I don't look down on people for divorce(s), simply b/c of the fact that some marriages are arranged and are done just for show, and once they get bored and realize it's a farce, they part ways and look for something meaningful, but whatever the reason, it's their life.
My own personal life: the guy I fell in love with, he's married, but I fell in love with him before he married. He told me his marriage was arranged, funny b/c his wife's median name is the same as the name of a Hispanic (Cuban) guy who also had an arranged marriage from that family name. Well, she cheated on him several times, and he's come close, at least with me, and who knows whomever else. It's sad to arrange marriages that way, but it works in certain circumstances. I just can't see why they put on a mock kkk bully tactic on me, when both the wife and I are technically Hispanic (and it doesn't matter if you are mixed Asian, black or Indian or all three, and look more so black, Hispanic is Hispanic). Either way, it's a strange place in Alexandria VA. Oh, and my ex-boss who is also married had a crush on me, and he wanted to "control" me into his world, I wasn't interested, so he made my interest in that guy a racial one. The guy I am in love with, he was run out of town.
And it can't be solely about IR, b/c people who look more so black have been mixing with whites and others since I don't know when, and plenty of black men LOVE white women, so what's the biggie. And again, even since Fredrick Douglas, during a time of racial segregation, he had a white wife, so no one can tell me it's solely about race.
My dad was in an arranged marriage, he wanted to be in politics and married a woman from a political family, so it was all arranged. She was pretty and social, but he didn't love HER, but he did love her looks and social command. He didn't go far in politics b/c he wasn't controllable, and he soon realized that if he was to go as far as he wanted to in politics, he would have married someone from a "higher" branch of my mom's family. They divorced.
So, yeah, I'm not against divorce, nor do I judge people for doing so, and I don't judge people for affairs, esp. if outsiders controlled their marriage. I can dictate to someone who to marry, but I am not the one who has to sleep with that person every night, and what seem socially cute in public may not be so attractive behind closed doors. So, no, I don't judge divorce.
And I pray to God if anyone had their hands in my business get's exactly the same social punishment, bullying and embarrassment that I experienced, just b/c they loved the “wrong” person. If they are socially arranging marriages and couples and trying to do this outside of our awareness, maybe they should stop and try to work on their own marriages or life and they would be much happier and so would the others they are trying to control or capture.
and yes, this is my cry for help, as I don't like the way I was being treated these three years.
Originally posted by Czarina_Czarina
I don't look down on people for divorce(s), simply b/c of the fact that some marriages are arranged and are done just for show, and once they get bored and realize it's a farce, they part ways and look for something meaningful, but whatever the reason, it's their life.My own personal life: the guy I fell in love with, he's married, but I fell in love with him before he married. He told me his marriage was arranged, funny b/c his wife's median name is the same as the name of a Hispanic (Cuban) guy who also had an arranged marriage from that family name. Well, she cheated on him several times, and he's come close, at least with me, and who knows whomever else. It's sad to arrange marriages that way, but it works in certain circumstances. I just can't see why they put on a mock kkk bully tactic on me, when both the wife and I are technically Hispanic (and it doesn't matter if you are mixed Asian, black or Indian or all three, and look more so black, Hispanic is Hispanic). Either way, it's a strange place in Alexandria VA. Oh, and my ex-boss who is also married had a crush on me, and he wanted to "control" me into his world, I wasn't interested, so he made my interest in that guy a racial one. The guy I am in love with, he was run out of town.
And it can't be solely about IR, b/c people who look more so black have been mixing with whites and others since I don't know when, and plenty of black men LOVE white women, so what's the biggie. And again, even since Fredrick Douglas, during a time of racial segregation, he had a white wife, so no one can tell me it's solely about race.
My dad was in an arranged marriage, he wanted to be in politics and married a woman from a political family, so it was all arranged. She was pretty and social, but he didn't love HER, but he did love her looks and social command. He didn't go far in politics b/c he wasn't controllable, and he soon realized that if he was to go as far as he wanted to in politics, he would have married someone from a "higher" branch of my mom's family. They divorced.
So, yeah, I'm not against divorce, nor do I judge people for doing so, and I don't judge people for affairs, esp. if outsiders controlled their marriage. I can dictate to someone who to marry, but I am not the one who has to sleep with that person every night, and what seem socially cute in public may not be so attractive behind closed doors. So, no, I don't judge divorce.
And I pray to God if anyone had their hands in my business get's exactly the same social punishment, bullying and embarrassment that I experienced, just b/c they loved the “wrong” person. If they are socially arranging marriages and couples and trying to do this outside of our awareness, maybe they should stop and try to work on their own marriages or life and they would be much happier and so would the others they are trying to control or capture.
and yes, this is my cry for help, as I don't like the way I was being treated these three years.
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