my friend which is 18😂
Basically, i am happy that i am not always so immature like most others are around my age. Is that not a good thing😄?
I will not go ito this too much again as people get me wrong😛 But to cut the story short, no one understand what i am meaning. It is nice to be thought proud of because you are very different to most others around your age😄
Oh age is just age, no one cares about it, if you act mature, like anyone, you are seen mature, that is great😄
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