OH GNOES!!!!! TEH PRONZ!!!11!!
Anyway...back on topic.
Get married...stop flirting...and be self motivated to work and then your problems are solved.
That is the boat I am in now.
I do not flirt. I do not talk to anyone. I work out just to look good naked for my wife and also so I don't die of crappy health...though the occasional stares in public help reaffirm that I look good. *shy*
Re: Social tagging
Originally posted by Czarina_Czarina
Ok, I have a bit of a situation, wondered what you all think of it.I work out at a gym, and when I do, I get a lot of teasing and flirting with guys, but not b/c I look good, it's because I allow it, and I do because it motivates me to work harder, as I glance their way to see how far they run and stuff like that to increase their motivation as well, so we often feed off of each other.
Having a hard time with some of the females there. Some of the men who do the flirting are married. But, I don't take that kind of que from them as far as anything but.
Have you ever experienced a social tagging that is done via gossip? Not stating that the social tag is necessarily one that is attached to the psyche (like an invisible scarlet letter or something like that)...but one that is done via gossip.
Do you think that kind of stuff works?
Is this something females do to other females, or do men do this kind of stuff to men as well?
Oh, and the females at the gym are great looking, in better shape, but they seem to be very annoyed with any attention I receive, not sure what category they have me in, but it can't be a good one. But even when a better looking female gets the male attention at the gym, I smile at the fact that she's attractive and the guy appreciates her looks.
What do people benefit by reacting to someone this way, I mean if someone doesn't look as good as lady-x does and they get attention, what should she care if she's a happy and content person, knowing full well that most men are after her (outside of the gym)? I just don't get the viciousness.
I don't have female encouragement to exercise and lose weight, so I get it from the males, even if they are being cheeky at times. The females aren't very encouraging and often very much rivaling, as IF, as IF I am some sort of sexual competition, I doubt I am sexual competition, however, I don't mind male encouragement, again, even if it is kinda cheeky or a bit tacky in some ways, it still is something I can work off of to say "keep it up"...I want to work out and get into better shape, but I've noticed, zero help from the females, so again, I get the encouragement I need from males. I don't gossip, nor do I like to encourage it or hurt someone or mock another person, I mind my own business, so I don't get into a lot of "female" groups b/c of the fact that I do love to mind my own business.
Just today, a female gave me a bad look, as if she was trying to look through me, and said something like "fictitious person", but guess what? I don't know her, and she certainly doesn't know me, esp. if she's rec'g any info via gossip. But gossip seems to be the gospel of truth, and seems like a bit of social tagging going on.
I remember the book The Scarlet Letter, and I can recall us having the discussion in class about "what if we could brand a person without having it to be seen by the person, like an invisible mark so that everyone who looks at the person can see it". I use to think about that conversation and wonder who this "invisible" mark was to take place, via gossip? psyche (like a mark in their energy)?
paraphrase please. I would really like to know what your talking about, but am to lazy to read all of that
Originally posted by dadudemon
OH GNOES!!!!! TEH PRONZ!!!11!!Anyway...back on topic.
Get married...stop flirting...and be self motivated to work and then your problems are solved.That is the boat I am in now.
I do not flirt. I do not talk to anyone. I work out just to look good naked for my wife and also so I don't die of crappy health...though the occasional stares in public help reaffirm that I look good. *shy*
Let me guess, you haven't been married very long?
Originally posted by dadudemon
Are you trying to say that you could tell that we still get it on like there's no tomorrow based on my post? you see...I don't get how you derrived that. 😕
One's residence need not be 221B Baker Street street, to deduce that this:
"I do not flirt. I do not talk to anyone. I work out just to look good naked for my wife..."
means, "I'm still going through the honeymoon stage"
Originally posted by dadudemon
OH GNOES!!!!! TEH PRONZ!!!11!!Anyway...back on topic.
Get married...stop flirting...and be self motivated to work and then your problems are solved.That is the boat I am in now.
I do not flirt. I do not talk to anyone. I work out just to look good naked for my wife and also so I don't die of crappy health...though the occasional stares in public help reaffirm that I look good. *shy*
Well, that's a boring life.