Re: need major advise for complex situation.
Originally posted by PiruBlood
i ran into an old hs crush a few months ago and we exchanged numbers. i wanna ask her out but tragedy struck her hard yesterday. her 1 year old child's dad was killed. she called me lastnight and we talked for 2 or 3 hours i believe. my question is how long do i wait till i can ask her out? i never met her baby's daddy but the two seperated back in jan of this year. this isnt a hit it or quit it thing im looking for a relationship with this woman
I think it is appropriate to ask her to dinner, specifying-"As a friend just to talk" anytime--NOW is fine. If she isn't quite "ready" say "I understand, I just thought you might need someone to taalk to,--I'll call again in a few weeks if that is O.K."
I am female, if it happened to me, I would want to have a dinner with no strings with an old friend or aquaintance from HS in such circumstances. Good Luck! 🙂
Everyone seems to be thinking of it tactically, which seems to me to be rather inconsiderate.
It's not about getting the lass into bed, you should actually be worried about how she's feeling, not play acting that you are.
Do what you think you should do, actually think about it. Don't go by other peoples, tired old game plans.
Originally posted by chillmeistergen
Everyone seems to be thinking of it tactically, which seems to me to be rather inconsiderate.It's not about getting the lass into bed, you should actually be worried about how she's feeling, not play acting that you are.
Do what you think you should do, actually think about it. Don't go by other peoples, tired old game plans.
You so romantic! cry
Anyway, dude, read over my post again. I think I was the opposite of the thing you protest.
Anyway Piru,
My wife had a 1 and a half year old son when we started dating when I was also 22. I wasn't looking for sex, I was looking for a companion, a mate, a sweety pie. I found her. 😄 inlove
She later told me that thing that won her over so quickly was how super fast I warmed up to her son and how fast her son warmed up to me. She said that she fell in love with the man that could be her baby's daddy. (She didn't put it like that, lol, but it is just much faster to say it that way.)