Originally posted by StrangeloveIf you say so.
the smart thing to do is to just sit your parents down, and come out and say it! (no pun intended). It's a waste of time and just plain stupid to try and open a conversation. You know what's a great conversation opener? "Hey, Mom and Dad, I'm gay!" Simple as that.
Seriously
Originally posted by Lord Urizen
I'm not sure how to come out, but I [b]KNOW I have too [/B]
Example:: Hey mom/dad this is Mark, we are lovers and we're gonna get hitched now.
Mom: What!!?
Bob: Well yeah, any problem with that?
Mom: Well damn......I'm gonna die now.
Bob: You don't love me anymore?
Mom: Why didn't I know? Why didn't you say something?
Bob: Mom, you always talk about people like you know them..negative.
Mom: I'm gonna die, wait until your father finds out.!!!..And your cousins and my neighbors for gods sake.....look at what you're doing to this family! Don't you care about us??
Bob:..But Mom....
The different scenarios would be to a new level and not to surprise is all I am saying.
If this is a stereotypical thing... then I am sorry.......I am not meaning too....
BTW, it did sound better in my head............. 🙁
I don't see it that way.........The truth would come out either way, but it is the way that one might want it to come out............This is not a cookie cutter situation.........Words and communication can be like cream on a pie in some instances..........The sense in a scense even to talk what one what may considering the "lay down" first.............
Communication is what this spieces are..............Is a lack of this a good thing.........
BTW, I don''t know about being in these shoes, only that there are similare shoes...............
I'm sorry, some of this sounds like drama, it's funny that the exact thing your parents hate, you are "secretly" desiring behind their back, good thing they don't use the "n" word, or else I would hear u stating, "I just love black hoes, but my mum says..., will kick me out if...yet, I every other thread is about them, and I don't know if I should ever tell them that..." and the drama goes ON.
I know there are parents who are hard azzes, I had one too, and would DREAM about doing the exact opposite just to say "hey, i am in control here", I just wonder how much of this is attention seeking or just sweet revenge on the "taboo" issues your parents hate. Better a parent never shows any difference toward gay or race, and then, may find out if their children do go "that" way, which is probably going to be rare, it'll be b/c of their own desire and not a sweet rebellion.
Originally posted by OncewhiteThere's a huge difference between a girl dating a boy she knows her father wouldn't approve of and a homosexual/bisexual individual who has anti-gay parents.
I'm sorry, some of this sounds like drama, it's funny that the exact thing your parents hate, you are "secretly" desiring behind their back, good thing they don't use the "n" word, or else I would hear u stating, "I just love black hoes, but my mum says..., will kick me out if...yet, I every other thread is about them, and I don't know if I should ever tell them that..." and the drama goes ON.I know there are parents who are hard azzes, I had one too, and would DREAM about doing the exact opposite just to say "hey, i am in control here", I just wonder how much of this is attention seeking or just sweet revenge on the "taboo" issues your parents hate. Better a parent never shows any difference toward gay or race, and then, may find out if their children do go "that" way, which is probably going to be rare, it'll be b/c of their own desire and not a sweet rebellion.
Originally posted by FeceMan
You know, if Urizen's boyfriend broke up with him because he couldn't say "I love you" around Urizen's family, it's likely that he didn't mean it anyway.
Sometimes that's what I think....why couldn't he just wait til I was ready to come out with it ?
WE had fun anyways, and I was at least free in his house to act the way I felt...sometimes I wondor if that was just an excuse to break up with me.....wouldn't be surprised....
Originally posted by Oncewhite
I'm sorry, some of this sounds like drama, it's funny that the exact thing your parents hate, you are "secretly" desiring behind their back, good thing they don't use the "n" word, or else I would hear u stating, "I just love black hoes, but my mum says..., will kick me out if...yet, I every other thread is about them, and I don't know if I should ever tell them that..." and the drama goes ON.I know there are parents who are hard azzes, I had one too, and would DREAM about doing the exact opposite just to say "hey, i am in control here", I just wonder how much of this is attention seeking or just sweet revenge on the "taboo" issues your parents hate. Better a parent never shows any difference toward gay or race, and then, may find out if their children do go "that" way, which is probably going to be rare, it'll be b/c of their own desire and not a sweet rebellion.
Do you know wtf you're even talking about ? 🤨
Originally posted by PVS
imho you should only tell your parents if you've come to the realisation that you actually want to get into a committed relationship with someone of the same sex.
Yeah, that was what was keeping me from telling them in the first place...I used to only date girls, and just f*ck around with guys for fun.
However, I have had strong feelings for other guys, and even though my every attempt at maintaining a same-sex relationship has failed (but then again so have my opposite-sex relationships), I still know that I would love to have a relationship with another guy.
Trust me, if it was just a desire to f*ck around, I wouldn't say shit to them, there'd be no need 2.
But this isn't just about wanting "sexual freedom" as Oncewhite and other Conservatives here may imagine.....Sooner or later, I am going to fall in Love with another guy, and I can't he hiding that shit from the people who are supposed to love me the most.
Originally posted by Adam Poe
A Resource Guide to Coming Out.PDF
Thanks, I'll be sure to check it out