Good Lord, of course not. No-one can tell the future and you would only be cursing yourself for not trying if you had not done so, and IF things go badly- and that is only an if- then if you are both mature and reasonable people you will still have that great friendsship when it is all done.
BUT I am stone cold certain that his viewing of porn is no evidence whatsoever for a decline in your relationship, and in any case if he IS viewing it he probably was when things were great between you two anyway so it's not much of a cause-and-effect link.
The test of your relationships is whether you can share and talk over these things properly. You have concerns? Bring them to him. If it is a healthy relationship he won't think this is unjustified nagging and he would be happy to set your mind at reat. And ask him about the porn as well if it makes you feel better- trust and understanding, yeah? And sharing. I might not think it is a problem but it certainly should not be his dirty little secret that he keeps from you.
You are most CERTAINLY not a fool for having tried your best with a man and for beiong concerned when things don't seem good., But if it is any consolation, no relationship on this planet ever seems like it once was, after some time has passed. That's not necessarily a disaster.
I wish you luck, in any case.
Originally posted by PadmeSkywalkerAre you sure you aren't acting weird towards him because of what you think you know? He might be thinking the same thing.
I don't know but lately he's been weird about talking to me, and its just like he doesn't do things like he once did. Maybe I ruined what coluld have been a great friendship by getting involved...maybe I am a fool
It is your call to leave this behind you or confront him with this. Thats life.
thanks Ush
I am reminded of a song that I heard from the Movie "Get Over It" called "Dream of Me" I used to sing it when we were friends because I really wanted to be with him, but we lived so far away that I didn't think he liked me that way...... one of the lyrics
"I'll hide beneath the clouds, and whisper to the evening star, they tell me love is just a dream away, dream away, dream away....I'll dream away, so let the moon shine softly on the boy I long to see, and maybe when he dreams, he'll dream of....me."
I just thought I had it right for once, I mean, when I'm with him, everything is right
Like every question that everyone thinks needs an answer doesn't, everything wrong, finally seems to go right, and things that don't make sense finally do....
He's the only person after my mom died that really cared enough to keep me from committing suicide.....he made sure I knew I was loved, and now I just don't feel it..... 🙁
You'll be surprised how many of us have felt that way over time.
If it really has gone, then you will find it again. Until then you will have to endure, but mayhaps you will find yourself better at that than you think.
I can't make unpleasantness disappear with a few words but I can assure you that the most harsh of times can be lived through, and something found the other end.