I found that if anything the docs didnt really help me in any way.
They just asked lot of silly questions and the one that pissed me off the most was "...and how does that make you feel?"
my answer: "HOW THE **** DO YOU THINK IT MAKES ME FEEL!!??????"
another thing that doesnt really help is they make you think about issues that you really dont want to and then they try and make you analyse yourself, that kinda where I drew the line in my talk therapy.
I've learnt that the things you often want to change are the things you refuse to accept because you know deep down that you cant change them but it doesnt stop you trying.
once I finally realised and acknowledged the things i couldnt change things were increadably different for me.
but as we go through life we encounter new issues that we have the same age old problems with and they trip us up every time.
lepoards never change their spots, only their game tactics.
stuff affects me in so many different ways now that I have to seriously contemplate stuff to actually think of what the best way to react is. which is hard work in itself 😂
I'm actually at a loss about what to do, about the depressive spells I go through. The main trouble is, I have no idea what causes them, I just know that I'm completely and utterly miserable.
Another problem is that old thing of forgetting what I felt like before, it's horrible because there is no visible beginning to the feelings and no foreseeable end.
Originally posted by Lara
I found that if anything the docs didnt really help me in any way.
They just asked lot of silly questions and the one that pissed me off the most was "...and how does that make you feel?"my answer: "HOW THE **** DO YOU THINK IT MAKES ME FEEL!!??????"
another thing that doesnt really help is they make you think about issues that you really dont want to and then they try and make you analyse yourself, that kinda where I drew the line in my talk therapy.
I've learnt that the things you often want to change are the things you refuse to accept because you know deep down that you cant change them but it doesnt stop you trying.
once I finally realised and acknowledged the things i couldnt change things were increadably different for me.
but as we go through life we encounter new issues that we have the same age old problems with and they trip us up every time.
lepoards never change their spots, only their game tactics.
stuff affects me in so many different ways now that I have to seriously contemplate stuff to actually think of what the best way to react is. which is hard work in itself 😂
I have no respect for shrinks. Psychology isn't even a real medicine practise.
Dentists are doctors, neurologists are doctors, podiatrists are doctors, orthopedic surgeons are doctors, OBGYN's are doctors......some guy who charges 80 bucks an hour to listen to someone complain about how much their life sucks only to give his opinion is not a doctor. I could do that!
Originally posted by chillmeistergen
They do more than that, they prescribe medication based on their diagnosis. That's why they have to be medically qualified. That's the difference between a psychiatrist and a counsellor.
I know they also occasionally prescribe pills, they also sometimes recommend working out. I've been to shrinks before, ey. Once I was "advised" to meditate ( 🤨 ). They prescribe an upper that works for a few hours but does nothing in the long run except cause you to possibly form an addiction. They don't cure nada.
Meditation is the best for me.
My mind tends to be cluttered with thoughts, good and bad, but which ultamately stress me out. At first meditation seemed like a waste of time, because I was just sitting there breathing, getting bored.
But then I realized that I didn't understand the practice. The point is to quiet your mind, to train your mind to not think.
I learned to manipulate my own emotions, and to stay in a good mood no matter what the circumstance. Ofcourse, I couldn't be numb to a tragedy, but I don't ever get depressed.
I haven't gotten Depressed in over a year. That's a good thing ! And my stress level is way lower than it ever was, even though I'm ALWAYS busy with school and work.
Despite not having weekends, I'm never really stressed out. And whenever I find myself getting to that point where my mind loses peace, I make myself chill out.
I never thought you could learn how to "choose" your emotions, but I did. The basic emotional mood, atleast.
Originally posted by leonheartmm
soooo, u cud "choose" ur emotion even when the girl of ur dreams is telling you that she is engaged so sum1 else??
I'm Gay 😬
Originally posted by leonheartmm
cause it doesnt seem to be working for me.
Well, you can do one of two things:
1) You can dwell on the loss, continue feeling sorry for yourself, fuel the attachment and torture yourself by clinging to a girl you can't have.
OR
2) Realize that she has already made her decision, wish her the best, wish for her happiness, and move on.
Understand that it is only your attachment to her that is leading you to suffer. I made a decision a long time ago: I will never suffer over anyone who doesn't suffer over me. Put in short, If someone doesn't care for me, or isn't dedicated to me, then why should I dedicate to them ?
That suffering would be pointless.
Have you already spoken to her ? Is she certain that she made the right choice ? Is she even interested in you ?
If she made it clear that she had no plans to be with you, then you are wasting your time, and your further suffering is your own fault. You need to learn how to LET GO. There are practices you can perform to mentally train yourself to let go of such unnecessary attachments.
I look back now....in the year of 2004, I had a heartbreak which lasted until 2006. At the time, it was meaningful. I was in pain, so hurt, and very attached. I was in Love, and my pain came from the lack of response for that love.
Now I look back and realize what a total waste all that was. I wasted two years feeling sorry for myself, stunting my emotional growth, and ruining freindships and oppurtunities that could have benefitted me.
And for who ? Someone who didn't give a crap about me, and probably never will... 😬
Come on bro...you gotta balance emotion and reason. You can learn how to do so.
oh i feal like shooting you right now kali!!!!! 😠 😒
but there is sum truth to what you say. {ofcourse ill never take ur advice.. the way i am} but u have point{albeit a slightly incomplete one from sum rare perspectives} 🙂
{n im sure u got what i was saying. guy or girl, love is involved, as is engagement to sum1 who isnt u, n suffering}
Originally posted by leonheartmm
oh i feal like shooting you right now kali!!!!! 😠 😒but there is sum truth to what you say. {ofcourse ill never take ur advice.. the way i am} but u have point{albeit a slightly incomplete one from sum rare perspectives} 🙂
{n im sure u got what i was saying. guy or girl, love is involved, as is engagement to sum1 who isnt u, n suffering}
I know what Heartbreak is like, I've had 3 major heartbreaks already, in only the past 4 years.
And yes, Love which is not returned can be very painful...but I beleive that is only the case with an untrained mind.
You can have nearly everything in this life, but the one thing you cannot do is control another person. You can't make someone love you, no matter how hard you try. Thier mind, thier feelings, are thier own, and not yours to decide.
Just understand that. As long as you realize that it is your attachment will is causing you pain, over time you will learn how to cope.
However, if you fall into the whole "ohhh..my life is over, we were meant to be, now my life is meaningless" mentality, then you will suffer...greatly and unneededly.
Originally posted by chillmeistergen
I'm actually at a loss about what to do, about the depressive spells I go through. The main trouble is, I have no idea what causes them, I just know that I'm completely and utterly miserable.Another problem is that old thing of forgetting what I felt like before, it's horrible because there is no visible beginning to the feelings and no foreseeable end.
Like you, alot of the time I have no "apparent" cause for my episodes.
Also again like you I find that my episodes creep up on me and I dont realise my dilema until it is well and truely set upon me and yes it does seem endless. But I suffer from a see-saw mood disorder. lol so I get hte super lows and the super highs too which other ppl find very very very annoying.
Not to mention a sex drive which has a mind of its own and frequently goes into over-ride. lol