Originally posted by Mr. Sandman
This thread smells like sex and jealousy.
right, if someone would have told me how competitive other females are (maybe in different states, i don't know, in FL, everyone was more laid back)...if someone would have told me what I am telling you, I wouldn't have believed it, the jealousy, the sexual competition and the rivalry, it just wouldn't seem so b/c I would have been too naive to know...
Re: Social tagging
Originally posted by Czarina_Czarina
Ok, I have a bit of a situation, wondered what you all think of it.I work out at a gym, and when I do, I get a lot of teasing and flirting with guys, but not b/c I look good, it's because I allow it, and I do because it motivates me to work harder, as I glance their way to see how far they run and stuff like that to increase their motivation as well, so we often feed off of each other.
Having a hard time with some of the females there. Some of the men who do the flirting are married. But, I don't take that kind of que from them as far as anything but.
Have you ever experienced a social tagging that is done via gossip? Not stating that the social tag is necessarily one that is attached to the psyche (like an invisible scarlet letter or something like that)...but one that is done via gossip.
Do you think that kind of stuff works?
Is this something females do to other females, or do men do this kind of stuff to men as well?
Oh, and the females at the gym are great looking, in better shape, but they seem to be very annoyed with any attention I receive, not sure what category they have me in, but it can't be a good one. But even when a better looking female gets the male attention at the gym, I smile at the fact that she's attractive and the guy appreciates her looks.
What do people benefit by reacting to someone this way, I mean if someone doesn't look as good as lady-x does and they get attention, what should she care if she's a happy and content person, knowing full well that most men are after her (outside of the gym)? I just don't get the viciousness.
I don't have female encouragement to exercise and lose weight, so I get it from the males, even if they are being cheeky at times. The females aren't very encouraging and often very much rivaling, as IF, as IF I am some sort of sexual competition, I doubt I am sexual competition, however, I don't mind male encouragement, again, even if it is kinda cheeky or a bit tacky in some ways, it still is something I can work off of to say "keep it up"...I want to work out and get into better shape, but I've noticed, zero help from the females, so again, I get the encouragement I need from males. I don't gossip, nor do I like to encourage it or hurt someone or mock another person, I mind my own business, so I don't get into a lot of "female" groups b/c of the fact that I do love to mind my own business.
Just today, a female gave me a bad look, as if she was trying to look through me, and said something like "fictitious person", but guess what? I don't know her, and she certainly doesn't know me, esp. if she's rec'g any info via gossip. But gossip seems to be the gospel of truth, and seems like a bit of social tagging going on.
I remember the book The Scarlet Letter, and I can recall us having the discussion in class about "what if we could brand a person without having it to be seen by the person, like an invisible mark so that everyone who looks at the person can see it". I use to think about that conversation and wonder who this "invisible" mark was to take place,
via gossip? psyche (like a mark in their energy)?
It can sometimes but I d o'nt think so.It could lead to trouble.I use to like when guys would pay attention to me and go on losing weight becaue of it.
It turn out to be a promblem after that.(I no longer have that promblem)but most of the guys that I work with treat girls like whores speically the younger ones and it makes me sick everytime I see that happening.
I have a loving husband to be so I agnore them if they do that to me.Which they don't thank goodies.But I am sick of guys doing that to girls.and the girls at my job allowing it.
What are we stupid?jm 😠
Re: Re: Social tagging
Originally posted by ADarksideJedi
It can sometimes but I d o'nt think so.It could lead to trouble.I use to like when guys would pay attention to me and go on losing weight becaue of it.
It turn out to be a promblem after that.(I no longer have that promblem)but most of the guys that I work with treat girls like whores speically the younger ones and it makes me sick everytime I see that happening.
I have a loving husband to be so I agnore them if they do that to me.Which they don't thank goodies.But I am sick of guys doing that to girls.and the girls at my job allowing it.
What are we stupid?jm 😠
thanks.
i know there are dishearting men out there.
some women are that way too. two different stories of how women can be very disrespectful to other women b/c of fear of competition.
i have at least 2-3 experiences with a person who turned too competitive and negative way too soon (one person is the roommate I have right now, the one baking cake EVERY DAY b/c she realized that was my weakness, she literally baked it every day, sometimes, every other day, and slowly stopped as she saw me buying cake and eating it), and tried to create the exact opposite effect in losing weight, unfortunately, she wasn't the only one. i had another "friend" like that in college, i liked her b/c she was very smart, but she was very overwieght. i enjoyed her company ALOT, and guess what our life revolved around? FOOD. SHE ASKED ME WHY DO GUYS NOTICE ME, i don't know, and she said i had an effect on men, i told her i was on a diet, and EVERY DAY, SHE MADE SURE WE HUNG OUT, AND EVERY DAY IT WAS FOOD FOOD FOOD FOOD FOOD. Until I started gaining weight, then, once the attention slowed down, she wanted us to workout together, I didnt' realize her tricks until after I gained the weight. she introduced me to this guy, and he told me, in front of her face, that this person is EVIL and stay away from her. I felt so badly for her and I didn't listen, I wish I would have. She did one other thing that was nasty. See, she liked or claimed she liked white guys, and was asking "me" how to date one, as if I would know how to date any guy, as I wasn't dating. Well, there was a guy interested in me, and I never knew it, and guess who was playing interferance? she was. she was at least 270lbs, btw. she was somehow able to get people to be her pawn, and i was slow to see what she was doing with me. (but once i realized it, i backed away very fast). she invited that guy over to a bar we were all going to, but she was so confident that she had everyone in her control, she told me that the reason why she wanted me to invite him was b/c he would go (and he is an alcoholic, but one of the best engineering grad students there), she was sooo confident that i would be her pawn. i told him exactly what she said and that she felt that he would only show up if i was there, he said that was true, and i asked him not to come. she was such a witch. so yeah, fat doesn't mean innocent, it doesn't mean witch neither, but just watch your tongue around evil people.
and about this current roommate, she doesn't want me to move out, but I want out like a bat out of hell. every time I was too tired too work out, my roommate would ask me if I was going to work out, and when I told her I wasn't b/c I was too tired, she would say "GOOD". One day, I finally asked her, 'why is it good when i don't work out?', and she said, 'i dont know, it's just good'.
btw, the college friend of mine, she entering a Ph.d. program in Optics she was only 22 entering the phd program, passed through Electrical Engineering faster then most, and finished her masters in no time. that's what i meant by her being very smart. she was also a master manipulator, that part i didn't like.