how do you deal with mental pain/depression?

Originally posted by leonheartmm
simple. how do you personally deal with mentalpain or depression. how well do you deal and what are the causative factors for it{in ur case/oppinion}.

Do something you enjoy. Go for a walk, as it is well known that exercise does help - it makes you feel refreshed. Go and see friends, visit places you've always wanted to, but haven't had time.

Do things you enjoy doing. The worst thing you can do, when depressed, is sit around and do nothing, as this will make you think more depressing thoughts.

Also, keep a diary. It may be hard to talk about your feelings to a real person, so tell them a diary. Trust me, this one helps.

I am sorry if you are feeling depressed lately, I know all too well what that feels like. I hope you feel better soon. 🙂

Originally posted by Lara
Like you, alot of the time I have no "apparent" cause for my episodes.
Also again like you I find that my episodes creep up on me and I dont realise my dilema until it is well and truely set upon me and yes it does seem endless. But I suffer from a see-saw mood disorder. lol so I get hte super lows and the super highs too which other ppl find very very very annoying.
Not to mention a sex drive which has a mind of its own and frequently goes into over-ride. lol

I have been following this post and would like to echo what this poster has already said. Depression, while a very real and often dangerous illness, often seems to lack a direct or specific cause that most physical illnesses have. I have been fighting depression for a long time. Even with medication and years spent in therapy do not take it away from you fully if at all.
Not all therapists are bad but most I have met seem to be quite inadequete to actually providing any sound guidance or aid.

In my case a sign of depression is my appetitie or lack thereof. There are mornings when I do not want to eat anything. Too much sleep is another sign. My heart goes out to those who suffer from depression in it;s many forms. It really does.

I actually get the reverse of the sleeping symptom, I'll often stay up all night, all day the next day and all night again.

With depression I find lack of sleep or too much sleep are powerful symptoms to face.

Yeah, if you don't get enough sleep you can really tell the difference on how you view a situation. Seems more negative.

If it's really bad, to the point where I can't help but cry(very rare), I just let it all out to my best friend. I'm so glad I have him.

I don't really care if he has nothing to say to make me feel better, as long as he listens, and is understanding.

I guess we are each other's therapy, we talk about problems every once in a while, we give each other advice, and we end up laughing again by the time the conversation is over. He can always cheer me up, and I hope it's vise versa for him 😊

B-12 helps too.

Usually if I feel hopeless, I will bottle it inside (Yeah, stupid idea) until I burst into tears and someone asks me what's wrong. I just find it really hard to approach someone with my problems, I wait until they ask me. My girlfriend can usually help, and she can tell if there's something wrong before I start crying. But if she's not around, then it can stay locked up inside for days until it gets dealt with. Depending on why I feel helpless, some music can help me feel better. But if it's really bad, I stay up night after night just drawing. Sometimes it helps, but occassionally I'll get carried away and draw some really depressing (or emo, as some people would call it) pictures. I have to hide them from people or else I could get myself into some serious trouble.

Originally posted by MrCampion
I have been following this post and would like to echo what this poster has already said. Depression, while a very real and often dangerous illness, often seems to lack a direct or specific cause that most physical illnesses have. I have been fighting depression for a long time. Even with medication and years spent in therapy do not take it away from you fully if at all.
Not all therapists are bad but most I have met seem to be quite inadequete to actually providing any sound guidance or aid.

In my case a sign of depression is my appetitie or lack thereof. There are mornings when I do not want to eat anything. Too much sleep is another sign. My heart goes out to those who suffer from depression in it;s many forms. It really does.

(Sorry for double post)

When I saw a counsellor (it helped me quite a bit), he said that he wasn't actually guiding me to feeling better, he was walking beside me, watching me do it all on my own and pushing me back onto the path if I strayed. And yes, depression is dangerous. I haven't actually been diagnosed with depression by a doctor/psychologist, but I've witnessed it, and I know it isn't nice.

The worst thing you can do it keep it bottled up inside. It's natural to let everything out. It's like a steam valve. It's lets the pressure out then you can start to feel a bit better. Oh btw councillors can do get helps. If you're leaning a bit to the right or left, you usually don't even realize it. It's nice to have someone that can look at the situation from a unbiased view and say...your thinking is a little off centered and let me tell you why.

Originally posted by Shinde Imasu
Usually if I feel hopeless, I will bottle it inside (Yeah, stupid idea) until I burst into tears and someone asks me what's wrong. I just find it really hard to approach someone with my problems, I wait until they ask me. My girlfriend can usually help, and she can tell if there's something wrong before I start crying. But if she's not around, then it can stay locked up inside for days until it gets dealt with. Depending on why I feel helpless, some music can help me feel better. But if it's really bad, I stay up night after night just drawing. Sometimes it helps, but occassionally I'll get carried away and draw some really depressing (or emo, as some people would call it) pictures. I have to hide them from people or else I could get myself into some serious trouble.

That's quite similar to what happens to me. Though I don't really cry, people start to notice me getting reckless, drinking extremely often etc.

I've sort of given up on trying to approach people for help when I do get depressed, because I can't fully articulate what I'm feeling and I think people find it hard to understand that I don't know what's making me miserable. The staying up night after night thing I do as well, though I'll either sit and do very little, or drink.

Well, I'm only 15, so it's probably not too healthy for me to drink every time I feel depressed, but I guess that is somethine a lot of people do if they feel down. And I know bottling it up inside is bad, but no matter how hard I try, I just can't approach people about my troubles.

Focusing on something bigger than your situation or a larger picture can help you see it through a much larger and different perception.

sometimes letting it out can be just as bad as keeping it all inside.

Ah, yes I know that senario all too well lol
That path led me to panic attacks, vomitting through stress and blackouts (which I will also add are very dangerous because you are very vulnerable at these times and are not aware of anything going on around you!)

I didnt find keeping a diary very helpful because it became a chore for me so instead I wrote what ever was going through my head at the time and it usually took the form of poetry, quite visual and some times explicit poetry.

heres my thread where I posted some of it if anyone is interested:

http://www.killermovies.com/forums/f83/t330335.html

I dont know maybe it'll help some one out lol
but it isnt for the faint hearted and is quite dark.
If you have any questions please feel free to pm me.

Fascinating stuff. It is true to say that most geniuses use their creativity to release themselves from the burden of their inner demons, so to speak.

Originally posted by leonheartmm
simple. how do you personally deal with mentalpain or depression. how well do you deal and what are the causative factors for it{in ur case/oppinion}.

Anata wa wakarimasu ka.....

Originally posted by InnerRise
Pop some pills.

Anata wa wakarimasu ka.....

Something tells me you don't realise how stupid and irresponsible that would be. "Popping pills" doesn't guarentee recovery. It may help sometimes, but that only depends on what's causing the depression. It shouldn't be taken as a way out of the situation. It's only one option, and it may not work.

I'm actually starting to write some music to help get my feelings out. It's helped a lot.

If I feel depressed, I just keep doing what I should be doing, even if I don't see why. Pretty soon I get caught up in the moment and forget all about it, maybe even have a good time.

Anti-depressants don't actually improve your mood they just stop you from going lower so I'd never recommend that.

You should just let your hair down, have a mad night out, or give yourself something to look forward to.

Or go to the gym, cause exercise makes your body release endorphins and that improves your mood.