need major advise for complex situation.
i ran into an old hs crush a few months ago and we exchanged numbers. i wanna ask her out but tragedy struck her hard yesterday. her 1 year old child's dad was killed. she called me lastnight and we talked for 2 or 3 hours i believe. my question is how long do i wait till i can ask her out? i never met her baby's daddy but the two seperated back in jan of this year. this isnt a hit it or quit it thing im looking for a relationship with this woman
I agree with Bacon, him being clearly the most sensitive guy here. In fact, clearly the most polite, sane and decent guy too.
Anyway, just be there for her. Sounds like something would have blossomed between you two anyway, even if her ex hadn't been killed. It's not the tragedy that's brought you together, you'd already made that step towards building something. So there's no need to hurry things along 🙂
Originally posted by Syren
I agree with Bacon, him being clearly the most sensitive guy here. In fact, clearly the most polite, sane and decent guy too.Anyway, just be there for her. Sounds like something would have blossomed between you two anyway, even if her ex hadn't been killed. It's not the tragedy that's brought you together, you'd already made that step towards building something. So there's no need to hurry things along 🙂
i know that. but i feel kinda bad for even thinking of this wile this situation happened. i may seem rough alot around the forums but i do have a big soft spot no one see's. but the truth is i told her that if she needed anything she has my number. and the way her ex was killed was disgusting. some guy argued with him and he was killed with a steel pipe to the heart. this girl never crys and when i heard her cry lastnight it made me worry.
Re: need major advise for complex situation.
Originally posted by PiruBloodTime. Wait, and since she knows you like her, she'll come to you when she's ready.
i ran into an old hs crush a few months ago and we exchanged numbers. i wanna ask her out but tragedy struck her hard yesterday. her 1 year old child's dad was killed. she called me lastnight and we talked for 2 or 3 hours i believe. my question is how long do i wait till i can ask her out? i never met her baby's daddy but the two seperated back in jan of this year. this isnt a hit it or quit it thing im looking for a relationship with this woman
Originally posted by PiruBlood
i know that. but i feel kinda bad for even thinking of this wile this situation happened. i may seem rough alot around the forums but i do have a big soft spot no one see's. but the truth is i told her that if she needed anything she has my number. and the way her ex was killed was disgusting. some guy argued with him and he was killed with a steel pipe to the heart. this girl never crys and when i heard her cry lastnight it made me worry.
But you were already moving towards something with her, before any of this happened. Yeah, it's a spanner in the works but if something does happen between you it won't be a rebound and you won't be taking advantage of her, there's already something there between you 🙂
Originally posted by dadudemon
Yeah, dude. Try to be really nice to her. Are you willing to become the baby's daddy? If you are, you have already won her heart. Like you probably realize, sex isn't everything in a relationship.
listen man i hung out with this girl a few times with her kid. to be honest i feel comfortable in that setting. yea i may be 22 and she may be 23 but she knows because i told her lastnight if she needs money or help with bills i told her i got her covered.
Originally posted by PiruBlood
listen man i hung out with this girl a few times with her kid. to be honest i feel comfortable in that setting. yea i may be 22 and she may be 23 but she knows because i told her lastnight if she needs money or help with bills i told her i got her covered.
Sweet, you're practical at least. Sounds like this girl has respect for you too, if she knows you're willing to help her and she's not taking advantage.
What's stressing you out the most? That you might be taking advantage of her in a delicate state?
Originally posted by Syren
Sweet, you're practical at least. Sounds like this girl has respect for you too, if she knows you're willing to help her and she's not taking advantage.What's stressing you out the most? That you might be taking advantage of her in a delicate state?
the thing im stressed out about is we talked for 2 to 3 hours and i kept thinking should i ask her right there? it makes me feel guilty to think like that at that moment you know?